when is a child to old for a whipping/spanking?

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Rabecca - posted on 07/06/2009

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I think that spanking should stop when your child hits puberty. By that time the importance of personal space and private untouchable areas should be stressed strongly. I certainly dont agree that children should never be hit. Thats silly! No wonder we have so many brats running around acting like wild animals! A good spanking every now and then remind the child of just that, YOU are the CHILD. I am in charge of your safety, well being, behavior, and attitude.

Tonya - posted on 07/07/2009

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I feel that we as a society have went from one extreme to another. I do beleive that there is a different between spanking and beating and obviously a beating is out of the question. As for spanking. I feel that there is good that comes out of spanking. Yes, I feel that government should step in when 'beating' is appearant but, I also feel that government has overstepped their boundries and made parents afraid to spank their children therefore leading the out-of-control children with parents at their wits end not knowing what to do and where they went wrong. Obviously, our youth today (not all but an overwhelming lot of them) are unrully and plain rude. We had made the mistake of being totally their friend and avoided being the parent. Raised them as equal to ourselves. I dont feel it was meant to be that way. I think the last time either of my children got a 'spanking' was maybe when they were around 8ish. It was different with the two. My son was more of a physical discipline where my daughter is more an emotional discipline. They threw a fit at a store which was seldom, i swatted the behind put them in the cart and absolutely did NOT give them anything. For me a swat = a spanking. Now, if you're talking bending them over your knee, holding them down and hitting them over and over again? I'd find a different means. And NEVER spank them in anger. Spanking isnt meant to really hurt physically as much as it's meant to get the attention emotionally that how they have behaved is completely unexceptable. Alot of our kids dont know when they have pushed the last button and most time than not its the mouth that has got mine into trouble. Absolutely nothing has worked more than taking away their favorite thing to do. By the time they are school age it's time to find a different way. But, still swatting the fear of god back into them is sometimes neccessary. I used to joke around and tell everyone .... ya should spank em once a month weather they need it or not..... keeps em in line..... of course i was kidding but, boy howdy sometimes i wondered iffin i should have done it lol .... good luck

Katrina - posted on 07/15/2009

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From one extreme to another...there is a happy medium to it all. Never spank them...to...spank them till they know better. I was 15 when I got my last "spanking"(for lying) ... and I think my sister was 19 (for being disrespectful and talking back in the worst kind of way). We were never abused, never beat, never whipped up on. Spanked for correction and it was usually after being corrected at least twice verbally and we for some reason still didn't get it. My dad use to always tell us that as long as we livied in his house...his correction would be heard and his "rules", so to say, would be obeyed. People are always ok with tough love in letting a baby cry the night out to get use to sleeping in their own bed...but not ok with tough love in a spanking...not beating...for a little correction when other types of discipline isn't working.

Claire - posted on 07/29/2009

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A good spanking is the key to a child growing up right! they have to know there is a consquence for them being naughty and disrepaectfull!! but no they are never to old!

Shannon - posted on 07/08/2009

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I am a former teacher, and current principal. I am also the mother of a 21 year old, an 18 month old, and have one on the way. I can tell you two things;



1. Spanking, hitting, whipping, or ANY corporal punishment teaches kids to not get caught; it does not teach them how to make right choices. I see this every single day with kids who are respectful and well behaved in front of adults, but when they are away from grown-up eyes, look out.



2. Corporal punishment teaches kids that hitting is the way to solve problems.



Yes, the Old Testament says not to spare the rod. But seriously, do you think Christ would advocate physically hurting your child? And to those who say teen agers get taken outside for a "beat down"...I am so shocked, I don't even know what to say.

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Charlie - posted on 08/13/2009

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EEEk , ok i cant believe this topic has crept back from the grave .

i will be locking this thread as it is just going around in circles and is no longer a productive debate .

Thank you to all who have taken part .

Tricia - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Lisa Marie:



Quoting Emily:








Quoting Tricia:

Wow! I'm not even going to comment on the topic ...I'm commenting on some of these responses. Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves! In reading the replies, the vast majority of "anti-spanking" moms on here are ruthless, judgmental, and downright self righteous. Read through this and read what you wrote! This is a forum for us mothers to share our experience, strength and hope with each other. To advise and be advised. A place where we should be able to "bare all" to a community of fellow women, mothers, daughters, etc...This is not support. you are bashing the "pro-spanking" moms and even go so far as to call them out on their interpretation of the word of God! I dare you to read some of this. I don't see how any adult could read this negative crap and think that it holds any water. Please realize that when you speak in hate and arrogance, you simply sound ignorant and uneducated. I'm not here to judge and neither are you. Please stick to what this is really supposed to be. If you feel the need to argue, please go elswhere












AWESOME!!










THIS IS AN OPEN FORUM.. open... people can do what they like.. freedom of the whole open thing.. you share something ANYONE can respond & call you out on anything.. .if you don't like it you have a choice.. don't read it.. move on & find something that appeals to you...  





Nice!!.....perfect example!  Since you're "for" all the crap talk ...I just re-read your little comment...you are obviously one of those who just like to argue.  Someone to get on here and keep people riled up and mostly off-topic.  This topic DID appeal to me and still does.  However, there are women on here, including me, who think it would be much nicer to not have to read all the BS that gets mixed in.  Thanks for reminding me what kind of forum I'm in!  This is the only time I"ll reply to you.

Tricia - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Lisa Marie:

ALSO - SPANKING IS NOT DISCIPLINE - It is punishment - they are two seperate things...


Spanking IS discipline.  Thats like saying that :"time-out" isn't discipline.  Punishments fall under discipline.  How are we to teach discipline without reward/punishments...praise/lost privileges???  Isn't that being a bit picky...they are all under the same roof, so to speak.

Tricia - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Jillian:

I am appalled at some of the ridiculous crap some of you post here about spanking and it amazes me that you actually believe what you write. Spankings are 100% unnecessary in raising a child.

Tammy you are absolutely wrong about the use of the word 'rod' in the bible. It most definately does not mean that the bible is telling you that it is auk to hit your child. The word "rod" is used in various ways in scripture, and in the original Hebrew there were eight to ten different meanings for the word. The pole that shepherds used to guide their sheep along the road was called a rod. It was not used to hit the sheep, but to guide them as they walked and keep them on the road. It is simply a guide. The shepherd also had a large club called a rod which he used to drive away predators, but it never was used to hit the sheep. God also spoke of the "rod of my mouth" which he used for discipline also. In short, the rod was any article or method used to guide, teach, or discipline. It did not have to be a physical method, either, or God could not have used his mouth as a rod. Many parents prefer spanking because it's quick and easy, and gets the behavior stopped right away. But children learn through modeling, and though spanking does show the child that you disapprove of this behavior, it does not teach what is right behavior. We can find a similar analogy with the Old and New Testaments. In the Old Law, there was a standard, and people were expected to live by the standard. Just because people knew the Law and that they would be punished for disobeying it, that did not keep the people from disobeying. In the New Testament, we are given the Holy Spirit to empower us to live righteously. Yet, we expect our children to obey with only the threat of punishment to keep them from sinning. If it did not work in the Old Law, it will not work now. Indeed, we have been given a more excellent way. We need to teach them from the standpoint of an inner knowledge of rightness rather than an externally imposed law. We need to teach them to be Spirit-led believers, not Pharisaical law-keepers. Most importantly, we need to model grace to them in every encounter we have.

When a child misbehaves, the first question to ask is, "What need does my child need that I have ignored or overlooked?" or "What aspect of our shared relationship has been violated? When a child is spanked, even though the rest of his experiences with his parents are positive, an unknown element has been introduced into his world which causes him to question his parents. Spanking causes the child to feel disrespected on a very basic level. This effects different children in different ways, depending on their individual temperaments. You never know how it is going to effect your particular child.
Also, since spanking was not specifically commanded in the Law of Moses, it was not something God expected them to do. Since the New Testament is based upon disciplining with grace, spanking would not be in harmony with New Testament teaching.


I am appalled that you think your ranting is not also "ridiculous crap"!   Here's a good one... "spanking causes the child to feel disrespected"??  Wow.   I don't know how, but you have managed to put your own spin on the Word of God to make it right for you.  Tammy isn't wrong in her interpretation of the Bible...you used a lot of fancy talking and big words & phrases to basically... say nothing.  When my child does something wrong, or says something out of line, it is not because I have ignored a bad behaior or overlooked a lesson...kids are gonna make bad decisions, and after a certain age, they KNOW that they are making the wrong choice!  Your explanation here tells them that its cool... what they did wrong was ultimately your /my fault anyway because we (must have) overlooked a problem or ignored an unacceptable behavior.  Talk about making something so simple into an unbelievable mess!  Spanking (in an appropriate manner)=discipline=guidance...  We discipline our children to guide them in the way they should go.  WE are to empower our children by teaching right from wrong.  We empower them through proper guidance....discipline(in whateer form  is right for your household), guidance, and for some of us... a good look at some theology text.  What is %100 unnecessary for you, could be totally & completely necessary in my home or someone else's.  BTW, it is up to the parent, after doling out said spankings, to then explain AGAIN to the child WHY she was punished, & any other detailed information that would facilitate a learning experience. Thanks for letting me rant!

Jodee - posted on 07/29/2009

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It takes a lot of effort and patience to NOT spank your child, but it is SO worth it in the long run! I explain to my daughter (now 6) why her actions are not permitted, and if she continues, I resort to taking away a privelege or toy, etc. The few times that I have spanked her, I always felt AWFUL afterwards, as did she. Spankings just don't work for our family. Spanking seems completely contradictory to the love and respect that we try to instill in her every day.

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2009

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I have one thing to say, if more kids were disciplined then maybe there wouldn't be as many people in jail. You let your child get away with everything and you wonder why they turn out the way they do? Ha. You need to set boundries and if they aren't followed then you discipline them. My children have no t.v.s or anything worth doin in their rooms. They have clothing and a bed, their toys and etc are elsewhere. I am not going to send them to their room and they have something to do. Not an option. This has worked perfect for me. I think that nowadays kids are watching too much t.v. this is horrible. They learn more from t.v. than their own parents. They are allowed to watch t.v. in the living room or the play room, no where else. This means when it's bedtime they have nothing to do except sleep, also punishment is easy. More parents should try it.

But back on point.

One thing I never ever understood about getting spanked was my mother spanking me for hitting someone else.. isn't that hypocritical?

Ebony - posted on 07/28/2009

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if your talking about more than a fairy tap on the hand which i'm assuming you are when you use the words WHIPPING!!! the answer is you should not be hitting your child in a way that actually hurts them at any age!!!!!! what good do you think that will achieve? it will make them resent you and hit you back and guess what, one day they will be just as big and strong as you.... you really don't want to be hit back at that point. try sending them to their beds and telling them they can't come out till they say sorry it works with my 2 yr old.... she may not say sorry for half an hr but in the end she learns and is also keen to hug us afterwards cause we didn't hurt her we just taught her something in a productive way and now all she usually needs is a warning and she stops cause she knows where it will lead. happy parenting :)

Natalie - posted on 07/28/2009

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are you serious!!!!! you should never ever hit a child it is acctually against the law! there are other ways of disaplining a child. for one you are teaching you child that its ok to hit people, also they will not learn from it, and thirdly think about how your child feels when you hit them . how would you like it if someone wacked you or whipped you, i think it is discusting to hit a child

Tanish - posted on 07/28/2009

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I THINK A CHILD MUST STOP GET SPANKING AT THE AGE OF 13,PUNISMENT SHOULD BE GIVEN FRM THERE

Trina - posted on 07/20/2009

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I have 3 kids age 15 yrs, 13 yrs and 10 yrs and i hate hitting but sometimes when they get to cheeky and disrespectfull sometimes there comes a time when you have to take control and smack them this is why so many kids are turning out wild and have no respect for there parents cause there is no control and they let them get away with it respect works both ways

Bonnie - posted on 07/20/2009

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I haven't read all the posts on this thread because there are way too many. One statement that does seem to keep popping up is "spare the rod, spoil the child". As most of us are aware, the Bible is interpreted in various ways. My personal opinion is that this statement doesn't imply an actual rod. I believe it is more of a representation of discipline. Spare the discipline, spoil the child.



Having said this, I will admit that I have spanked my children and have never felt good about it afterword. It has almost always been as a result of my lost temper and alternate forms of discipline have been implemented in my household. It is a work is progress, however, to change behavior that was learned from my upbringing. You live what you learn, mostly. However, I believe each of us will have to answer for our own choices so it really is irrelevant what everyone else thinks.

Theresa - posted on 07/19/2009

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I think it depends on the size and ability to reason. My Son-my youngest-was about 11 or 12 but we had an understanding that there would be other more severe means of punishment.

Sharni - posted on 07/19/2009

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doesnt anyone watch supernanny?? She's spot on that lady, all the time..

Sharni - posted on 07/19/2009

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in my experience it doesnt work at all, and encourages bad and violent behaviour....sorry

Carita - posted on 07/19/2009

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I stopped about the age 8 and up. every now and then maybe a swat on the butt. the older she got the more stuff i took away from her..........it worked for me. good luck

Peggie - posted on 07/19/2009

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Just my personal opinion ...spankings should be reserved for very serious offenses and never used as a regular consequence ...think about this : your child hits another child, you smack you child and tell them not to hit, what message are you sending that child? that A) its ok for YOU to hit because you are bigger so B) it must be ok for THEM to hit some one smaller then them its a double standard, time out, loss of a favorite toy,grounding all are more effective them 3 seconds of pain

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I'm old skool, and as long as they live in your house and don't abide by your rules, all bets are off. I have a 20 yr old and grandson and you still can't talk to me like you are talking to one of your friends out in the streets. Don't get it twisted!!!!!!!

User - posted on 07/18/2009

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You should never hit a child all you are doing is teaching it that as long as you are bigger and stronger you can hit another person. It's bullying!!!!!!! I feel sorry for your kids, Violence is never the right choice, a perent who hits as lost control.You all make me sick buts that the US They have no respect.

Corrinna - posted on 07/18/2009

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children r 4 loving not spanking that is child abuse,spare the rod and spoil the child,and that my friend is in gods holy word,children r a gift,not a door mat...i have 4 and never hit any of them,now a little time out does do wonders.

Natosha - posted on 07/18/2009

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a child is never to old for that i am 25 years old and my mom will still whip my ass

Sue - posted on 07/17/2009

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They will never be too old to spank. I also believe in spanking so don't let anyone else tell you it's not appropriate. There is nothing wrong with a swat or two on the backside. It's your personal choice and in my opinion a good one.

Cat - posted on 07/17/2009

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I would say eight, because at that point you can reason with them and discipline via removal of rights earned such as video games, television or whatever they like to do.

Jaycee - posted on 07/17/2009

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Never. Obviously if you have to turn to spankings there is something lacking in parenting skills.Sorry but it's the truth

Momma - posted on 07/17/2009

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OMFG!!!! SERIOUSLY LADIES!!! TO EVEN ASK IS MAD!!! YOU ALL HAVE UR KNICKERS IN A TWIST ABOUT SPANKING YOUR KIDS!!! THERE IS NO WAY YOU WOULD EVER LET YOUR SPOUSE/PARTNER "WHIP" OR "SPANK" YOU SO WHY DO YOU THINK ITS OK TO "WHIP" OR "SPANK" A CHILD THAT IS DEFENSELESS TO YOU COWARDS?????

Momma - posted on 07/17/2009

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OMFG!!!! SERIOUSLY LADIES!!! TO EVEN ASK IS MAD!!! YOU ALL HAVE UR KNICKERS IN A TWIST ABOUT SPANKING YOUR KIDS!!! THERE IS NO WAY YOU WOULD EVER LET YOUR SPOUSE/PARTNER "WHIP" OR "SPANK" YOU SO WHY DO YOU THINK ITS OK TO "WHIP" OR "SPANK" A CHILD THAT IS DEFENSELESS TO YOU COWARDS?????

Janet - posted on 07/17/2009

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I am a devoted Christian but find exception to your use of scripture in this case. In the days of the Old testament, children had no possessions, and little leisure time. Child behavior was not an applied science. There was no such thing as brain research. Life was difficult and obedience could be a daily matter of life and death of a child. These things cast that "spare the rod" verse in a different light. I agree that disciplining a child is a necessary part of loving his/her. You sound loving and kind and I feel sure punished your children gently.

Janet - posted on 07/17/2009

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I think whipping is out, no matter the age. Spanking is iffy. Try for other ways to correct behavior- distraction, stern and consistent No's. Yes, some children are very stubborn. Be stubborn-er. I'm a grandmother, the youngest of 10 children. My Mom never whipped, rarely spanked but sitting in a chair and her disapproval were terrible! My grandchild could have cared less if I disapproved. However, she never messed with Grandpop. He never scolded or smacked but he would make things fun for her when she visited. I think my efforts were so expected that she took them for granted. She wanted to stay on his good side. Best wishes to you.

Jillian - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Nicole:



Quoting Janet:

I agree with September. Spanking a child is a only temporary way of stopping a behavior. It may gratify the parent, but it's only long-lasting affect is anger or fear on the part of the child. It also teaches a child that the way to solve problems is through hitting. Another way to think of this is through this analogy. A person who may be prone to alcoholism or gambling addiction will only discover that propensity through imbibing. We can never be an alcoholic if we never drink. We can never be a compulsive/pathological gambler if we never gamble. If we never spank a child, we will never get carried away and become abusive.

There are always other ways of redirecting and teaching children through natural or logical consequences.






I disagree I have a 14 yr old and a 12 year old both boys and if they deserve to be spanked then they are going to get it, I don't pull the pants down anymore but I do get a wooden spoon and they do get it, just like if they cuss or back talk they get their mouths washed out with soap. I have had experiences with children where parents don't believe in spanking because they feel that the children are going to fear them well Guess what THOSE KIDS RUN THOSE HOUSHOLDS AND THE PARENTS ARE AFRAID OF THE KIDS. It's not a temporarily way of stopping of fixing a behavior you have to spank and then discipline and talk to the child and help them understand why they got the spanking/






When you find the other ways of redirecting and teaching children through natural or logical consequences please share I speak for everyone we would love to know.. I can tell you one thing my children do not fear me or my husband and we have not had to spank our children since they where very little. My oldest is a freshman in high school and a 4.0 student, football player, and wrestler, very athletic. My youngest is in junior high and he is also a good student with a 3.0 gpa so spanking them when they where younger obviously didnt harm them in anyway.






I have nothing nice to say to you. Your ideas about child rearing and discipline are ridiculous and putting soap in a child's mouth is ILLEGAL!!!! You should be ashamed of yourself and you shouldn't even have those children...you obviously don't deserve them if you are going to put soap in their mouth and hit them with spoons. SICK!!!

Debbie - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Tammy:


  My only issue here is people trying to change what the BIBLE SAYS.  If you believe that the Bible says to spank your children, you stand with thousands of years of Bible scholars and readers who have read it this way, applied it and been pleased with the results.  If you think it DOESN'T say that then you stand, relatively, alone.  If you don't believe in the Bible at all, what difference does it make?






Amen!  I hate that everytime someone doesn't like what the Bible has to say on a topic, they feel it is somehow acceptable to just change it.  Perhaps that is why our society has some of the problems it has today........

Debbie - posted on 07/17/2009

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I asked my 18 yo son this question. He said he thinks kids should still be spanked, if necessary until they move into their own place. By the way, he does live at home still and has always been very well behaved. He has been spanked in his life, but probably only 8-10 times. He believes knowing that he can and will be punished is what has taught him to be respectful. However, I will say that I have always respected his privacy and I don't believe he ever received a bare-butt spanking.

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Quoting Marilyn:

In reply to Tammie Tucker's post. You seem very certain that you are right. I would like to know how old your babies and and how old you are. With age comes the wisdom to not assume we are the only ones who are right.


I love how people act like this is somehow MY own crazy idea.  No, I am not certain that *I* am right.  I didn't make any of this up!  I am certain that the Bible is right and I am certain that thousands of years of people reading it did not suddenly become wrong just because in our post-modern age, you can find a few crackpots who claim to have a "better" way of looking at it.  There was a time when, in most of the world and particularly the US, that spanking your kids was an undisputed part of childrearing.  I don't have a problem with discovering new things that work better, but do you honestly look around and think that kids are acting and turning out BETTER nowadays since this teaching is no longer the norm??  SERIOUSLY?? I am 44 years old and I ,have 4 children ages 6, 9, 12 and 16. This approach worked for people 5000 years ago in the Old Testament.  It worked 100 years ago when my great-grandmother was a child, it worked 65 years ago when my mother was a child, it worked 40ish years ago when I was a child.  It worked for the last 16 years when applied as needed to all 4 of my VERY different children and for the hundreds of Christian and non-Christian parents I have met in the last decade while living all over the US.  It works for a surprisingly large number of posters here (if you look at all the threads on the topic), given the fact that I'm guessing that MOST people who use spanking would not comment because they don't want to get slanged. The Bible has been interpreted on this topic  LITERALLY as written since it was written.  You can pick up any commentary on the scripture and you will find that ALL of the older ones read it this way and nearly all of the newer ones do as well. In fact, despite being an avid student of the Bible for many years and having a wide knowledge of various interpretations of different passages (including extensive study of the original languages), the link posted by a PP to a site which claims that the Bible does NOT advocate spanking is the only source I have EVER seen for this belief.  My goal here is not to get you to spank your kids.  You have to deal with your own kids.  My only issue here is people trying to change what the BIBLE SAYS.  If you believe that the Bible says to spank your children, you stand with thousands of years of Bible scholars and readers who have read it this way, applied it and been pleased with the results.  If you think it DOESN'T say that then you stand, relatively, alone.  If you don't believe in the Bible at all, what difference does it make?

Franca - posted on 07/17/2009

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I believe that children should never be hit... That is teaching them to be agressive or handle their anger the same way... I know it is very frustrating at times and that is exactly why it shouldn't be done... You could harm them... Not to mention what it does to them emotionally... You don't want to take the spirit out of the kid.... Speak to a child behavioural therapist if you need help with discipline... Hope it stops...

Franca - posted on 07/17/2009

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I believe that children should never be hit... That is teaching them to be agressive or handle their anger the same way... I know it is very frustrating at times and that is exactly why it shouldn't be done... You could harm them... Not to mention what it does to them emotionally... You don't want to take the spirit out of the kid.... Speak to a child behavioural therapist if you need help with discipline... Hope it stops...

Marilyn - posted on 07/17/2009

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In reply to Tammie Tucker's post. You seem very certain that you are right. I would like to know how old your babies and and how old you are. With age comes the wisdom to not assume we are the only ones who are right.

Tracy - posted on 07/17/2009

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Never, I feel that a parent should always maintain conrtol. at the end of the day we will always be parents, no matter how old that child is, so it is our obligations to keep the pepole that we brought into this world in check.

Freda - posted on 07/17/2009

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Well my mom spanked me when I was little....and I think I am better for it. No I didnt get beat. lol And as for how old should you stop spanking ask my 21 year old how old she was the last time she got spanked by her dad...she was 18 i do believe. lol She knew she deserved it to. But I do not think you should ever spank a child or a teenager while you are angry.....Some kind of punishment is better than doing what a lot of people do (andI have been guilty of it..even now) by telling a child a 100x "if you dont stop that you are going to get it" The thing we as moms need to remember is follow through with you threat or they will keep on doing it. My preacher has preached that a couple of times.lol

Kimberley - posted on 07/17/2009

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when they start getting into things a little tap on the hand and say no but nothing more then that

Jeni - posted on 07/17/2009

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I totally agree, I am a teacher and a mother and you are so right about the kids nowadays there are no boundaries and society is producing so many unruly children who are into things that a little more parenting and spanking for early on would diminish.It is why kids turn to so many more harmful things than we did as kids. They are completely lost as to what is right and wrong no one is taking the time to teach them!! I also was spanked and I turned out great. I am not a violent person at all. But if parents don't step up and take the responsibility of disciplining a child who needs it our furture is pretty bleak.There are parents of the children I have in class who will allow their child to be spanked and believe me these are some of the most respectful and well behaved children in my class and it turns out they are the most successful in school academically and socially. So to say that spanking causes violence or problems with a child is ludacris!! I see the results of not spanking a child and it isn't good. They have way more problems in the classroom and the playground(socially).

Leanne - posted on 07/17/2009

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Whipping and spanking are worlds apart. I agree with spanking in a controlled environment. If my child does something after i asked him not to he understands there will be consequences. Small offenses would be a punishment to his room to lay on his bed w/ no toys MAJOR offenses are spanking. But we don't spank him on the spot I let him go to his room and wait, we talk, he gets spanked and then hugged. I don't think it works with kids older than 10. I child shouldn't ever be whipped.

Jeni - posted on 07/17/2009

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My husband gave me a good thing to go by on this, he said his mom knew when they no longer were crying but actually laughing!! She knew then it was time to do something else like grounding or taking favorite activities away.

Sheila - posted on 07/17/2009

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A child should never be whipped or spanked - regardless of age - there are other ways to discipline children

Joan - posted on 07/17/2009

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well.... when they behave mature in your own rights not the worlds view at all..........

Arwen - posted on 07/16/2009

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I think if you do spank, I would stop when the child is 8, maybe younger. I know girls that could have had their own kids at 8. That's the age I think you should start teaching about personal boundaries.



I actually don't support spanking as much anymore. Before I was a teacher, I did. I didn't know of other ways to discipline. Now, I can confidently manage a class of 25 or more, and I never have to lay one finger on them. I'm so glad God led me to that job so I could learn that, and I'm glad I didn't have my own children before-hand. Now that I have a daughter, I don't need to hit, I don't holler, and she's a good kid. You wouldn't believe how well just getting down to your child's eye level, and saying, "No," would work.



And I don't see many people talking about when they were kids, but when I was young, I have memories of being spanked. My parents never abused me. They were great. But one thing I remember from spanking is feeling weird down there when they did it, and it wasn't till I was a married adult that I realized what it was. When I was spanked, it was stimulating my genitals. I can remember the wrongness of it, it was a disgusting feeling. I wouldn't want my children to have those memories.



Also, my mom was a pretty good shot, but the one time she missed--high--it bruised my kidneys. I had kidney problems for a while after it happened. I can't even imagine the guilt she felt. I wanna say spankings stopped very soon after that, but it shouldn't have taken an injury for it to happen.

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I think if you do spank, I would stop when the child is 8, maybe younger. I know girls that could have had their own kids at 8. That's the age I think you should start teaching about personal boundaries.



I actually don't support spanking as much anymore. Before I was a teacher, I did. I didn't know of other ways to discipline. Now, I can confidently manage a class of 25 or more, and I never have to lay one finger on them. I'm so glad God led me to that job so I could learn that, and I'm glad I didn't have my own children before-hand. Now that I have a daughter, I don't need to hit, I don't holler, and she's a good kid. You wouldn't believe how well just getting down to your child's eye level, and saying, "No," would work.



And I don't see many people talking about when they were kids, but when I was young, I have memories of being spanked. My parents never abused me. They were great. But one thing I remember from spanking is feeling weird down there when they did it, and it wasn't till I was a married adult that I realized what it was. When I was spanked, it was stimulating my genitals. I can remember the wrongness of it, it was a disgusting feeling. I wouldn't want my children to have those memories.



Also, my mom was a pretty good shot, but the one time she missed--high--it bruised my kidneys. I had kidney problems for a while after it happened. I can't even imagine the guilt she felt. I wanna say spankings stopped very soon after that, but it shouldn't have taken an injury for it to happen.

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