why do people open there mouths to change foot ??

Valerie - posted on 01/24/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )




i was working with a lady at the weekend who has five kids. i have a daughter who is seven . we have tried for another child but it hasnt happened for us. my point is this lady said that i couldnt leave the child without a sibling and i should adopt. she said that my daughter would not be socially able to share and that she would be lonely.she really got to me and made me very angry.i have always thought my daughter to share and i can only help her if shes lonely . she is very happy and has loads of friends. to be honest i have got to a stage were as a family, we are happy . im sorry im venting ha ha. i just feel that sometimes other people should think before they speak.


B - posted on 01/24/2011




Being a social child has nothing to do with siblings. I have 3 sisters and I am not as out spoken or a social as my only child, She is involved in so many activities and has so many friends I feel like have more than one child on most days. That is not the case for some other only children I have spoken to. I do not believe you should listen to anyone that has not walked in your shoes.

Julie - posted on 01/24/2011




on the bright side you dont have the sibbling rivalry going on ha ha no seriously just ignore her. not all one child families miss out if your sociable then your child will be.


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Tracy - posted on 01/25/2011




Wow, sounds like some lady needs to mind her own business. I'm an only, and I've known lots of only children that are quite well adjusted. And I've known lots of people from large families that are horrendously messed up. It's not the number of siblings, it's the parents. If one works for you, so be it. And tell anyone who tries to demand you do it differently to choke on thier foot.

Anna - posted on 01/25/2011




To answer the question you posed in your thread title, I'd say the answer is likely a driving need to meddle in other people's business and a conviction in their own correctness. But who can say for sure. ;)

My husband was an only child, and he's a social person who shares quite well. *nudge nudge jab jab*

Karen - posted on 01/25/2011




Each to there own is what we say in Wales, this woman should mind her own buisiness.

Valerie - posted on 01/25/2011




thanks again all. u have giving me loads to think about . thanks for making me feel better xxxx

Belinda - posted on 01/24/2011




If the topic comes up again and you feel the need to defend yourself (which you shouldn't) point out that there was a study completed recently that showed that although children who had no siblings may have entered preschool a little socially delayed, by the time they were 3 or 4 there was no longer any difference between children coming from homes with or without other siblings. ( I may have got my ages wrong but that was definitely the jist of the research.).

I have a brother and am pretty shy, I tend to stay away from really social activities, my husband on the other hand was an only child and is the most social being I know.

Kathy - posted on 01/24/2011




Some people are just ignorant. We went through the same thing. My husband would tell people that we didn't have a second child not from lack of sharing his baby batter! That shut them up. My daughter was also a very well-adjusted, happy, social only child. We got to the point where we got very comfortable with our little family. Glib come backs worked with ignorant people. We did end up with a surprise bundle of joy when our daughter was 7. Of course then all we heard about was the age difference! We just smile and say it was all fate.

Bonnie - posted on 01/24/2011




It's no one's business but yours. You decide what you want for your family. Tell the woman to go have a child then.

~Jennifer - posted on 01/24/2011




...you'll also always know "who did it" when something gets broken!

I'm an 'only child' and I'm quite social.

Tell the woman to stick it.


Stifler's - posted on 01/24/2011




I agree. I hate when people say these type of things with no evidence.

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