what to do when baby refuses to lay in his crib

Jasmine - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




my 7 month old recently figured out how to stand in his crib while holding on to the rail. now he won't go to sleep whenever i put him in there and i'm worried about leaving him in the crib because i'm afraid he might fall out. now his sleep schedule (and mine) is all messed up. how do i get him to sleep and has anyone's baby fallen out while standing? or am i being paranoid?


Cinthia - posted on 08/13/2009




Its great that he learned a new trick embrace it... just lower the matress level. As for sleeping there you need to sit next to him and let him know its fine your there.


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Stina - posted on 08/13/2009




If you haven't already, lower the crib mattress so you don't have to worry about him falling out. I really like Heathers counting to five method. Will definitely try that when my 3 month old gets to that stage... We've always had to lay our kids down repeatedly until they stayed laying down.

When he gets to the point of trying to climb out, it'll be time for a toddler bed but you have time still.

Heather - posted on 08/13/2009




My son loved to stand in his crib as soon as he found out he was able to. I counted to five slowly and then lay him down, telling him it was time to sleep. I had to do it a few times before he realized that he needed to stay down. Now, I start to count and he lies himself back down, often before I get to five, and goes to sleep.

Hanna - posted on 08/13/2009




my son isn't standing up yet by himself, but he did get into 'play mode' about 2 months back where he would just lay there and "run" or talk to toys or whatever and just wouldn't go to sleep. finally, i just said enough is enough, turned the lights completely off (turned them on the adjacent bathroom & cracked the door open so that i could still see the shadows/contours, but he wasn't able to see the toys and the drawings on the crib bumper) and surprisingly, he settled down in a matter of 5 minutes. from there on out, that's what i do.

if your child is standing up, just drop the mattress and push the railing all the way up so he won't go anywhere. and you should break the 'i want to stay up and play' cycle before he figures out how to climb out of his crib. the advice about gently holding him down sounds like a great idea and minimize the stimulation -- the less stuff he'll have around him to play with, the faster he'll get bored & tired and will fall asleep. oh and just like when you were teaching him to sleep through the night -- try to keep his daytime naps to a minimum and no naps in the evening so that he's nice and tired, then hot relaxing bath (use lavender soap to relax him even more) and bed time. it should do the trick. good luck!

Tasha - posted on 08/13/2009




i would take a shirt or something that had my scent on it and lay them on it. it works

Arwen - posted on 08/13/2009




My daughter did the same thing come to think of it. Ended up I would lay her down, and put my hand on her back. Rub his back or lightly pat it, or just rest your hand there. Alice would cry a little when she realized she wasn't going to get back up, but the fit would only last a couple minutes, and then she settled down to sleep. I would stay the entire time, though. If you tried, you might have to stand there 15 minutes, maybe just 5. =) I also had a crib toy there that played music, looked like a turtle. I would play that, and most of the time she would watch it and pass out.

I also used that time to teach her "lie down". You can tell him that, and lay him down at the same time. Soon I could pop my head in her room, tell her, and she would automatically lay herself down.

Emily - posted on 08/13/2009




I had a similar situation with one of my twins. They slept in their carseats until 8.5 mo (serious reflux issues and a mom who became dependant on it...don't ask). When I transitioned them into their cribs one of my girls sat up in her crib for hours on end. Two nights and she got the idea. No fussing really just sitting. We just waited it out and it worked itself out by three nights max! This too shall pass :)

Tracy - posted on 08/13/2009




Put your child to bed, sleepy or not, at the SAME TIME EVERY NIGHT. Do not pick your child up (unless it is an emergency of course) or answer when called. Your child will realize you are boss, it is sleep time, and he/she must sleep. Your child will get used to it in a couple of weeks.

Crystal - posted on 08/13/2009




I suggest that u try to wait him out. It may sound silly, but if u put him in his crib, he has to get tired eventually. Once u break the strange sleep cycle, he will prob get a little more scheduled with sleeping in there, & hopefully fight it less when her realizes ur not going to come get him. From my experience, once u have a breakthrough with a sleep-problem, it's usually a solved problem after that. And no, ur not being paranoid about him possibly falling out. It is def a possiblity, and if u werent worried, that would be a bad sign. But rest assured that all babies learn to stand in their cribs eventually, and he will most likely be fine. If u just cant handle the worry, look into one of those video monitors that allows u to see ur baby on a screen in another room. I dont think they're terribly expensive, and will def calm ur nerves. Good luck!

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