When did you decide and why? To the SAHM!!

Menadja - posted on 04/04/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




When did you decide to become a SAHM and why? I really want to know if others have felt the way that I feel. I am praying and asking GOD to lead/ guide me to becoming the Mom that I want and need to be. After having my 4th son, I began to feel the call to be at home with my boys. And this is something I said i'd never do, especially coming from my background. But I truly feel that my babies will benefit most from having more of me. This is a step out on Faith that my husband and I are preparing to take. So I just wanted to get some opinions, advice, tips and anything helpful. Thanks!


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Bonnie - posted on 04/05/2011




I was pretty sure I was going to go back to work after maternity leave with my first child until it was about two months before I was scheduled to go back, it was all I could think about and I was getting depressed over it. I just could see myself leaving my child. We also thought of the fact that daycare would likely eat up most of my pay. I have been at SAHM since and I have two children now.

It is a great feeling an accomplishment to be able to stay home with them.

Stephanie - posted on 04/05/2011




I didnt decide I was going to stay at home with my daughter till I saw her for the first time! I had always dreamed of joining the Navy and till the day I had her I was still planning on joining, but I saw her and couldnt leave! I said I was going to stay home the first year of her life and I did, I started a job in late july and worked till Oct when I fell pregnant again! I have decided Im staying home with my daughters and try and take some college classes but not positive on what I wan to do. lol! I went with my gut feeling! Something just told me to stay home with her so I did and I love it!

Amanda - posted on 04/05/2011




I decided before I ever had children, I was a teenager. I was raised in a home with a stay at home mom, and always believed that children should have one parent at home.

Stifler's - posted on 04/05/2011




Before we conceived kids really. It just went without saying, he made about 3 times as much as me at work and daycare here is really expensive if you don't qualify for govt subsidy or whatever it is if you earn too much. I love being home with the kids too and having time for everything instead of rushing off to work and dropping kids off at daycare and packing daycare lunch etc.

tips... make your husband get up on an equal amount of days as you on his days off eg if he has 2 days off he has to get up to the kids and let you sleep in at least one. Don't let staying home with the kids turn you into a housework freak, have more fun than you do cleaning. Don't feel like you can't go out with friends or buy clothes for yourself or look nice anymore because you're not making money, you're still working and you still deserve a break and to be your own person.

Amber - posted on 04/04/2011




We basically decided as soon as we got pregnant.
I never thought I wanted to be a SAHM. I was on the fast track to law school. But things happened...lol. His dad was in med school and already finished with pre-med and was an NP. He was much closer to his degree and I was. Med school, law school, and a baby....no way! That would have been too much for us. And after I was pregnant, I knew that all I wanted to do was be his mom.

I took the first year completely off and did nothing but stay home with our son. After the first year, I went back to college part time. As he's gotten older and has his own activities, I've gone back full time. I'm finishing next month and going back to work.

The best advice I can give you is to make sure that you don't lose your identity as a person. Sometimes, as a SAHM, we get so wrapped up in our kids that we lose touch with friends. Take the time to catch up with friends and give yourself some "me" time. I didn't do that and got burned out. Now, I make sure I get some alone time and it's made me a more patient and productive mom.

Also, make sure that you know exactly what your husband will expect of you when you are home. Will all housework, errands, shopping, carpools, etc..be your sole responsibility? Will it be shared? I see a lot of couples who thought they were on the same page, but weren't. Then they have a hard time trying to find equilibrium in the relationship and duty segregation again.

Being a SAHM is the most exhausting, frustrating, tiring, and never ending job I've ever had. But it is by far the most rewarding and I would do it all over again.

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