Wild Teenager

Michka - posted on 05/11/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 13 year old son always gets in trouble. He is a good child but he does not listen. He gets suspended all the time and yet its never his fault. And he complains no one understands, no one believes him. Its been going on for nearly 9 years. Any suggestions? PLEASE??!!


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JuLeah - posted on 05/11/2011




The longer it takes him to learn to be accountable, the harder his life will be. I know people in their 50's who blame others for all their troubles, complain that no one understands, and no one believes them .... these people are not living adult lives ... most are criminals actually, as that is the criminal mindset.
I am not saying your kid is a criminal, but his thinking is a concern and the longer he is allowed to get away with it the harder it will be. He can't think you believe his lies.
Were he mine, I'd get him out of his own life. I'd force a volunteer position on him. I'm make him work for people in need, people with real problems. I'd teach him how his skills, his smarts, his abilities can be used and are needed to ease the suffering of others. I'd teach him that the words needs him to heal. He was put on this planet for a reason, so he needs to figure out what that reason is and get to work. He needs to leave this world better then he found it, but will only be motivated to do that, if he understands how very important he is to our future.

Jodi - posted on 05/11/2011




If this has been going on for 9 years, it has been since he started school? Are you having problems at home too? What is he doing that is causing him to be suspended at school? I think you AND he need some professional counselling. There is a possibility there could be a medical disorder here too. If it had only been going on a couple of years I wouldn't suggest that, but given it has gone on practically all his life - seek some help. Talk to your doctor about it.

Michka - posted on 05/11/2011




Actually I know he is at fault, he says he is not. But talking to him is always a drag, it never stops, its a constant, but ... , so....., ok never mind...., yes i know but.... Its draining me.

Louise - posted on 05/11/2011




As a parent you have to support the school and sit down with them and get to the bottom of this. If he is getting suspended he must be doing something wrong. Is there a personality clash between student and teacher. You can not ignore the fact that he is at fault here and try to work with him to put this right. maybe he needs one to one tuition to see where he is going wrong. you can not say he is not at fault because he is. Help him by supporting the school and work together to help put this right.

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