What should i do??

Laura - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a son who is 5 years old..he has a sister who is 7 and a little brother who is 19 months old....the thing that is confusing me is the fact that when i ask him to do something he looks at me with a vague expression on his face and shrinks into him self.. i don't understand why he does it.. i ask him if he's understood what iv'e said and he looks at me blankly.. he can hear perfectly fine as hes been tested... if i ask him to clean his room he will spend about two hours in there and do nothing...his sitter at that age would clean both her room and his room.... one day he spent 6 hours in his room..i would go up every half an hour to check on him to find him sat on the floor holding a toy and doing nothing else but sitting down and holding it...i ask him..''what are you doing'' he would reply with..''i don't know''..i would say ..''what are you meant to be doing''.. he would reply...''i don't know..!!''...
its getting me frustrated and worried as i don't know if hes just being lazy or that..he really doesn't know...
what should i do...iv'e considered taking him to the doctors for tests but our doctors are pants...and i don't know if i'm just being silly... i cant change doctors as we live in Germany as my husband is in the army and basically you get what your given..


Sherri - posted on 05/20/2011




I have 3 boys and one right now who turned 5 this past Saturday. He should be able to follow those simple directions and much more. My son cleans up all his toys, cleans his room, feeds and lets out the dog. All within a matter of minutes. I would definitely get him in to see the doctor something doesn't sound right. Sounds to me and trust me I am no doctor, a bit like autism


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Crystal - posted on 05/20/2011




Ok this sounds like my son... We can not tell him to clean his room and he is 8. What I have to do is go to the room with him and say pick up your cars, then when that is done we tell him to pick up the blocks.

We have to go one by one till the room is done. Yes it takes more time but after 3 years he is getting better. My son is Autistic and I'm told giving broad statements confuse him.

And talk to your doctor about it. The last bit of advice I can give you is to NOT judge one child by what the other can do.

Gwen - posted on 05/20/2011




The only other suggestion I have is to stop comparing him with his sister. Boys and girls mature at very different rates. What a girl, 5, does/understands is probably entirely different than what you'd expect from a 5 year old boy.

User - posted on 05/20/2011




Is he at school yet? Maybe you could talk to his teacher to see if he is like this in school and whether they are concerned. If so the school may be able to refer him to see someone if that is needed and you can bypass your doctor.

Mimi - posted on 05/20/2011




I would talk to the doctor about the situation, without your son present, then let the doctor see him and hopefully make an unbiased diagnosis. Could it possibly be that he may be upset that he is no longer the baby? I would definitely speak with the doctor though, alone, without your son in the room to hear what you are saying, then let the Dr. go from there. Will be praying for you!

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