What do you when your 9 year old reaches puberty?


Krista - posted on 06/28/2011




You do the same thing as you would if your child was older. Their age is irrelevant -- if they've hit puberty, then your job is to make sure that they are fully informed about all of the changes taking place in their body.

I've heard really good things about this book: http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Me...

You can look it over together, and answer questions as they come up.

Sheila - posted on 07/08/2013




My daughter is 9 and my son is 11 and I think they are both starting puberty. My daughter has started developing breast. I thought that maybe she was just getting a bit chubby but it is completely apparent that her breast are coming. I just don't know that I am ready for this. I know I don't have a choice but I am just as scared and nervous as I am sure they are.

My son never wants to talk about it. They has a class about the changing body in school and when he came home I asked him about it and he kind of shut down and just said it was weird. Should I worry about his lack of wanting to discuss it or should I not even worry about it? My daughter is oppisite she asks every question in the book. LOL!

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I was around 9 or 10 when I hit puberty. And I really regret people acting like I couldn't be a little kid anymore. I feel like I lost a chunk of my childhood just because I got my period. A 9 year old is still a 9 year old and deserves the chance to be a kid just like everybody else their age. As for the moodiness, if you find something that works for that alert the press because teenagers, women of all ages, pregnant women and menopausal women would all like to know the secret!

JuLeah - posted on 06/28/2011




Puberty is not the only reason a kid her age might be acting out .... I would not assume puberty, but look into why she might be acting out and I'd not assume that acting out is a part of puberty .... moods swings happen, homromes run wild, AND teens learn to control their behavior, are still accountable for their behavior ... good luck

Katie - posted on 06/28/2011




I don't have any daughters, and my boy (soon to be boys) is only 19 months...But I do remember being only a month into 11 years old and being the first out of all of my friends to get my period. My mom was ok with talking to me, but I could have used a lot more support. My hormones were a mess, and I got nasty cramps from the very beginning. I like the idea of getting her a journal, I think that's something that I would have really appreciated when I was that age. Just be open with her, and honest. It happens to all of us, and there is an incredible reason for it. I think that if my mom had known more, and shared more about how monthly cycles work I would have thought of it as something a little more special and a little less embarassing and terrifying...And as far as the mood swings go, I agree that you just have to pick your battles. I am 36 weeks pregnant now and I remember being almost as moody during my pre teen years, but less able to cope with the feelings. All in all just make sure she knows that it's normal and natural and that you are there to talk about anything, anytime...I am sure you'll do the right thing

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Caron - posted on 01/09/2016




I got nine year old daughter she started puberty at age 8 she got breast and hair down below.just got sit down talk to her what I got for my daughter as she was getting a brown discharge was some pads and it have a booklet that she read x

Krista - posted on 06/28/2011




Yeah, it's a tough age ANYWAY, and then to add puberty into the mix...oy.

The mood swings and tantrums are tricky. I remember that age well. My advice would be to help her find a way to channel her emotions -- maybe a private journal, that she can use to vent?

As well, you'll probably want to pick your battles. Don't put up with her being disrespectful, obviously. But, if she's just grumpy or moody, you might want to just leave her be and not get annoyed with her over her moods.

Just try to remember any hormonally-induced moodiness you had while pregnant -- you knew it was irrational to cry over a laundry detergent advertisement, but you just couldn't help it. She's going through the same type of thing, so it helps if you're sympathetic.

Stifler's - posted on 06/28/2011




I agree with Marina, keep it positive and help her feel comfortable with these changes even though other kids her age might not be going through this yet.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/28/2011




Wow, that is young. My sister hit puberty at that age, and i had just turned 11. She has gotten her period, the big shock is already over. I am sure it is more shocking for her than it is for you. Teach her about her body, what is going on, why it is going on, and what we do to keep clean. This is suppose to be a miraculous time for her (even though it sucks) she is gonna follow your lead. Keep it positive.

Zuraihan - posted on 06/28/2011




Hi Krista, thanks for sharing. Perhaps my post has managed to hide the fact that I have yet to recover from this shock. I myself am trying to cope with this change in my daughter. She has demonstrated mood swings and tantrums and is affecting everybody in the family. So my next question is, how do you cope with this?

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