When should your daughter begin to shave her legs? Im in a debate.. 9 is too YOUNG!!!!

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Becki - posted on 09/14/2009

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My 9 yr old daughter came to me one evening after her shower and needed a bandaid. She told me she cut her finger when she knocked some things off of the shelf which included my razor. After a few moments she whispered "mom, what would you say if I said I shaved my legs?" Well, I couldn't help but to laugh and ask her why she shaved her legs. She said the hair on her legs was embarrassing when she was playing with her friends. She said "I won't have to sit like this anymore", folding her legs up underneath her. She then said "I won't have to put my arms like this anymore either"! I couldn't help but to burst into laughter when I realized not only did my little angel shave her legs, but she had shaven her arms as well!!! After we shared a huge laugh together, I just explained why NOT to shave her arms (you know, how it grows back) and I told her about how I did the same thing when I was her age. I think 9 or 10 is the age when they start getting self conscience about themselves and as mothers and at one time small pre-adolescent girls we have to just accept and nurture our girls. Teach them about what's going on with them and enjoy them young and ride that ride with them into womanhood, arms in the air! Have a blessed day!

Stephanie - posted on 09/13/2009

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I dont really think its the age that determines when she should start shaving her legs. Once the hair starts coming in and it looks like it should be shaved thats when you should start. I would suggest maybe doing it for her the first couple times to show her the right way so she doesnt cut herself then have her do it with you watching until you feel she is able to start doing it on her own.

Susan - posted on 09/19/2009

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I let my daughter start at age 9. My Mom didn't let me start until I was 12 and it was the most embarrassing thing I remember about my childhood because I was pale with black hair and a lot of it. My daughter is the same way I was and started getting teased. It was hurting her a lot, so I said why put her through that pain? She shaves with a razor now and has no problems. I feel very good about my decision. One less thing for a young girl to have to worry about.

Natalie - posted on 09/13/2009

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Why shave at all? Once she starts, the hair will grow back darker and more abundant. If she doesn't it usually isn't even that noticeable.

Barbara - posted on 09/14/2009

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Do her and yourself a favor, Use veet the first time (test for skin sensitivity) and then buy her an inexpensive electric razor. You won't have to worry about her cutting herself up. Does she need to shave her armpits yet? My daughter started shaving her armpits at 9 out of neccesity. Do NOT let her shave the top part of her legs; she'll regret that later on. This summer I got her a trimmer for her bikini line. We're pretty furry over here, lol. Don't make too big a deal out of it.....If you let her do the Veet or Nair once that'll take care of it for few weeks.

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Becki - posted on 09/19/2009

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I raised 3 daughters. When they start going thru puberty, and some of them are age 9 when they get their period, their leg hair changes. I let my girls, when they asked me, all of them were about 11. that is also when they got their period. If your daughter is not changing physically yet, then dont start it yet. and also depends on maturity, cause if you can show her and her be able to do it herself, then fine, if you have to do it for her, then forget it. its a part of growing up. if she is not ready then dont

Felicia - posted on 09/19/2009

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I guess it all depends on the hair or why she wants to do the shaving . If the hair is dark enough to see it , let her shave but i suggest to show her a couple of times the right way , and let her show you the right way for her to show you that she can do it on her own . I would say 9 is too young , but it all depends .

Stina - posted on 09/19/2009

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I too fought and fought with my mom to be able to shave my legs starting around the fourth grade. Polish and Italian genes 'blessed me with dark leg and arm hair as well as a unibrow.



Eventually she gave in, got me razors and explained how.



My dd is 3 and looks exactly like I did- including dark hair on her legs. She isn't self conscious yet but I was interested to read some of the other opinions. I think when she gets older, It'll be somthing to discuss with her- reasons for and against waiting. I'll probably try to delay her till middle school... but we'll see.



I do know that if she asks to do something with her eybrows, I'll help/show her. I was teased and very selfconscious... and because my mom does nothing with her brows- no need, she doesn't have a unibrow, when he discovered I had shaved between my brows, she scolded me and told me to leave them alone. Shaving eyebrows is a bad idea... Plucking and shaping- it's about taking pride in your appearance. Already, my 3 yo watches me and asks questions. Even asked me to do her the way she asks for me to put blush on her... I don't put anything on her but tickle her face with the brush- I explaine she doesn't need to yet and that it hurts but when she's older, if she still wants, I'll show her how.

Susan - posted on 09/19/2009

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I let my daughter start at age 9. My Mom didn't let me start until I was 12 and it was the most embarrassing thing I remember about my childhood because I was pale with black hair and a lot of it. My daughter is the same way I was and started getting teased. It was hurting her a lot, so I said why put her through that pain? She shaves with a razor now and has no problems. I feel very good about my decision. One less thing for a young girl to have to worry about.

Susan - posted on 09/19/2009

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I let my daughter start at age 9. My Mom didn't let me start until I was 12 and it was the most embarrassing thing I remember about my childhood because I was pale with black hair and a lot of it. My daughter is the same way I was and started getting teased. It was hurting her a lot, so I said why put her through that pain? She shaves with a razor now and has no problems. I feel very good about my decision. One less thing for a young girl to have to worry about.

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I think if your daughter is in need of shaving then there is no age...my daughter was picked on terribly in first grade because her legs were "furry" with thick black hair. I shaved her legs for many years and she was happy. She is 12 and can handle it on her own now. I could not have my child upset and embarrassed by her body. Shaving gave her confidence.

Chasity - posted on 09/19/2009

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I would think 9 is a bit young. Explain to your daughter that everytime she shaves it will come back darker and thicker then before. I had blond hairs that you couldnt see and I started to shave at like 11 I really wish I would of waited because now its black and if I miss one day I grow wires out of my legs. No need to shave now anyways its not like you need to impress anyone at 9 yrs anyways. Good luck and Im glad mine are still yrs away from this!

Joanna - posted on 09/19/2009

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I agree that 9 is too young, however what is her body hair like? If she is being made fun of and has a lot of very visible leg hair, maybe you should help her by shaving her legs for her or get her the sensitive skin hair remover creme. Sometimes we have to make adjustments for body type issues. There are also those razors that have the wires on them to help prevent cuts.

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I think she should start when she wants, she might go behind your back and do it anyways, its not like a piercing or tattoo, its shaving. I started at 8.

Vicki - posted on 09/19/2009

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I disagree with Natalie. At 9 my leg hair was much more abundant than it now is at 38. I had to shave my legs more often as a young teen than I now do as an adult. Armpits are another story. Mine didn't need to be shaved until about 12. Everyone is different. And remember young girls can be cruel.

Vicky - posted on 09/19/2009

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I go with the attitude that if the girl is disturbed by the hair on her legs and can handle the razor then teach her to shave. With many women opting to never shave their legs it is truly an individual, and family choice. My daughter was 16 (special needs) before she asked and I had her use Nair for a long time. Then she tried the electric razor, but found that awkward. She tried the disposable type at 18, but at 21 she only shaves when she is going to go to something very special like a formal dance. That also includes her underarm hair.

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I allowed my daughter at age 10, the hair was very thick and dark on her legs and she was extremely self-conscious. I debated as well, but in the end, I felt OK about it when I saw that this was one stress I could eliminate in her young life.

Terri - posted on 09/19/2009

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i told my girls age 12..Tried to explain to them how much of drag it is but..of course they dont believe it!

Tiera - posted on 09/19/2009

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I was so embarassed of my hairy legs when I was young. I had very blonde hair, but it was also very thick. Classmates were making comments by the time I was in the 4th grade. I was so humiliated that I refused to wear skirts or shorts until my mom let me start shaving. All of my classmates were shaving from the knee down by the 5th grade at least. I think I was in middle school when I started shaving. I wish my mom had let me shave sooner because it was really affecting my self esteem at school. I think an electric shaver would be ok because she would be less likely to cut herself.

Susan - posted on 09/19/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

Im not sure what age but i would suggest waxing. My mum didnt let me shave she told me to wax and now i have barely any leg hair and when it does grow back it is so fine its barely noticeable. I have thanked her for that ever since!!!



I told my oldest daughter that when she wanted to remove the hair on her legs she should let me know and I would take her to the salon and get her waxed.  If you never shave and wax from the very beginning then by the time they are 16 - 18 they will barely have any hair growing back if at all.



I took her to the salon just before her 12th birthday because she had started growing underarm hair and that was someting she definately wanted removed.



My 2nd daughter who is almost 11 has made several comments about her hair and I have told her that we will wax when she gets underarm hair.  I told her if she wanted to trim it a little with scissors that was fine.  



All my girls are blonde so their hair is very light on their legs so that made a difference with what age I thought was appropriate.  If my girls had dark black hair or someone at school was making fun of them I would have considerred doing it earlier.  I would have of course tried trimming the hair first.



I think 9 is too young, but if your daughter is being made fun of I would do what I could to make her life easier.



Susan 

Christy - posted on 09/19/2009

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I have a 9 year old daughter to and I am dealing with the same thing. I wasn't aloud to shave until I was 13 but times have changed because kids r more cruel about things then when we were growing up. So my thing is when you feel they're mature enough to except this responsibility then that's when it's time. Also, if they are being teased about there hairy legs then sit down and talk to them and you teach them the correct way to shave. I also suggest having a mommy and daughter day where you go and let her pick out her own razors and shaving cream this will make her feel a little more grown up.

Diane - posted on 09/19/2009

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The age is not an important thing...if she is uncomfortable about it, then you as a parent have to decide what is right for her. If her using a razor makes it uncomfortable for you, then buy a good electric one for her. I remember growing up and my mother not letting me do things like shaving my legs, wearing nylons...and the deception began.

Debbie - posted on 09/19/2009

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I have two daughters, 15 and 13. They started to shave their legs when they were 12 years old. I bought them electric/battery-operated shavers because I thought they were too young for razors. My 13 year old just switched to a razor, but I give her the disposable one that I've used and dulled. She has cut herself, but not badly because the blade was dull.

Anne - posted on 09/19/2009

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If she needs it, if she's uncomfortable with the darkness/ thickness of the hair growth, why not?

my daughter is 11 and has been shaving since 9 only because she was uncomfortable with the hair on her legs as she has dark hair and was noticable. if it was not noticable then no she would not have started. i did not start till high school

Michelle - posted on 09/19/2009

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My daughter is 9 and already shaves her legs is very self conscious about her looks, and tends to look up to celebritys such as Jordan (Katie Price) this is not to my liking but with the media today societys changing kids are def growing up to quickly these days

Alison - posted on 09/19/2009

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Hi, my daughter was very hairy too and was starting to get teased at school. She was very self concious so we made the decision to take her to get her legs waxed rather than shaving. It wasn't the most plesant experience for her the first time but after that she looked forward to it. She only needs them waxed every six weeks rather than shaving them every 4 or 5 days!

Each to their own, but if she is self concious about it I would seriously consider it

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Well, glancing through the opinions; I have to say that having raised four children two girls and two boys that nine....9.... is just a little girl so if it is not necessary don't let her. I work in the school system and these children are not being given time to be CHILDREN. It is sad. Now, on the other side of the coin if your daughter is particularily hairy or has dark hair and is being picked out by other children then you have to consider your options. No one wants their children to be bullied. Lead with wisdom not what everone else is doing. If it is a self esteem situation then yes teach her the proper way do shave... if not then allow her to be the little girl she deserves to be , she will grow up way to fast as it is.

Holly - posted on 09/18/2009

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I think it depends on when she starts her menstrual cycle. But even so I think 11 is a good age. Even then though if she doesn't have that much hair on her legs and kids aren't picking on her too much she could possible wait until she is 13. Maybe I could be a little old fashioned. I think 11 is good though.

Kimberly - posted on 09/18/2009

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I AGREE, 9 IS TOO YOUNG!...bUT, DOES SHE HAVE DARK HAIR WHERE IT BOTHERS HER?? tHIS COULD CAUSE SOME UNEASY FEELINGS FOR HER ESPECIALLY IF OTHER KIDS ARE TEASING HER! jUST A tHOUGHT FOR YOU.

Ann - posted on 09/18/2009

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Oh man, I hear ya!!!

If her legs are getting hairy, show her now...there's so many nifty new shavers out there, can be really fun.

Lisa - posted on 09/18/2009

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I agree 9 is too young... but there are exceptions to the reason: Is she doing it, because she has embarrassing leg hair and is being taunted by her peers or is she doing it to fit in with her peers?

If its the first reason, I say, take her to the salon to get waxed, she won't have to worry about shaving everyday and will less likely get ingrown hairs.

But if it's the second tell her to wait until at least 8TH grade.

Rose - posted on 09/18/2009

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Quoting Tammy:

I must chime in here. I do not feel this is an AGE subject. To me its about Self image, self esteem and maturity. In saying that MANY girls bodies mature very well before their mentally mature. My daughter was approx 9 years old and came home crying one day because the kids at school were extremely cruel. Girls are extremely catty and cruel and will look for any little thing that they can to pick on you about. My daughter was in the in crowd, but had dark course hair, but her leg hair wasn't noticeable in any extreme. Just my .02 cents



I totally agree with you Tammy!  Kids can be very caddy.  I would let my daughter wax her legs once she asks me.  If she is asking there is a reason for it.  Parents are so quick to say NO don't give in to peer pressure, but we as adult shave because of peer pressure as well.  I challenge any woman to not shave for a month, wear a skirt and then go get a pedicure.   LOL  We sometimes forget what it's like to be young and insecure.

Sandra - posted on 09/18/2009

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I held out until she turned 10 1/2. She said the kids were teasing her about her hairy legs. So I decided it was time. I was teased as a child and I did not want her to go through what I went through. Actualy she's been very responsible about it. She shaves

about twice a week. and she loves the way her legs feel. It has been a nice experience

for us. I let her pick out her shaving cream and razor. I don't think my daughter at nine

could have handled the responsibilty of shaving. It's no walk in the park shaving another persons legs. I showed her a few time and thank god she got the hang of it!!! at nine I think I would have had to have done it for her. so, I would wait till 10 or eleven.. hope this helps!!

Rhonda - posted on 09/18/2009

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I let both of my girls start the summer before middle school. That is when they start going through the real changes. They have locker rooms after gym. They have all of the other girly stuff starting. Why start them off too young. Lets face it a 9 year old could scar their legs for life if they don't know what they are doing and that is a lot more to deal with than some hair in 4th grade.

Rose - posted on 09/18/2009

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I don't think age matters. I would rather have my daughter confident and feel good about herself than hiding her body by wearing long pants all summer. Someone in a previous post said that if you give in eventually she'll ask for makeup, tatoos, etc. That is a completely different situation. Kids don't tease you for not wearing makeup or not having a tatoo. Plus at 12 or 13 you can talk to your teenager and address peer pressure better. Hopefully by 13 your child will be more confident to not listen to peer pressure, but you can't expect a 9 year old to be OK with being teased, which is what will happen. I say let her shave or wax if she is asking.

Rabecca - posted on 09/18/2009

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I let my oldest at 10 because thats when she got embarassed by her legs. Ill probably have to let my younger daughter do it even earlier because shes already getting dark leg hairs at 5.

Deborah - posted on 09/18/2009

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When you say so. You are the parent, not society. You are the one that is responsible for your child and I and anyone else would be out of line to suggest to you or your daughter tha it is "OK" to shave her legs at nine. Who is she trying to impress? I finished raising my last child 4 years ago...They knew before that time came that they would have to abide with the rules under my roof or they would have to find a job and "see ya". Children are growing up too fast because we as parents "feel" we do our child an injustce becasue they aren't doing what the others do. Guess what, the other children and their parents will not stand up for your child if or when they get into trouble. Growing up is hard to do, even when I was coming up. Then, until now parents cannot soften the blows of growing up...it is a process everyone that is older had to deal with and those coming up with your child and behind your child will be dealing with the same issues. She wants to be a big girl, let her know why you say "No" if that is your choice, and she will learn to except delays and authority. God doesn't give/let us have things right away, so why do parents do that to their off spring? If I sound a bit hard nosed, I'm not, I see things in a different perspective.

Kizzie - posted on 09/18/2009

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at nine she shoud not have hair,however this is just to young are u guys in shows or something?

Frené - posted on 09/18/2009

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WAX! WAX! WAX! - regardless of age, when it becomes an issue - WAX! WAX! WAX!

Mechele - posted on 09/18/2009

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One of my daughters has very dark thick hair and she had to start shaving her legs when she was ten because kids were making fun of how dark and hairy they were. I felt at the time it was too young, but the other kids were making her cry and it broke my heart, so I taught her. My younger daughter didn't start shaving until she was 13, but her hair was blonde. Good luck...everyone has to decide for themselves if their daughters are ready. Remind her that once you start, it grows in so much darker and you have to keep it up.

Frené - posted on 09/18/2009

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Age is not the main issue - maturity and circumstances prevail...

however please WAX from the start iso shaving as waxing softens the hair and also lightens the colour....

mom with experience...

Tammy - posted on 09/18/2009

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I must chime in here. I do not feel this is an AGE subject. To me its about Self image, self esteem and maturity. In saying that MANY girls bodies mature very well before their mentally mature. My daughter was approx 9 years old and came home crying one day because the kids at school were extremely cruel. Girls are extremely catty and cruel and will look for any little thing that they can to pick on you about. My daughter was in the in crowd, but had dark course hair, but her leg hair wasn't noticeable in any extreme. Just my .02 cents

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Agree! There is a sense of sophistication that goes along with a girl shaving her legs. My daughter started asking when she was 9, but she was also blooming. I told her she had to wait until she was 12. Believe me, it was the 1st thing she did when she got up the morning of her 12th birthday! However, altho' I initially said no make-up until 16, I flexed on that and allowed lipstick at 13. She and her girlfriend would experiment with real make-up during their sleep-overs, neither one of the parents objecting to that. When I saw how modest and well she had learned to apply, I slowly gave in. It's really no surprise that she was wanting to be an esthetician, or however you say it :D

April - posted on 09/18/2009

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I think it's your own personal preferance. My daughter, Alaina is also 9 yrs. old and she has been asking me if she can start shaving her legs. I'm thinking about it. I will probably get her an electric razor and let her start shaving. I don't see much harm in it.

Anna - posted on 09/18/2009

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Yes nine is too young . I don't belive they should try to grow up so fast. I didn't let mine shave until she was in the 7th grade when all the other girls were.

Shawnte - posted on 09/18/2009

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I was 20 years old before I shaved my legs for the first time. Now I don't think my daughter is going to be that old but times have changed. So, girls should be allowed to shave when they are concerned about it and they are responsible enough to do so.

Sheilagh - posted on 09/18/2009

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I thought 9 was too young until this year. My daughter is ten and I told her we will discuss it again around 7th or 8th grade. She doesn't need to now, the hair is barely noticable. I have a friend that has a daughter that is the same age but has dark (very dark) leg hair. She was so embarrased she had not worn shorts or a skirt for the last two years. It was effecting her self esteem. She started shaving her legs this summer and it did wonders for her self esteem. Now I realize it has to be considered on a case by case basis. Is it just because her friends are doing it? Or is it deeper. Talk to your daughter, find out why she wants to at this time. Good luck!

Anastasia - posted on 09/18/2009

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I agree with most of the moms here. I mean, she won't believe you when you tell her it'll be a pain in the butt for the rest of her life (lol), but if her hair is dark, then she should shave if she wants to. If it's blond and she's doing it because her friends are, that's just silly.

TaraLovinJahzariah - posted on 09/18/2009

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Yes,nine is too young she should wait til she enter middle school

Cassie - posted on 09/18/2009

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We just went through the same thing. Our answer came when soccer started the shin guards really started cause issues with the leg hair and rash like problems. We used VEET instead of shaving that way we did not have to worry about her cutting herself. Now there are no more issues!!!

Tammy - posted on 09/18/2009

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my oldest girl was 9 yrs. old, BUT I only let her do it once a month and she turned 10 and was getting hair underneath her arm I started letting her shave more. it different with each child. it depends on if you think they are mature enought to. and some girls are some much hairer than others. Hope this will help you out!

Ann - posted on 09/18/2009

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My daughter started when she began Middle School and had to change for gym everyday, and she uses the Veet - foam, not a razor for both her legs and underarms, where does the time go

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