What if my father of my child end up cheating on me and getting someone else pregnant should I stay or go?

Lynn - posted on 12/19/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Well we have been together for 3 years off and on, we have a beautiful 8 month daughter together. I guess sometime in are relationship there was very ruff patch he end up sleeping with someone he knew for some years and end up getting her pregnant. I was obviously very hurt and at the time my daughter was about 3 months. I believe the only reason he told me is that eventually it will come up. I told him that I don't know how I'm going to react until the child is here, I was still pissed and hurt.So we kind of work thing out for our daughter sake, but the baby is here now. I'm feeling hurt and pain all over again by the whole situation. He also claimed that he don't know whether the child is his but it turn out it was his. I feel that he completely shut down emotionally, and that also frustrate me as well. We are contemplating whether we are going to be together anymore and most of it is behind this situation. What should I do, should I stay and work thing out with my daughter father or just let it go.


Jodi - posted on 12/19/2012




Only you can decide that. There are obviously issues with your relationship if this has happened, so it depends on what the REAL issues are. I'd definitely demand counselling to get through it. Personally, if it was me, I'd tell him not to let the door hit him in the arse on the way out, but everyone's relationship is different and everyone handles these situations differently. You have to decide whether you can handle being reminded that he cheated on you every day for the rest of your life (because with a child involved, that's exactly the way it is).

Make sure he gets tested for STI's too......you never know what else he might have brought home.


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Lynn - posted on 12/20/2012




Well that was the only time he did that,and he apologize for what he done several times.He says this all the time that I'm the only one he wants,my daughter and I are never going to be replace, no matter what happens but in a way since that last incident I've lost trust in him in away.I really don't like the situation but I know at the end of the day that's my daughter new sister whether I decide be with him or not. It going to be hard regardless because their children involve, and he is the father of my child. I'm just so confused and hurt right now, I know eventually I will have to decide what I want to do....

Jerina - posted on 12/20/2012




That all depends on how you really feel about the situation. I mean is this the only time he has cheated on you? Do you trust him? I mean he can be a father to your daughter and that can be the relationship you have with him and no more then that. What is it that you want or want from him.?

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