Whats a good age for a cell phone??

Janet - posted on 01/15/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )




What is a good age for a kid to get a cell phone? My 10 yr. old is asking me for one but I think she is to young. Please Help!!!


Michelle - posted on 01/15/2012




My son has had a phone for the last 2 years he is just turning 11 we bought it for him because he has an hour long bus ride into the city each day to go to school as well as home. We had incidents the year before where his bus was stuck in traffic stuff like that where we were sitting there waiting for him and he was really late so now he just sends me a text to say they are running late or if I need him to get off at a different stop as he has two that he uses depending on if I am working. So I think phones are on an as needed basis if my son didn't have so far to go for school he definitely wouldn't have one yet.

Tara - posted on 01/15/2012




My personal feeling is when they can pay for it themselves :)

That said, I know there are some phones you can get that are super basic - they are locked down completely so the only thing that can be done on them is calls to specific (think emergency or family) contact numbers. If I thought my kids needed something like that for emergencies I would do something like that when they are around the same age as your daughter.

As for phones that have other capabilities (text, internet, etc) I really don't think children need them at all until they are on their own.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2012




Personally, I don't think that kids should have a cell phone until they're old enough to get a job and pay for it themselves. I think it's not a right, it's a responsibility and until they are old enough to understand the true meaning of responsibility they shouldn't have one.

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Jodi - posted on 01/23/2012




My kids were allowed to leave school at lunchtime once they reached grade 6 to either walk home unescorted for lunch or go to the nearby McDonald's or Sandwich shop. At that point they got cel phones. My daughter is in grade 10 now but still does not have access to the internet on her phone ie:no facebooking during school hours!

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Totally depends on the circumstances. I know 6 year old kids w/ good reason to have one.... and teenagers w/ no good reason to have one. When it becomes a need (real or even just perceived) in the FAMILY for a child to have a cell phone... that is the right time.

For our family.... it will be by/before this summer when my twin girls are 10.5. I used to say not until they were driving, but... our life circumstances have changed.

Jodi - posted on 01/23/2012




when your child is going to start walking to or from school alone or even with a friend or two. Mine started going out at lunchtime in grade 6 and that's when they got phones.

Tracy - posted on 01/22/2012




I think this is very individualized to each child and family. My daughter got her first cell phone when she went to Jr. High School (which is 7th grade here)...as much for me as for her. I have to be out of town for work frequently and need to be able to contact her to make plans for after school/evening and I want her to be able to contact me.

Susan - posted on 01/18/2012




Mine got them when they were in CCD class in another city - so it was in middle school. I'd wait in a coffee shop several miles away until it ended, but sometimes they'd let them out early. So they'd need to call me. This started with my son who's 2 years older than my daughter. So it was a need-based decision.

But they were not multimedia phones. My daughter is now 14 and is dying for one and I've told her not yet. My son paid for his multimedia phone with money he earned. He also pays the monthly fee.

Amy - posted on 01/17/2012




I think it varies per child & situation. My son is 8 and he has one, it is a basic phone no internet etc. It is added to our family plan so it is $10 a month. My husband & I both work & he is picked up by someone else from school so we got the phone so he can call us if necassary, also he is on the A honor roll etc so I didn't really mind. He also knows he has to be resposible for it & if he breaks it or loses it he will have to pay to replace it.

Merry - posted on 01/15/2012




Whenever the child will be away from you for long periods of time other then school so like if they get a job at 14 I'd get them a phone, or for sure when they get a drivers liscense.

Before 14 it would have to be a specific situation but id think

A kid that age would need adult supervision at all times so a phone wouldn't be necessary.

So essentially, whenever your child is going to have time where they aren't under adult supervision.

And no Internet.

No texting.

And you could even set it up so they don't have access to call anyone except you and other family members that you set up their numbers for

Jane - posted on 01/15/2012




My kids got cell phones once they were in high school. This is because they were involved in extracurricular activities that extended long past the school day, often to an uncertain time. When the activity was over the office was closed so no phone was available. However, I needed to know when to pick them up. Hence. I got them cell phones at that point. They still lost at least one phone each or had one stolen, but they did need to communicate with me.

I do know folks who have given their younger children cell phones. Usually these are very basic phones that allow calls to and from the parents or a babysitter with no texting or internet access. In the cases when young kids were given regular cell phones they often ended up in trouble or losing the phones.

In my opinion, cell phones fall into the category of the privileges of approaching adulthood, and so I believe high schoolers should get phones on an as-needed basis, with the understanding that excess charges come out to the teen's pocket and that misuse means confiscation.

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