worst mom ever

Ashley - posted on 12/17/2009 ( 203 moms have responded )

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my daughter fell out of the carriage today in the store. she is fine just has a bump on her head but i feel like the worst parent ever. has anyhting like this happened to anyone else?

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Accidents happen - the important thing is how you respond to the accident. Did you immediately check to make sure that he was ok and if he needed medical attention? Did you give him what he needed even if it is just a big cuddle? Kids will have accidents - it a part of life. Our job is just to *try* and help them avoid the dangerous ones and to help them get the medical and emotional attention they need afterwards. Im sure you are a wonderful parent :)

Kathi - posted on 01/27/2010

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We can only protect them to a certain extent. Accidents happen and then we learn and can the next appropriate step to prevent it from happening again - if this is possible. If you have an active child....then patience my dear...patience. Also, in actuality you're a good mom for caring but don't beat yourself up - I am glad your daughter is okay!

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It has happened to most! My son fell head first off the couch when he was about 15 weeks old, totally fine, but I was a reck. My friends son fell out of his high chair on to the tiled floor, he got a bump on his forehead but was otherwise fine, and another friends son rolled off the change table at the pool and landed on the concret floor! It happens, you feel terrible, but that helps you next time.

Kerryn - posted on 12/19/2009

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All the time, I never had a car when my kids were little so all the shopping went in the back bag, which was fine till I over balanced the weight of baby with extra shopping, take hands off handle and there she goes, arse up, todler, baby and all, you would think I would learn but happened a few times. They all still as normal as can be expected with no damage but pride (Mine). Dont feel so horrid, it could be worse, just feeling so bad makes you a good parent, some wouldnt give a hoot.

Candice - posted on 12/19/2009

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you are not the worst mum ever and you are not a bad mum! you were not the first mum it happend to and you will not be the last mum it will happen to! ok. I remember when my oldest was only 3 months old and i was rocking her in her pram and i did not have her straped in. she was a belly sleeper and i rocked to hard and she sliped out the end and luckly landed on her nappy bad on the back of her head! I felt so bad and cried like a baby rang the hospital and everything was all right but i still felt bad. the worst mums ever are those who kill there own children. So intill u do that u are a good mum and dont u forget it!

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Amber - posted on 01/27/2010

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Don't worry about it if she isn't seriously injured! My daughter fell out of a swing not that long ago and it about scared me half to death and I felt the same way that you did. Things are going to happen. I think of it this way, if thats the worst thing that happens then I am lucky! lol

Tabitha - posted on 01/27/2010

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JUST THE OTHER NIGHT FOR THE FIRST TIME MY DAUGHTER GOT HER FIRST LUMP SHE IS 5 MONTHS OLD AND HER MUSICA PLAYER HAD FALLEN OFF ONTO HER HEAD CAUSING A LUMP I FELT LIKE THE WORST PARENT EVER I THINK IT IS A NORAL FEELING.

Amanda - posted on 12/23/2009

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Do not feel bad. Things happen. My oldest daughter decided to leave my and my husbands side at Burlington Coat factory and we could not find her. I had some lady make a big fuss about it and did not pay any attention to her, but it happens so do not lose sleep over this.

Mel - posted on 12/23/2009

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When I was working on checkouts there was a mum who came through she had a pram the one that has the toddler under neath and the newborn in a capsule type thing on top and the toddler pushed the capsule right onto the floor the baby fell and smacked its face very hard on the floor and was out for a few seconds then started screaming. Our managers recomended taking the baby to hospital to get checked but the mother just breast fed her and put her to sleep (which you dont do when your baby has a possible concussion). Dont feel bad sweety it was just an accident

Selina - posted on 12/23/2009

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Yes, over the summer my 2 year old son fell head first out the back of the carriage. My heart stopped and I freaked out. Thankful there was a nurse in the store to calm me down and let me know that he was OK. Needless to say that he no longer goes in the back of the carriage but always rides shot gun.

Tina - posted on 12/22/2009

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not sure if u got this, but when my Granddaughter was a bit over a mo. old i dropped the portable phone on her head! i felt like the worst Nana in the worls until my Daughter told me she bonked her head on something a few days earlier.

it isn't like you threw her out of the carriage! stuff happens, we learn from it and go on!

dont be so hard on yourself! just enjoy her and quit feeling bad, she is alright! now go give her a big kiss!

Tina

Tina - posted on 12/22/2009

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Oh Honey, it is life things happen, it isnt like you picked her up and threw her out! accidents happen! my granddaughter is a bit over 2 mo. about a mo ago i dropped the cordless phone and it landed on her head, I felt like the worst Nana in the world!

Then I found out her Mommy had bonked her head a few days earlier! its nothing you did! stuff just happens, we make sure they are alright and go on and learn from that! so dont be so hard on yourself!!!

Sharlene - posted on 12/22/2009

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lol -yes i know i shouldn't but seeing as how she is ok I feel its ok too!! This won't be the worst thing she does so fasten your seatbelt-you are in for a ride!! ;) we have all been there and you will be fine-just the guilt you are expressing shows that everything is normal and you are going to be awesome! x I swear my son used to use his forehead as a doorstop and as he is a whitey white child the bruises he collected were very prominent. He was my first baby and I was very conscious of the fact that he looked like an abused child! In fact once at a supermarket I remember an elderly lady following me around giving me the evils (Aslan had a particularly beautiful purple forehead!!)- to give her the big ups-at least she cared but eventually I got so exasperated I turned to her and said "for goodness sake (yes I did refrain from swearing with an effort) I am an intelligent woman -if I was going to hurt him i would do it where it didn't show!' lol she left me alone after that! Thankfully he now bruises where it doesn't show (he is 8 now). So don't worry you are a good mum with a normal child-keep a watchful eye but don't beat yourself up when things go a little awry!! xx Sharlene

Sharlene - posted on 12/22/2009

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lol -yes i know i shouldn't but seeing as how she is ok I feel its ok too!! This won't be the worst thing she does so fasten your seatbelt-you are in for a ride!! ;) we have all been there and you will be fine-just the guilt you are expressing shows that everything is normal and you are going to be awesome! x I swear my son used to use his forehead as a doorstop and as he is a whitey white child the bruises he collected were very prominent. He was my first baby and I was very conscious of the fact that he looked like an abused child! In fact once at a supermarket I remember an elderly lady following me around giving me the evils (Aslan had a particularly beautiful purple forehead!!)- to give her the big ups-at least she cared but eventually I got so exasperated I turned to her and said "for goodness sake (yes I did refrain from swearing with an effort) I am an intelligent woman -if I was going to hurt him i would do it where it didn't show!' lol she left me alone after that! Thankfully he now bruises where it doesn't show (he is 8 now). So don't worry you are a good mum with a normal child-keep a watchful eye but don't beat yourself up when things go a little awry!! xx Sharlene

User - posted on 12/22/2009

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god my eldest feel over everything and went to a and e regulary as a babe n toddler.she is now 12 and is fine.dont worri.kids are kids.relax you are doing okay x

Danielle - posted on 12/22/2009

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I had to get up earlier than my husband, and I left the baby (10 mos.) in bed with him. I told my husband to cuddle up with the baby and proceeded to get in the shower. Five minutes later I heard a thump! I didn't even have to stop and think of what could have happened..the baby rolled out of our bed! My husband sat up in bed and had the nerve to ask me "what happened?" Feel better yet? :)

User - posted on 12/22/2009

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LOL. I love new parents. My third son was a little over a year old, was running across the school cafeteria and fell face first on the floor. He had caps on his teeth and they pushed up a little and made his gums gush blood. All the parents around with only one child freaked out. I just walked to him, took him by the hand and said let's go wash off. Now if that would have been my oldest child, I would have paniced and wanted to bring him to the hospital for x-rays.



You'll get used to the bumps, cuts and bruises as she gets older. Chin up! You would be the worst parent ever if her falling DIDN'T bother you. You love her and care about her well-being, that makes you a perfect parent in my book. :)

Juwita - posted on 12/22/2009

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Yes but it doesn't mean you are a bad mother. accident happen sometimes...and sometimes there's nothing you can do to avoid that to happen. don't blame ur self too hard. what u can do is how to take care her bump and be more careful in the future.

User - posted on 12/22/2009

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My daughter fell out of a shopping trolley when she was a toddler. I took her straight to the doctor, who checked her over and she was fine...but I felt terrible and thought I wasn't a good mother for allowing such a thing to happen. It took me ages to feel OK about the incident. Sometimes these things just happen. She has since grown into a beautiful young woman with 1 daughter of her own and another on the way.

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Dont beat yourself up too much, everyone has fallen and hurt themselves, it really isnt your fault. I know that we are all saying the same thing, it is because children are not stationary, they move, fall and occasionally get hurt. It sucks but I doubt that it will be her last time that she will get hurt.

Joyce - posted on 12/21/2009

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Our little ones are so curious and FAST! Mine rolled/dove off the bed three times. Once before he was rolling, and twice when I was sitting on the bed with him. He was just too fast!! He was fine all three times and I beat myself up over it every time. www.babiesinthewilde.blogspot.com

Dwan - posted on 12/21/2009

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I felt that way before, like when my daughter who was about 6 months old at the time, managed to hook her mouth with the small bungee cord that my husband had on the baby gate to hold it in place when we were not using it. She was crying, I was crying and she was bleeding. I felt like the worst mother in the world cause she only feet from me and I couldnt get to her fast enough. That certainly wasnt the last time she got hurt either. She is 15months now and thinks she can do anything, which has caused a few bumps on the head. She still hasnt learned if she climbs on the furniture she may fall and hurt herself. No matter how hard you try to keep them from hurting themselves, it happens. I still feel bad when she gets hurts and wish I could have prevented it. They are tough and bounce back quick.

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Oh yes, My Son did the same thing... went head first out of the shopping cart had a huge egg on his head... So I garbed one of those ice packs you can break open and shake to get cold... put his head on a diaper with the ice pack in the back of the cart. He thought it was soooo funny. I felt horrible :-(

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i feel the pain! my son fell off the couch when he was 3 months old and i felt terrible! my mom told me not to worry that it happens all the time!

Dora - posted on 12/21/2009

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My one year old was starting to get impatient in the cart and started reaching over to grab stuff off the shelf. He knocked some stuff over, so I bent over to pick them up...then there he was, head first on the floor next to the stuff I was trying pick up. I was in shock and couldn't move...other people started crowding next to me and a woman was screaming for an ambulance...the store people kept telling me that it was my fault b/c I didn't strap him in...NO DUH - thanks for making me feel worse! The doctor said that as long as he wasn't unconscious or bleeding, I shouldn't worry about bruises and scrapes. Babies are more resilient than we give them credit for. Guess what? Now I strap him in every time whether he likes it or not.

Iysha - posted on 12/21/2009

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That is an accident! I can see if you got your child and threw her out of her carriage, then yes, I would have to say you were the worst mom ever. lol....I bump my daughters head on the corner of the wall on accident when I turn corners with her. lol. I feel bad, but it's an accident....My co-worker's husband dropped their son on cement....he was fine, just needed stitches. Parents have done a lot worse =]

Angela - posted on 12/21/2009

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You are not the worst mom. This type of thing happens quite often. One minute your child is totally helpless and literally the next minute they can climb on top of the kitchen cabinet to get to their favorite cereal. Next time you will remember to strap her in and be more aware of her advanced developments from baby to toddler. You are fine and you are a good mom.

Sima - posted on 12/21/2009

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Worse than worst ever. She fell out when I was shopping with my brother and his au pair and she wouldn't let anyone but the au pair hold her! Boo!

Jennifer - posted on 12/21/2009

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My daughter, Alex, who is 3 now fell out of her crib when she was only about 8 months to a yr old. She was trying to climb out while i had my back turned, folding laundry. She was ok, scared the crap out of herself. i had taken her to the emergency room just to make sure she was fine.

Emily - posted on 12/20/2009

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This not the same thing me... But i had an experience where i fell with my 4 month old daughter and she hit her head on the floor... You are not the worse mom ever... Moms has experiences all the time like this... Please dont feel bad, the main thing is she is ok and there were no damages done... I hope this hels...

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That's nothing, I once dropped my 6 week old bay down a set of 6 cement stairs b/c I forgot to lock her into her car seat!! I still believe there were angels around her head cause she didn't even get a scratch. So don't feel too bad, I think we have all had our share of big booboos. Amazingly, our babies seem to have some good cushioning.

Lisa - posted on 12/20/2009

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I sent my boys to look for chips at Walmart and was gone for a second and my son flipped out and landed on his head. Had a hug knot and some other lady was consoling him. Talk about feeling like a bad mom, she sure gave me a look. I thing is I never let them go by themselves, just that one time

User - posted on 12/20/2009

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my son fell/jumped out of his crib as i turned my back to get a diaper. he landed flat on his back and i was scaed silly. all was fine, thank God.

Allison - posted on 12/20/2009

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You should receive thousands of comments! My list gets to ten situations where I still really feel bad. Not noticing her shoes were too small, missed her ear infection until it erupted, chipping the top of her finger off....... they both still speak to me! And are in their late twenties!

Anita - posted on 12/20/2009

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My daughter was 2days old and I fell asleep feeding her during the night in the lounge room but woke up when she 'jumped' out of my arms and landed head first between the chair and coffee table. She didn't fall the the ground because she had her legs out and I just grabbed a leg and hoisted her back up. I was horrified with myself for allowing it to happen, I felt like the worst Mum ever!! But ever since my daughter has always 'jumped' or 'thrown herself' while you're holding her and she's now 17mths :) I don't beat myself up about it anymore as it's a part of my daughters nature :) Don't beat yourself up as you can read from all the replies it really does happen to most parents :)

Candice - posted on 12/20/2009

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your not the worst mom ever! when my lil guy was only 6weeks i used very hot water to warm his bottle, somehow the hot water got on his arm and burned him, he's 15mnths now and still has a lil scar from it. things do happen, and dont worry you'll have many moments where u will feel like the worst parent ever....BUT is your child happy, healthy and a roof over it's head? if you can answer yes to those, then your a good parent..a happy child tells you everything..everyone comments on how my lil guy is so happy all the time..dispite the burn, the falling off the couch, and a complete accidental nudge that made him loose balance and land into the coffee table..he doesn't hate me for it and he wont remeber (thank god!) but he's happy and healthy and thats what matters.

i kno its hard to think of that when something goes wrong but guess what? it's normal. and i'm not gonna sugar coat you do feel like a pos when it happens and for a few days but they dont resent you for it 'cuz you love them...they depend on you and when your a single parent you depend on them..their smiles, laughs, watching them do something new like a puzzle or finger paint, those are the things to remeber, dont focus on the negative.

Candice - posted on 12/20/2009

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your not the worst mom ever! when my lil guy was only 6weeks i used very hot water to warm his bottle, somehow the hot water got on his arm and burned him, he's 15mnths now and still has a lil scar from it. things do happen, and dont worry you'll have many moments where u will feel like the worst parent ever....BUT is your child happy, healthy and a roof over it's head? if you can answer yes to those, then your a good parent..a happy child tells you everything..everyone comments on how my lil guy is so happy all the time..dispite the burn, the falling off the couch, and a complete accidental nudge that made him loose balance and land into the coffee table..he doesn't hate me for it and he wont remeber (thank god!) but he's happy and healthy and thats what matters.

i kno its hard to think of that when something goes wrong but guess what? it's normal. and i'm not gonna sugar coat you do feel like a pos when it happens and for a few days but they dont resent you for it 'cuz you love them...they depend on you and when your a single parent you depend on them..their smiles, laughs, watching them do something new like a puzzle or finger paint, those are the things to remeber, dont focus on the negative.

Michelle - posted on 12/20/2009

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Well most of us must have done this or similar, often the first time we realise our little sweetharts can roll over is when they roll straight off the bed and on to the floor. We then realise we can no longer leave them on a suface and expect them to remain there, dont worry,,, babies are more hardy than we think too .

Jessica - posted on 12/20/2009

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once when my oldest son was in a shoppin cart he fell out on his head but there was no belts in them at that time!

User - posted on 12/20/2009

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Something like that. When my son was six months old i had him in an old baby carrier thing and it had like six buckels well i was trying to get him out of it and I dropped him! The floor he landed on was hard. I felt so bad. I asked a worker to call someone to look at him. They came and said he was ok but i still felt like crap! Things happen though

Jillinda - posted on 12/20/2009

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Yes, my daughter stood up in a shopping cart and fell out and I felt the same way as you do.

Mary Lynn - posted on 12/20/2009

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HAPPENED TO ME IN THE GROCERY STORE..MY DAUGHTER FELL OUT OF HER WAGON AND HIT HER CHIN:(

User - posted on 12/20/2009

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When my oldest was about a year old, umbrella stroller, he got the belt undone, we were going down stairs at the time, he was going face first, but I caught him just before he was to hit the sidewalk, I was so scared and freaked out. so ya, you are not the worst mom every, accidents happen! My son is now 26 and likes to tease me about that story, funny now, was not then!

Nicoléne - posted on 12/20/2009

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My husband once let our baby girl 'slide' our of a carry cot, nothing happend, she didn't even cry, but he was so upset he actually cried and felt faint...all pale and everything. You are not a bad parent, you just feel bad. Give you baby a kiss and feel better!!

Take care, Nicolene Smit, Calvinia, South Africa

Nicoléne - posted on 12/20/2009

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My husband once let our baby girl 'slide' our of a carry cot, nothing happend, she didn't even cry, but he was so upset he actually cried and felt faint...all pale and everything. You are not a bad parent, you just feel bad. Give you baby a kiss and feel better!!

Take care, Nicolene Smit, Calvinia, South Africa

Candice - posted on 12/20/2009

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your not the worst mom ever! when my lil guy was only 6weeks i used very hot water to warm his bottle, somehow the hot water got on his arm and burned him, he's 15mnths now and still has a lil scar from it. things do happen, and dont worry you'll have many moments where u will feel like the worst parent ever....BUT is your child happy, healthy and a roof over it's head? if you can answer yes to those, then your a good parent..a happy child tells you everything..everyone comments on how my lil guy is so happy all the time..dispite the burn, the falling off the couch, and a complete accidental nudge that made him loose balance and land into the coffee table..he doesn't hate me for it and he wont remeber (thank god!) but he's happy and healthy and thats what matters.

i kno its hard to think of that when something goes wrong but guess what? it's normal. and i'm not gonna sugar coat you do feel like a pos when it happens and for a few days but they dont resent you for it 'cuz you love them...they depend on you and when your a single parent you depend on them..their smiles, laughs, watching them do something new like a puzzle or finger paint, those are the things to remeber, dont focus on the negative.

Karen - posted on 12/20/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

worst mom ever

my daughter fell out of the carriage today in the store. she is fine just has a bump on her head but i feel like the worst parent ever. has anyhting like this happened to anyone else?



My Little man is always pulling stunts, whether its climbing on top of the tv or falling out or off of something.  If its not your fault, don't feel bad, just give them all the cuddles they need!  Thats what my mum told me, she's had 4 of us! 

Courtney - posted on 12/20/2009

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You're not the worst mom ever. Accidents happen. When my daughter was 1 month old, I had her in the car carrier in her room (it was much easier to carry her around in that while I was doing things around the house). I had the carrier on the floor and as I started to pick it up, the carrier flipped because the handle wasn't locked. Luckily she was only one inch off the ground and she was gently flipped onto the floor. I cried the whole day and quite a few times after that....feeling like the worst mom ever. My daughter is now six and has been told the story. She likes to retell it.

Joanie - posted on 12/20/2009

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I have had 3 children and 4 times now when they were infants my friends/family have come over to visit and I guess just didn't see them on the couch and has sat on them.... You would think I would learn to put cones up around them or something? But truth is when they little they flexible and they don't get hurt as easily as we think they do. Hold your head up.

Eva - posted on 12/20/2009

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honey i call those the boo-boos of life there are going to be many mare bumps and bruises don't feel like a bad mom it happens to all of us i promise eva is my name and boy i have been through the ringer with bumps bruises broken bones you name it i have ten and boy i thought i was going to go to the looney bin lol

Lori - posted on 12/20/2009

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My son was 2 when this mishap occured. Fortunately no bumps or bruises. My son is a accident waiting to happen though, so by this time I didn't get to alarmed. Picked him up and wiped a few tear and he was good to go. Scared him more than anything. Grandma was with when this happened and I think she cried for two days.

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