Who's last name should bub have, mum, dad or both

Kristy - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )




when a cple arnt married what last name should the baby have, mums, dads or both


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Leeanna - posted on 07/09/2012




My son has my last name then his dads..

Does that mean i have all rights to my son because he has my last name?

Jenny - posted on 05/18/2010




Whatever works best for you and your partner. Hyphenating would be ideal but that doesn't work for many names. My children both have my last name and we are unmarried but still together. If you have valid passports it should avoid travel complications.

Krista - posted on 05/18/2010




It depends on your situation. Me and my fiancee aren't married, and when our daughter was born we decided to give her his last name. We are getting married next spring, and I will taking his last name as well. We thought it is easier to give her his last name right from the start and then we won't have to change it after we tie the knot!

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Without proper identification to prove that your child is yours, you would have to have a special form signed by the father and notarized for you to have permission to travel with that child.....it can all be avoided by having your last name on the certificate! Be smart ladies!

Otherwise, I'm pretty traditional and I think the child typically should take the father's last name!

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Both! And for a specific reason.....when the mother is travelling with the child, especially outside the country and the father isn't present it could pose a problem. The mother needs identification to prove they're related and the easiest way to do that is for the child to have her last name. My daughter has both our last names with a hyphen to seperate them!

Firebird - posted on 05/18/2010




I think the baby should have the dad's last name or both, unless the dad wants nothing to do with the baby, in which case it only makes sense for baby to have mom's last name.

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i strongly believe that if you're with the dad, and honestly dont see you two breaking up anytime, then the baby should have the dads last name. however, if you're unsure about your relationship, especially if you think he may take off if you guys break up, then it would probably be better to give the baby your last name. you could always hyphenate, too. its all a matter of personal preference. i gave my daughter her dads last name, but we're getting married this summer, a little over a year since she was born, and im taking his last name, so we wont have a problem. good luck with your decision!

Terrie - posted on 05/18/2010




my daughter has my last name, but her dad and I are getting married this summer and we are considering hyphenating her name.

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This is a toughy because it all depends on personal opinion.

When my mother had me she was unwed and my father was not there. I had her last name. If a couple are together but unwed I would say the baby should take Dad's name. It's the only real bond they get to have with their Dad, should he choose not to be in the picture.

Kate CP - posted on 05/18/2010




TRADITIONALLY, it's Dad's name. However, nothing is really "traditional" so it's whatever you're most comfortable with.

Ashley - posted on 05/18/2010




I think if you arent with the dad and the dad isn't gonna be in the childs life then moms last name but if you are in a relationship with dad that is gonna last or your married then dad's ... I had this fight with my mom when I had my first she said the baby's last name had to be mine but I stuck to my guns and gave my daughter her dad's last name because we were planning on getting married sometime lol and I didnt see him going anywhere so when it was time for our second child if she still thought it should have my last name she never said anything lol.. but I mean its up to how you feel about it if you plan on marrying this guy sometime after baby is born why pay tio have the last name changed to his once you do get married save yourself some money and give the child dad's last name .. if your relationship isnt working that good or your not together then give the child your last name ... sorry its soo long

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My eldest daughter has my surname, while my other 2 have their fathers name (my first is with an ex). My ex was never in the picture so i never even considered giving her his last name. With my other 2 there dad has been there since day dot, n i never thought of not giving them his surname. All a father has really to bond with his baby, is the fact they share the same surnames, mums get to feed them, carry them for 9 months, feeling them kick and move. A father doesn't get to have any of that. I think that if daddy has been there supporting you then you should give baby his surname.

Angie - posted on 05/18/2010




I think the child should have mom's last name. It's almost certain that mom will always be in his life but Dad may not and it will be confusing when he gets older. I have a friend with 3 children with 3 different last names and only 1 of the dads in the the kids life. It's really sad.....

Amanda - posted on 05/18/2010




I'm not married either and my daughter has her father's last name. I never even considered hyphenating, although, I did consider giving her my name but decided against it. It's a personal decision that only you can make, what feels right to you?

Karen - posted on 05/18/2010




i personally think that if mom and dad are together then baby should have dad's name - if on the other hand dad isn't in the picture at all, then definately baby has mom's name.

Anna - posted on 05/18/2010




I am married, but my last name is hyphenated. We were originally going to hyphenate my son's last name, but for some reason that confuses people, so to save him having to explain to everyone what hyphenation means, we made his middle name my maiden name and he took his dad's last name.

Jayne - posted on 05/18/2010




mums. when you get married then you both change names. although if you are together maybe consider hyphenating.

Tracey - posted on 05/18/2010




I think the baby should have the dads last name. well thats what i think, you could have both if u cant decide.

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