When do I tell my kids the truth about the Easter Bunny, Santa, etc.?

Jennifer - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )




When is it appropriate to tell my kids the truth about the Easter Bunny, etc.? Everything I have read says to let them figure it out on their own. There is one problem with that though, my oldest who will be 13 this year and starting middle school in the Fall is Autistic. He will continue to believe forever unless someone tells him the truth and I want to keep him from having to face the cruelty of children when it comes to this kind of thing. Any suggestions?


Elfrieda - posted on 04/18/2011




I don't know what your son is like, but maybe getting him to help "be the Easter Bunny" and hide the younger siblings' eggs will be a good way to get it out and also take the edge off.


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Jennifer - posted on 04/19/2011




Thank you to everyone for all the wonderful advice. It is much appreciated! :)

Jodi - posted on 04/18/2011




I told my son just before he started high school. My concern was that if the topic of conversation came up at school, now that he was in school with much older kids, he may get laughed at. So he was just going on 12 when I told him, but I also told him the history of WHY we have them.. He genuinely still believed. I KNOW he still believed because a few days after our talk, he came up to me and asked "Mum, if you are the Easter Bunny and Santa, does that mean you are the Tooth Fairy too?" I thought that was very sweet.

So yes, in my opinion, at 13, it probably is time to tell him the truth.

Louise - posted on 04/18/2011




I never have and my sons are 20 and 17 and a daughter at 2.5. Part of the magic of Christmas is santa and to take that away from a child is wrong. My kids were taught from a young age that mummy has to buy the present that goes to father christmas so they kept there christmas lists to an affordable amount. I have never confessed about the easter bunny or father christmas and this easter I will still have to hide the eggs because my sons get into the spirit of things and take there little sister on an egg hunt. Of course my sons know the truth and they have done for years but they play along. I think they would be really disappointed if santa did not leave a stocking for them at the end of the bed! lol

Theresa - posted on 04/18/2011




My second son is ASD. He's pretty high functioning. He believed in all those things until this year (6th grade). I never told my kids I just let them figure it out. I used to joke with my husband that when my 2nd child got married we'd have to tell his wife that she has to be Santa because he still believes. If your son is more severe I would gradually start to talk about it and the fact that those things aren't real but that they're a fun thing to believe in when you're young.

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/18/2011




I suggest coming out and telling him,maybe ask your doctor for advice on how too talk to your son,being he is autistic.your right id hate for him to find out at school.Kids dont handle sensitive situations well! ....

Jennifer - posted on 04/18/2011




Thanks Elizabeth. I would normally just let it run its course, but with my oldest I am going to have to come clean. Thanks again!

Liz - posted on 04/18/2011




I don't think there is any one right answer to this, as so much depends on your child himself. Personally, I am a long way from needing to confront this issue, but I think I will probably handle it by waiting for my daughter to ask me about it. I will then answer truthfully, but sensitively.

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