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when should you start potty training?

Jennifer - posted on 09/01/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




im a first time mum and my daughter is 17 months and have no clue about potty training please help


Amanda - posted on 09/01/2010




Potty training when done right should take 3-7 days not months or years. Be consistant, once they diapers are gone they are gone.

Clues your child is ready to potty train, taking off not so wet diapers, asking to be changed as soon as they poop. Sitting on their potty for fun.

Steps to potty train fast and easy.

1. Put your child on the potty first thing in the morning. This is the best time to catch a oops potty. When she does go potty, dance around cheer, make a HUGE deal about it.

2. Do not put diapers back on her (Dresses are great for this some children will pee underwear because they think they are diapers). Remind her through out the day that she can use the potty.

If she has messes and the messes are stressing you out, put her diaper back on and try again tomorrow. No child will potty train if their mother is stressed. Everytime she does mess, remind her that this belongs in the potty, and have her stand by you while you clean it up. Do not belittle her or make her feel extremely bad for having an accident, just remind her nicely where we potty.

Make sure the potty is ALWAYS in easy access from your childs main play area (this can be moved towards the bathroom later on when she is much better at potty training).


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Jessica - posted on 09/18/2010




I have to say that I disagree with some of what has been said... if you try to do it because YOU want to and not because THEY want to, it will end up either being that there are issues and it will take much longer to get her trained than it should take, or she will be "trained" when in actuality it is more you are trained to get her there than it is her knowing when she needs to go.

Number one thing to start with... don't push the issue; wait until she shows interest. I know this can be frustrating, especially if your friends' kids are around the same age (or younger) and are trained. Use this as motivation, but don't push.

Our son (now 4) didn't show interest until after he turned 3. I had no problem with this... we worked with it instead. Within a week, he was trained with pee, and then we started encouraging poop, but not making him go. We then transitioned to pullups (people say they don't work, but they do because those don't absorb like diapers and they DO NOT like it!). When those were gone, they were gone, and within a week, we were 100% trained, night and day, both pee and poop. He has only had one accident at night since, and no daytime accidents.

Bottom line, at 17 months, start introducing it, but if she doesn't show interest, don't worry! Give her another few weeks or even a month and then introduce it again... and again... and again, until she shows interest. If she isn't on board, you will get nowhere, at least not with her truly becoming potty trained! You don't need to train yourself... you're already there!

Good luck!

Tami - posted on 09/01/2010




That is true, as a parent, you decide ultimately what is best for your children and yourself. However, that doesn't mean potty training (done right) has to take months. (Nights are a different issue altogether)

It will not be hard if you dedicate a few days completely to it. Diapers are easier, but they are proven to prolong the potty training experience because they are designed to keep the child dry. They have a harder time potty training if they are comfortable with their current set up. I mean, who would want to break away from a perfectly fun activity to go pee when you can do it right there in your drawers and take care of it later with no discomfort or inconvenience what-so-ever?

If you truly want to get it accomplished and are willing to dedicate the time training your child with consistency any toddler at any age is fully mentally capable of the task. So yeah, do it when you want to, your daughter is totally up to it, I promise you.

Alison - posted on 09/01/2010




You should do it when YOU want to. Potty training demands a lot of effort on the part of the parent. Personally, I would rather wait until my child is really ready and on board, rather than trying to push her into it. I actually find diapers much less work than the potty training period which can go on for many months (or years, when it comes to nighttime training and bowel movements for some).

The typical age range is probably between 18 months and 3 years.

Jess - posted on 09/01/2010





Shawna - posted on 09/01/2010




I have 3 boys, only one is potty trained that is my 3 yr old. we started potty training at 18 months and he was not fully potty trained until he was well over 2. I spoke with his doctor about potty training to get some tips and she told me not to force the idea. If you stay consistent, use positive reinforcement, associate potty, toilet, bathroom and other words with the actual action and there is still no progress then wait a week or two then try again. Give your efforts at least 6 to 9 days before you decided that potty training time is not here yet.. One thing that did help my son when it was actually time, was to take him to everyone in the house and make a big deal about using the potty.. clap and yay! tell her what a big girl she is for using the potty. The positive reinforcement is great. We also used dum-dum suckers at first. Then when he grasped that using the potty got him a sucker, it was every 5 times he went potty by himself got a sucker... That worked with going pee, but the going poop in the potty was a whole different ball game.. It took twice as long for us to grasp that concept. So I went to the dollar store got some cheap little toys to use as rewards. When he was a big boy and went poop in the potty instead of his pants he got to pick a prize.. 3 weeks and about 15 dollars worth of cheap toys he had the concept of using the potty.. We used diapers and pull ups at nights and when we were in the vehicle until he was fully potty trained.. just be prepared to do lots of laundry and carry about 8 spare sets of clothing with you in the diaper bag at all times. Good luck and hope its easier for you than it was for me!

Tami - posted on 09/01/2010




Hi Jennifer,

I potty trained my children very young (they were 17-18 months when they were done potty training).

I found that following these things were imperative:
1. Consistency: in schedule and routine. Pay attention to her natural rhythms, when does she soil her diapers? Take her potty during those times for sure.
2. Don't use diapers or pull-ups. (I used them at night) Get her LOTs of panties, she will go through them and you will need to be resolved to using them and doing a lot of laundry at first. She can't feel she's wet or learn she doesn't like the feeling of it with todays technology in diapers.
3. Use potty words when she goes potty repetitively. She will learn to associate those words with going potty and it will eventually lead to stimulation from her brain to go potty.
4. Pick a time you can dedicate several days to this, it take a total retraining, so it's not something that can be done part-time effectively. Enlist help from daycare providers and other family members for this.
5. If she is scared of the big potty, put her on there with you when you go (I know this sounds weird, but it works because you can talk about mommy going pee and get her to go pee too), or get a little potty for her.
Above all, don't make it a big stressful deal. It's part of life, part of your routine, make it part of hers, too. You can't praise her too much when she does it right...and she will love to make you happy! :-)

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