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Kelli - posted on 12/06/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter is being bullied at school she has lost so much weight that she has dropped 3 pants sizes in three weeks she is in a 1 she was a three and being told that she is fat on a daily basis by girls who are bigger than her but more popular her hair is never good enough. She got so bad this weekend that she wanted to go to a hospital. I took her to the doctor and talked to the school but none of it is making a difference. HELP!


Nikki - posted on 12/06/2011




I would demand that the school does more, or involve the police? How old is she? Honestly at this stage I would pull her out of this school, this behaviour is very detrimental to her health and emotional state. I would get her to speak with a councillor as well.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 12/06/2011




Talk to the school, and get her some help..pull her out of that school and put her in somewhere else. Being bullied can be fatal :-/

Ez - posted on 12/07/2011




I would not hesitate to pull her out of school until things get resolved. Ask for some work to be sent home so she doesn't fall behind.

Why did she want to go to hospital? Because she felt physically sick and weak from losing weight so fast? Or because she wasn't coping emotionally?

You are right to be concerned. Your duty is to protect your daughter, and if that means going head-to-head with the school, do it. If it means switching schools, do it. You must take her concerns seriously (which it sounds like you are).


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Kay - posted on 12/09/2011




I have this problem with my son,although he is in junior school they have done it since year 1. I went to the schools parent governors (they are more understanding as parents) and after 3 years these kids are now easing off. I also got the same as a teen!Tell the school you want your daughter supervised in the meantime so these bullies can't get to her. Maybe someone she can stay with or help between classes. Seems she needs a confidence boost so keep telling her how pretty she looks to remind her the bullies are just jealous. I hope it stops soon,especially as last few years in school are the most important for later life. :)

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Definitely counseling. If being told on makes these girls worse... then appropriate action is not being taken and you may need to go higher up. Bullying can turn fatal and it sounds like your daughter is on a dangerous road already. :(

Is putting her in another school an option? If not, maybe she can take a few 'mental health days' off of school to wait and see what happens on Friday. Let your daughter know that you are w/ her on this and you will not stop until she is feeling safe again.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/07/2011




It might be good to pull her out of school for a week or so, just to let things settle. Especially with a potential "mean girl" actually working at the school, I wonder if you could transfer her to a different school? That's really drastic, especially at 15 years old, but really, could it be worse? It might be much better.

Kelli - posted on 12/07/2011




She is 15 I have a therapist set up and we are looking into legal solutions as well the girls are supposed to be called up Friday my daughter gave the school the names of two others that are being bullied as well this way they will not know who told on them but my gut tells me this will make it worse on all the ones they hurt ,one of the girls moms works there and she will send other students home for there clothes but her daughters clothes are so short you know she is wearing thongs I saw her myself and her rear end.

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