Why does my teenager not want to hang out with me anymore? I miss him he is 14...any advice


Kathy - posted on 07/15/2010




To put it simply-you are not cool. He would much rather hang with his friends than with his family at any given moment. My 14yr old daughter is the same. We still make sure she does her chores, and there are limits to when she can be gone, online, texting, etc.. Of course we suck but I don't care. I don't have to be her friend, I do have to be the best parent I can be. Someday she will realize just how awesome I am again-so will your son!

Sherri - posted on 07/15/2010




Simply because they are a teenager. It is about right for there friends to become more important at this age.

Deborah - posted on 07/15/2010




When I was 14 I pratically hated my mum, she was always my mum and I always loved her, but I hated the rules (which were completely logical and normal) and there comes a stage where its "uncool"

Once I left home at about 19 me and mum got close again, now she's my best friend.

Its just a phase and perfectly normal.


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Andrea - posted on 07/15/2010




Very simple he's a teenager. I didn't want to hang with my parents at 14 no way no how.

Jane - posted on 07/15/2010




Plain and simple....it's because he's a 14 year old boy. He'll come around in about 3 years :) My youngest is a boy and almost 17...he's starting to like hanging out with us again. Yours will get there too!

Nichole - posted on 07/15/2010




My brother was like that at that age. He didn't want to hang out with any of the family. The more you pushed him the further he withdrew. Seem better to just let him come to us and in time he got better.

Joanna - posted on 07/15/2010




I was going to put "because he's a teenager", but Sherri pretty much took the words right out of my mouth.

I stopped wanting to spend time with my mom when I was about 15, and it wasn't until I moved out of the house at 19 that I wanted to start spending time with her again. IT's a sad, pretty long phase, but it's a part of growing up. Just give him his space but know you are there when he needs you.

Jennifer - posted on 07/15/2010




sounds like a regular 14 year old boy to me! what does he like? try taking interest in the things he likes, but don't make it too obvious, and don't fake it because he will see right through it.

i was never a 14 year old boy (lol), but i have been a 14 year old girl once and i've always loved my mom, i never went through the "ew, don't hug me in public" phase and i think it has a lot to do with my parents always letting me be who i was. i've always been into tattoos and piercings and while there was a very strict "not until you are 18" rule, my parents let me have interest in those things, they never belittled it.

good luck, my son is only 8 months old and i am already scared of him growing up because i don't want to go through this!

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