Why is my 3 year old aggressive with others?

Laura - posted on 01/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Every Sunday we take My oldest son, 3, to the nursery in church and he always gets in trouble! This week he pinched another kid and they scratched him back and drew blood! He has a younger bro, about 2 and he gets a little pushey with him too but we are there to interfere. He listens to us but not the nursery workers. What should I do, it is sooooo exasperating telling him not to push, hit, bite, or pinch over and over......... I dont know what to do! HELP!


Kate CP - posted on 01/22/2012




Trying to talk to him after the fact is pointless. He's getting angry and acting out because he can't communicate with others very well (because he's three). I would suggest some role playing. Get some stuffed animals and some toys together and tell him you want to play a game with him called "I'm angry!" You take a stuffed animal or a toy and he takes one and he grabs the toy from you and you say "That makes me angry! I was playing with that! That hurts my feelings and I'm angry that you took my toy!" You can stomp your feet, shout a little, even make angry faces...but don't get physical. Then repeat it with him: take HIS toy and help him use words to tell you he doesn't like it.

Kids often don't know how to deal with anger because we don't want them to get physical with it...but when they yell, stomp their feet, cry, or become emotional in other ways we tell them it's not okay to throw a tantrum. It's OKAY to be angry! It's a normal healthy human emotion! It's NOT okay to hurt people.


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Tinker1987 - posted on 01/22/2012




Try talking to him,and telling him he needs to respect what the Nursery workers are saying,he obviously listens to his parents but he needs to know that there are other people he needs to listen too as well. i would imagine its just a phase.

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