What to do with a mother in law who doesnt listen

Stefanie - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am a mom of a 4 month old and the last 2 times I let my mother in law babysit she let her big mean dog around my baby even after I asked her several times not to, when I confronted her about it after the second time she just said "oh the dog loves the baby" I dont really care if the dog likes him or not I dont want to take any chances, so since then I havent let her babysit him but now all she does is ask to watch him that she doesnt get to spend time with him, she is really sweet so I cant be mean but I just cant get through to her what should I do?

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Kimberly - posted on 09/10/2013




I am a mom of a 7 week old baby and my mother in law is babysitting once a week for 2 1/2 hours. She offered to babysit cause Iv gone back to work part time. Iv asked her if it would be ok to watch him at my house all his stuff is there and its 7 minutes from my work and its what I feel comfortable with. She said she would but keeps pushing the issue of taking him to her house and that coming over to my house every time and sitting is just not going to happen for very long and they have a big cat and a dog. I told her maybe when he's older and I don't want him near the cat! So she said she would keep the cat away. and now she wants to take him out with her girlfriends and kids, and take him on hikes in the 100 degree weather. I told her i don't think so and she keeps pushing the issue and even my husband told her i wasn't comfortable with this and she's still wanting to take him out, and not to mention when i call or text her it takes 1-2 hours to respond its not ok with me. and she says to not get my husband involved that i need to speak to her not him. its all very uncomfortable what should i do?

Victoria - posted on 09/18/2009




This is what I would do tell your husband to tell her she can't come to the house with that dog or you will leave like for a walk with the baby your her mother if that doens't work walk right up to her an ask her what she would do if the dog ever did somthing ? you never know so grab your baby an walk away make sure you have the last word an stand you ground!

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I'd be blunt with her. Just tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings, but she can't watch him unless the dog stays away from him. It's your job as a mother to take care of and protect your children. And regardless of what someone else thinks of it, if you don't want the dog around him then she should respect that. You could even tell her you're just more comfortable with people watching him at your house where you know he's safe and all of his stuff is. Hope that helps : )

Tammy - posted on 09/18/2009




You need to stand your ground on his one. This is your child and you are the one that has the say whether or not the dog should be around your child. I would sugest asking her to put the dog in another room of the house while the baby is there. Or if she has a fenced in yard to let the dog run around outside. You are the mom now and no matter what she says about the dog you need to stick with what YOU want for YOUR child. If she will not listen to your request than she can come to your house to see the baby. I hope things work out for you, be strong.

Kim - posted on 09/18/2009




My in laws including my mother in law would do things I asked them not to and then tell me like they knew all about children and treating me like I was stupid. My twins were preemies and could not have water and absolutely not table food. Of course they did it anyway. I basically told them if you can't respect my instruction then they were no aloud to watch the girls....ever! They didn't like but they listened to me. Thank god my husband supported my decision.

Patti - posted on 09/18/2009




Have your husband talk to her and explain. If she wont listen to him then I am totally with you, either the dog is kept away or the child. These precious babies are not worth chancing whether or not a dog will attack. As a new Grandmother, I would totally understand the request that you are making. It is not unreasonable by any sense of the word. Stand your ground, your baby is worth the effort.

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