When should I get my daughter's ears pierced?

Paige - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 101 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4 months old and I am just wondering what would be the best age to get them done. Do I do it now? 6 months? I want to get them done before she starts tugging and pulling at her ears..What do you think?

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Sally - posted on 02/07/2010

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Anyone choosing to mutilate their baby before they are old enough to make the choice themselves is doing it for themselves, not their child. I say this in regard to ear piercing AND circumcision.



Why stop at these? Why not an eyebrow piercing? Or a tattoo (just as permanent as circumcision...)



I'm not against body modification. I had my ears pierced for the first time when I was 10, and now I have 4 holes in each ear, my tongue and tragus pierced, and had my bellybutton done (before I was pregnant lol). I also have 2 tattoos. But I made the choice every single time a needle went through my skin. I knew I'd have to look after them as they healed, and I knew the risks I was taking and accepted the possible consequences if anything went wrong.



I'd be very upset if anyone else had ever made those choices for me.



If you want your daughter to have a pretty accessory, buy a nice headband, hairclip or bracelet.

Paige - posted on 02/05/2010

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Never! a 6 month old baby is far too young to have her ears pierced. IMO no child is old enough until they're about 12, my daughter won't be getting them done till then and only if she asks. Ear piercing can cause infections and damage ear cartiliage. No reputable piecerer will pierce a babies ears, so you are putting her at risk.

--Doesn't really matter if she is 4 months, 6 months, 5 years, or even 12 years old, can still cause infections so you would be too putting your child at risk getting them done at age 12 would you not?

Lauren - posted on 02/05/2010

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I will not let my daughter have her ears pierced till she is old enough to make that descion and responsible enough to look after them so prob when she is a teenager!!



My daughter is nearly 9 months old she doesn't want them done so I won't do it.



I love my daughter and would not purposely put her through any pain or poke holes in her ears!



No offence to anybody who wants to have their babies ears pierced but I personally think you do it for a fashion statement. Some people have said they have them done young so they don't play with them....wait till they are old enough not to play with them

Krista - posted on 02/05/2010

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I'm with the others -- I'd wait until she's old enough to ask. Then you can go together, and it'll be a nice mother-daughter memory to have.

Nancy - posted on 02/05/2010

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I agree with Angie. If and when she wants her ears pierced, she will ask. It doesn't hurt that much and she needs to be able to take care of them herself. Also, if you get it done before she starts tugging on her ears, won't she have more of a chance of pulling the earrings out when she does start pulling on her ears?

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Susan - posted on 02/08/2010

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I would wait until she asks for them and is old enough to care for them herself. Just my opinion but I got my daughters done on her 8th birthday and still feel like I was a few years early.

Heather - posted on 02/08/2010

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I have to agree with others who say it's a personal decision and to wait for her to ask for it to be done! I have two nieces under the age of four and they both had their ears pierced before they were three months old. Is it adorable? Yes. But when I had my own daughter (who is now two), I thought long and hard about it and decided that even though it's just an ear piercing...it's a modification to HER body and that should be her choice to make! A lot of my friends have used waiting until their daughters are old enough to take care of them by themselves as a benchmark for when to get it done. I also like the idea of waiting until you can turn it into a nice little mother/daughter event...maybe make a "spa day" out of it and get her ears pierced too! Something fun to share...plus, it'll buy you "cool mom points" when she asks for her ears to be pierced and you say "yes" and then do something cool with her! Good luck with whatever decision you make!

Julie - posted on 02/08/2010

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When she is "double-digits" - age 10! That's just my personal choice for my daughter but I really think they should have their choice on whether or not to pierce their ears.

Raha - posted on 02/08/2010

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I let my daughters decide. My eldest asked me to have her ears pierced when she saw many of her friends have beautiful earrings. She was 5 then. Unlike my eldest, my second daughter doesn't want them yet, after all she's only 4 now..but I'll let her make the decision.

Stephanie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 mths old.. she is now 9 mths old and I am so glad I went ahead and did it. She didnt even cry, and she doesn't ever mess with her ears... I was told any older and they were more to react from it and pull on them. I wouldnt change anything....& I get the most compliments!!! :-)

Norma - posted on 02/08/2010

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I had my daughters ears pierced before she was 1 month. She didn't even feel it. She has never pulled on them.

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Either way, now or later, to avoid any pain you can buy Emla cream from the pharmacy and it will numb their ears. That way they don't feel a thing, baby or not.

Michele - posted on 02/08/2010

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Also, check to see if your child's pedatrician offers piercing service! Much safer, less chance of infection and disease than having it done in a germ-infested mall or jewelry store!

Michele - posted on 02/08/2010

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Aside from the many good points about waiting, there is one that I haven't seen here. If you wait until your child is 5 years old, her head (and ears) will be just about done growing in size. If the earlobes are pierced before then, the holes may not stay centered as the ears grow. Also, a friend of mine pierced her daughter's ears young and the earring got caught on her car seat cover and ripped her earlobe.

Charlene - posted on 02/08/2010

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The younger, the better. You wait to long she will pull and tug at her ear. Make sure you give her something for pain and fever the day she gets them pierced. Just a little insurance like when you take her for a shot.

Shirley - posted on 02/08/2010

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This is a great grandma talking. I would wait until they are old enough to know how to care for them. My daughter got hers sone at about 6 asI remember.

Glenda - posted on 02/08/2010

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I waited for my daughter to tell me she wanted it done so it was her choice. we had spoke about it for a while and actually went to have it done about six months before and she chickened out. She was nearly two or just over. She cried after they did the first one but having a very strong minded and understanding child she was able to let them do the second. You can find places to do them both at the same time ( so I found out later). Hope this is helpful. Happy piercing when it happens. Glenda xx

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I asked my mom to have them done when I was three. I'm glad I have them, but they are high up on my lobe, much higher than they would be if I was older. Plus, when I wear certain earrings, they are lopsided. Maybe earlobes continue growing? I would wait a bit before getting them done.

Kerri - posted on 02/08/2010

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Everyone will always have their own opinions! I noticed that some people frown upon it and others are all for it. For me, we got our girls' ears piereced at 4 months and she maybe cried for 30 secs, if that. I got my ears pierced around the same age. She doesn't play with her ears and they have been healing perfectly fine. No swelling and it's doesn't hurt her to sleep with her earrings!

Shayna - posted on 02/08/2010

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I agree with some of the other mom's here. I would wait until she is older. Not only is it nice to wait until she's old enought to take care of them, but I remember that being a special day in my childhood, a rite of passage. I'm glad my parent's waited until I was old enough to appreciate it.

Mary - posted on 02/08/2010

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I did for my daughter when she was only a few months old. She cried and her dad wanted to kill me. But afterwards, we went out to eat and she slept the whole time. She never bothered them while growing up. She's three now and still never fusses over them.

Linda - posted on 02/08/2010

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I think its up to each parent when they want to pierce thier daughters ears. I did my oldest daughters (now23) at 6 months, and I did my other daughters (now16) at the same age..... They both wear earrings 24/7 now.... all different ones to go with the outfit they are wearing.



If you want to wait til they are old enough to want them, then thats okay too. nothing wrong with that.

Triny - posted on 02/08/2010

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You should have them pierced now. I remember my niece getting her ears pierced at 6 months and at that time she was able to distinguish strangers and it was difficult because she kept moving and crying. The younger the better because they can't tell what is going on. To them it is a flinch and it's done. Once they are older they can tell something is going on and it will be harder. I had my pediatrian do it. Hope that helps. Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 02/08/2010

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If you are going to do it make sure she has had her 1st set of shots 1st. I took my lil one the day after her shots. She did great!

Lee - posted on 02/08/2010

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This is such a hot topic, we live in britain and its considered really chavvy to have babies ears pierced, its not a good look, i saw a little girl ina playgroup she was about 3 with little gold hoops in, it just looked pointless! plus I kept thinking if her hair or something catches in them and pulls them... that would be painfull

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Not a fan of babies with pierced ears. And I think comparing that with circumsision is apples to oranges.

Kayleigh - posted on 02/08/2010

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i think now would be best then, my daughter is 6 months and i always say im goin to let her tell me wen shes older tha she wants them done, but if u insist then now would be best as at 6 months they pull at anything plus she will 4 get about it not long after they have been done

Katt - posted on 02/08/2010

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"In reply to Katt Stickneyy
Dogs and children do feel pain everywhere in their bodies, which is why in most civilised countries docking (cutting off) puppies tails is illegal. But hey we all have to suffer for fashion so why not our children too who can't complain?"

When we got our dog (he's a boxer) his tail had already been done and our vet asked us if we wanted his ears done..I said no and she told me that it would be painless for him as getting his tail done was (we didn't get his ears done because I loved his floppy ears)..My health nurse told me this about babies ears. My daughter was born with extra pinkies, they dangled off the side of her hand on a little flap of skin and she had them removed at 5 weeks, I was there for the procedure, they didn't use anesthetic and she didn't even cry. Either both of them were wrong and made me look like an idiot or maybe there is some truth in this. I don't know, i'm no doctor or vet, thats just what i've been told.

Crystal - posted on 02/08/2010

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I also believe in doing it when she asks for it. I love ear rings. they are so pretty but my daughter is 3 and still has not had it done.

Kerri - posted on 02/08/2010

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Please wait until she is old enough to want them done and able to look after them herself.

Jenn - posted on 02/08/2010

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I am personally not a fan of babies with pierced ears. When my girls are older, if they want to get it done, then fine, otherwise it won't be happening.

Brenda - posted on 02/08/2010

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Paige Smith, I had two daughters, all grown up now, but I had theirs done at 2yrs old, because one, they are not playing around with their face, ears, head at that age, and the second reason was, because their clothes were much easier to put on them, over their head stuff, without them moving all around, 2yrs old I think is the best age for this.

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My mother made we wait until i was 16. Im now 31 and i still havent had my ears pierced and i dont want to. I would never take a baby to have their ears pierced and for those people who think its my baby i'll do what i like carry on if you want to mutilate your daughters body who are we to argue. Personally i think it should be banned like tattoos for under 18's.

Mandy - posted on 02/08/2010

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In reply to Katt Stickneyy
Dogs and children do feel pain everywhere in their bodies, which is why in most civilised countries docking (cutting off) puppies tails is illegal. But hey we all have to suffer for fashion so why not our children too who can't complain?

Marie - posted on 02/07/2010

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I had my daughters done when she was about 4 months old. She cried very little and she was young enough that she didn't play with her ears yet. Had no problems!

Alecia - posted on 02/07/2010

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Our daughter is 4 1/2 months old and we had her ears pierced just this last weekend. She screamed for a out 5 mins ( like she does when she gets her shots ) and then she was fine. She hasn't been tugging on them @ all. I would say get it done before she is old enough to know what's going on...if you wait till she is 2 or 3 she will be too scared to have it done. It won't hurt to have them done as a baby.

Andrea - posted on 02/07/2010

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I would do them now, that way they dont pull and tug on her ears. I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 weeks old...I put a numbing cream called emla (you get can get it at any drug store) I applied the cream on her ear lobes about 20 mins before bringing her to get them pierced and she slept through the whole thing!

Nicole - posted on 02/07/2010

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My daughter was 7 months old and she was only mad at the fact that we had to hold her still. She is almost 7 now and I've had no issues with them. We change them often and she loves them. As parents we make choices for them all the time and my husband and I chose to have her ears pierced and now that she's a bit older if she chooses to let them close up then that's her choice. I was five when mine were done and they got so infected because I wouldn't leave them alone and then I had to let them close up and had to get them redone when I was 12. I would do it around 6 months.

Katt - posted on 02/07/2010

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I can't believe how touchy this topic is. I had my first holes done at 2, my mother did them because I constantly played with my ears and getting them pierced made me stop. I got my second holes done when I was 8, my mom made it a mother daughter day and guess what I hated it...they got infected, it hurt and I ended up taking them out. I remember getting the first one done and crying and saying I didn't want to get the second one done and my mother said, this is what you wanted you have to get the second one done now that you dot the first one done...not a very good memory i'd say. I got my daughters done when she was 5 months. I didn't do it to intentionally inflict pain on her..she would have done it to herself later on in life so why not do it when she can't remember. If she ever wants to get a second hole done, i'll take her and make that a mother daughter day...most likely though, she'll cry and want to back out..now why would I want to do that to my daughter?? Since being from both sides of everyones point of view I don't think it really matters...do what you want with your child, if you feel she's too young then wait it out. I think between 3-6 months is perfect, they don't really pull on their ears and they cry for like 5 seconds and not because it hurts but because the loud noise from the. Babies don't feel pain in their ear lobes till they're like 10 months or something...kinda like getting your dogs ear/tail done young because they don't have pain receptors there until later in life.

Bibiana - posted on 02/07/2010

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to me, i prefer to do it as soon as she's born ( and i did it). u just have to find someone who's capable enough. in indonesia, there must be a capable nurse among the nursery nurses. she's 4 mnths, it's likely to be more difficult, u'd better wait till she's old enough to be asked to. .

Ash - posted on 02/07/2010

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If we have a daughter we are going to wait till she wants them done. I had them done when i was an infant and my dad took them out. Then my step mom forced me to get them done and i wasn't ready for it, i thought of them as an annoyance.

Jenny - posted on 02/07/2010

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I have been wondering about this too! I cant believe how crazy people can get bringing this one question up. I am torn I dont want her to remember it but I am kinda scared about doing it at 4 months. On the other hand I never met a girl who was like you know what I wish my mom wouldnt have got me ears pierced i wish I could have made the choice. It was normally the other way around all the little girls I grew up with whos ears werent pierced hated wearing those sticker earrings! LOL I dunno I think I might just do it....Just do whats right for you and what you can live with...

Bonnie - posted on 02/07/2010

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I had my daughter's ears pierced right before she turned a year old. I wanted to do it before she really realized the pain involved. She cried only because I had to hold her head and never bothered her earrings or ears. Hope this helps.

Rosie - posted on 02/07/2010

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i think it should be done when she can remember it AND asks for it. make a mother daughter day out of it like lyn suggested.

Lyn - posted on 02/07/2010

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when SHE can remember it. When she asks for it, Make it a "Mother/Daughter" day memory. Take her to lunch, let her pick out her earrings, she will feel soo special walking out of the store with her new earrings, like a big girl. I would say around 7 yo. There is no rush. Let her decide :)

Mandy - posted on 02/07/2010

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I can't believe that any of think even 2 minutes of intentional pain for a newborn to look girlie is a good thing, I am actually really shocked.
I understand that circumcism is done as standard in the US but in the UK it is not the norm (except for religious or medical reasons), I don't understand why you guys do this either, must be a cultral difference but it seems very cruel to have things cut of your newborn son very shortly after birth, I would hope that anesthetic is involved in the procedure.

Sue - posted on 02/07/2010

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My daughter got her's done for her 13th birthday. She was so proud and is able to take care of them herself. Unlike alot of friends theirs got infected. My thought was to wait for her 13th so she can be responsible in taking care of her own ears and also be responsible teenager.

Dekie - posted on 02/07/2010

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age 3 is the ideal age to hav her ears pierced as she'd still ' b small enuff to not realise whats goin on when gettin it dne n old enuff to kno not to keep touching her ears after it's freshly dne!!..methinks !;-)

Dekie - posted on 02/07/2010

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i think it's best to get them dne when she's arnd 3....since by then she'l b aware of the consequences of touching her ears by then n that it's not a good thing to do....either that or hav them dne by the 6th month preferrably in winter as the wound will heal faster!!;-)

Sandi - posted on 02/07/2010

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Like I said I'm waiting to make an occasion of it with my daughter so she can remember it as one of her life experiences. It's not about pain or her looking girly for me... lip gloss is girly too and so is mascara

It's about making it into one of her life memories and making an occasion of it. Much the same as when she first wears make-up, buys her first heels, goes on her first date or gets her belly button peirced.



Lisa, I live in England where most boys don't get a circumcision unless there's a medical condition or it's part of their religion. So unless it's either of those then actually yes, I wouldn't consider it unless he asked.

Kathy - posted on 02/07/2010

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I was told that if you want to pierce their ears young that after they have had their first shots it is fine because of the tetanis complication and personally if I had a baby girl that is when I would do it because like you said they do find their body parts and less chance of infection if they haven't found them yet lol :)

Lee - posted on 02/07/2010

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I think you are all insane why on earth would you pierce a baby's ears! I think its hideous seeing tiny babies with earings in, they have no say in what's happening, the risk of infection from all sorts of things is huge why on earth would you even consider it, awful awful. awful.

Renata - posted on 02/07/2010

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You can get them done any time after 3 mos. Just make sure the piercer is good. I had my daughters done and now I have to have one ear re peirced at age 3 because the stupid peircer marked the hole twice and peirced the wrong hole and now it is starting to grow out. I dont mean to scare you, but just do your homework on it.

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