Working mum, working step-dad & an 8 year old

Steph - posted on 04/07/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




my daughters real dad left when she was 2 weeks old and never wanted to know

I met my current partner 3-4 years ago we were friends first then soon after got together,

We moved in together into a new family house in 2013 but as time goes on my daughter and her step father argue more and more

Over big stuff like her attitude & rudeness and over little stuff like TV shows

I can't cope anymore......

Sometimes I take her side
Sometimes I take his side

Ultimately though I can't be in the middle anymore

What I need to know is this:

Do I stand by my daughter wrong or right because she's my flesh & blood and step dad is too strict
Do I back him up every time to try and get my daughter to drop this attitude she has


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Jodi - posted on 04/07/2015




Neither. What you and your partner need to do is actually sit down and decide on a parenting strategy TOGETHER. If you feel he is too strict and he feels you are too soft, then you need to work together to get on the same page. Sit down and set your household boundaries. Decide what is appropriate and what isn't, and also decide what some of the consequences may look like.

You shouldn't need to feel in the middle, and you won't if the two of you can work together rather than separately. Believe me, she will have this figured out and will find a way to play you off against each other if you don't get it together.

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