Where to leave my son when I go on holiday

Natasha - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




Me and my husband won a trip to go to Paris, Europe next month. I have a 7 1/2 month old baby. My mom looks after my son everyday since i went back to work. Now my questions is our trip is for 10 days and I want to leave my child with my mom who he knows and loves. My husband wants to leave my son with his parents. My in-laws lives out of town so my son does not know them very well. This will be the first time that we will be away from my son for such a long time, and now to take him out of his comfort zone and my mother who he knows will not be the best for him by placing him for a few days with my in-laws who he does not know very well. I can not stand the thought of him crying cause he feels very stranged. Could you please give me advice on what to do if you were in my shoes.


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Caroline - posted on 03/07/2011




This is a good chance for u and your husband to reconnect and what wonderful city to do that in. See if your in laws would be willing to stay at your house then u could split up the time they spend with him along with your mom. That way he is still in comfortable surroundings and your mom can also make sure they stick to the his routine and schedule which is so important at that age. Also if he gets sick then your mom will be close by and will know how to handle things if your in laws become overwhelmed. Babies have a lot of stuff so it will be so much easier on everyone if it's all in one place. Have fun in Paris.

Angela - posted on 08/13/2009




I think it is a great idea to discuss this with your husband and both sets of Grandparents. You have expressed that you will feel more comfortable leaving your son with your mum, mostly because he is accustomed to your mum and her environment. I think if you do decide to leave your son with your husband's parents then I would suggest spending some time with your son and his paternal Grandparents in their home to help you and your son become accustomed to them and their home environment before you leave him. The third alternative - take him with you!

Christy - posted on 08/13/2009




I couldn't agree more with the other posts. They are all great advice. I would sit down with my husband and talk it out. It may even be a good idea to have a dinner or cookout or something at your home and invite both sets of grandparents to come so that you could all discuss the situation and get their input. I know it can be hard to explain to your in-laws the reason you want your little one to stay with your parents, just remember that your mother-in-law is a mommy too, and may have been through similar situations when hers were young. She'll understand, and be able to relate. This way it isn't just left up to the two of you to argue it out over which set of parents will be keeping him, and your husband will love you all the more for including his parents. I hope this brings you a little closer to a resolution to your situation.

Ilse - posted on 08/13/2009




I can totally understand where you are coming from since i have been in simiular prediciments. It is so hard to get ur partner to understand some things when it comes to ur child. U need to tell him that ur reasons for wanting ur son to stay with ur mum is and that it doesnt have anything to do with either of the families but ur son. Babys need routine and thrive on it. They love the comfort of what they know. Im sure that ur partner will understand if you sit him down when hes in a good mood and try to make him understand. Also u need to tell him that it will be hard on u 2. Maybe u can suggest that he have sleep overs at his parents more offen when u get back from ur holiday or something similar:) Its always good to come to some sort of comprimise and to make sure that everyone is fine with the plans:) For ur son it is best he be where he knows but u know that already:) Good luck and enjoy ur holiday!

Benessa - posted on 08/13/2009




Ms. Natasha, I would speak with both my mother and my mother in law ie: a conference call or 3 way... and see how they feel, because taking care of a baby is pretty strenuous, I would suggest that since your in laws are out of town maybe the can have him for 5 days in the beginning and then your parents for the last 5 day, this will accomplish 4 things it will give the little fella time to get to know his other grandparents, and it will give your mother time to spend with him since you will be gone such a long period of time.... They will be making it convenient for both grandparents, and giving all some piece of mind....Make no mistake you will miss the little fella the minute you take him for the stay... A good mom knows it's stressful on all but if the two set of grand parents are willing to accommodate meeting in the middle to take over for the next 5 days all should be well.... That's what I would do......

Benessa Russell: silkysender@aol.com

Rachelle - posted on 08/13/2009




wow thats a big thing to do at a young age, but its probably best with your mum who he knows as it will be stressful enough for him without you anyway so he needs the next closest person he feels comfortable with.

Gemma - posted on 08/13/2009




You could leave him with your mum for half of the time and his parents the rest of the time, and they could stay at your house so your son had familier surroundings. Whenever my husband and I go away thats what we do apart from the in-laws staying at our house, because my son sees all of his grandparents very regularly. Good Luck and enjoy your trip.

MARIA - posted on 08/13/2009




Listen I totally agree with you your son shouldn't be taken away from his comfort zone. I'm sure your husband wants the baby to spend time with his parents but 10 days is a long time especially when he is not well aqainted with them. You should tell your husband exactly what you wrote here. You couln't have said it better. I can't help but ask is this maybe a I'm the husband I make the choices kind of deal cause it's kind of egotistical to not look at the facts and demand that your son goes to his parents. Maybe there is a my mom your mom issue. I couldn't stand the thought of being so far away and my baby being upset either. Cause it's not like you can just jump on a plane and fly back at the snap of a finger.

By the way I live in Greece and everyday on the news here they keep talking about France and how the Swine flu is crazy overe there. Schools won't be opening as it seems at this point.Children will be home schooled because of the flu. Check that out before you make the trip. Maybe you might need to postpone. For your own saftey and for the saftey of your son.

Lucy - posted on 08/13/2009




Definately leave him with your mum. otherwise you'll worry and won't enjoy your holiday. Explain this to your husband and maybe suggest that he stays with your in-laws for a weekend or something when you are in the country, or you could all visit them together so you and your son feel more comfortable with them.
Honestly it's clear that you want your mum to care for him while you're away, in your situation i would feel the same. Don't feel bad about it. It really makes sense and you're doing the best thing for your son by leaving him with someone he knows.
Feel confident in your decision and enjoy your holiday xxx

Hadleigh - posted on 08/13/2009




If i was you i would leave him with your Mum. You and your bub with both feel happier!

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