whats good punishment for 9 year old's attitude?

Leanne - posted on 09/14/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




hi all, i am new to this site. i am really struggling with my 9 year old daughter, she isnt really a naughty child and doesnt lie, its just her attitude, i tell her to stop doing somthing she will purposly carry on until i shout and then she gets grounded and her things taken away, i have tried talking to her but it aint working, when she is grounded i say well maybe if you change the attitude why your grounded then maybe you will get your things back early, her reply "whats the point in being good now" and just carries on with the attitude... i also have a 2 year old and i think she is jelous of him, i give up not a clue what to do i have tried everything. any advice welcome x


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Chaya - posted on 09/18/2012




If what you're doing isn't working, try something else, I've been known to spank over inappropriate behaviours, but rarely. If I tell her to stop, I don't mean argue with me. Talk to teachers or pediatrician about what to do. I don't recommend spanking necessarily, it just depends on your logic

Jennifer - posted on 09/17/2012




You might want to check out the book "Magic 1-2-3". It gives great tips for stopping obnoxious behaviors and starting good ones. I've been trying to use it with my daughter who just turned five. The only thing we changed was to count backwards - a tip from our local school district - because there is no where to go after "1". Counting up can easily add numbers if you think the kid is going to maybe think about complying, eventually. It doesn't set clear, hard boundaries.

I hope this helps. I can tell you are really frustrated. It's tough. Hang in there Mom!

Ella - posted on 09/16/2012




There's a very Gud clue in ur question,if she feels that there's no need t b Gud once grounded then how about a time out b4 u go in for the grounding,and explain to her when the time out has finished that grounding comes next so if her behaviour doesn't change after her time out then go in for the kill.somtimes if we go in for serious punishment straight away kids think well I've blown it now so I may as well go the whole hog n be really naughty...hope this helps

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