Why Doesnt He Ask About His Daughters?

Alona - posted on 01/12/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Why doesn’t he call?
My ex-fiancé recently broke it off. It was an abusive relationship. Reason: Misunderstanding on his part. Now that we are done he doesn’t even call or email about his children. Why is that? Our daughter just had her 2nd birthday and not one word, call, card, email from him on her birthday. I just don’t get it. How can he just leave us over something so small? Now I am alone raising my daughters by myself, no help from him or his family, just all the support from my family and friends. WHY DO FATHERS DO THIS TO THEIR CHILDREN! They weren’t complaining while making them, why don’t they even call to check on them? It’s just shellfish


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Jodi - posted on 01/12/2014




How long has it been? When my husband and I split (years ago), he disappeared off the face of the earth for 6 months (well, he still went to work, but I have no idea where he lived and he didn't contact us). That was the way he dealt with the blow of the ended relationship. When he finally came back into our lives, he told me the reason he did that was because it hurt too much to think that I would probably move on and find some other guy and our son would then have another father, so it was easier just to cut us off altogether. Now, I would NEVER have done that to him, but that was just his way of thinking at the time, and he needed to work through his hurt and this is how he dealt with it. He has never been the best dad to his son, he has been a little inconsistent (and never consistent with child support) but they have a good relationship now, and that's all that matters.

I just wanted to share to give you a perspective on why it might happen for some people, and that it doesn't always mean they are a bad person, just someone who needs to find their own way of coping.

Ev - posted on 01/12/2014




Not all fathers do this. There are plenty that do the right thing by their children that they have. And there are also women who walk off and do not even try to show interest in their children. It goes both ways. You can not force him to love your kids, contact your kids, or anything else. What you do need to do is set custody up, visitation and child support. At least you do have your family and friends to help you or support you how they can. I can not answer that question at all as I am not the father or a man to be honest.

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