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would you celebrate your child's birthday on a holiday?

Camille - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )




a family member..invited friends and family to attend her childs birthday which is Mother's Day..not like she is doing something for the mother's that will be attending...would you go?


Jenifer - posted on 05/04/2010




yes,my son was born Nov.27,so his birthday fell on thanksgiving one year. Our family celebrated both that year. He was 7 that year,and felt very special that so many people came(he didn't put two and two together). Mothers day although important to remember is not so big it is more important than a kids b-day. It's not like stores are close and flights are booked. Moms always put kids above themselves, and this is what this mom is doing. Celebrate before and after, besides your kids will have fun at the party. You are not her mother so why should she celebrate you,were you going to bring something special for her? This day should be about the child.Young kids B-days are very important to them more important than a mothers need to be recognised.

Melissa - posted on 05/04/2010




I would go....I used to have to work on Mother's Day in retail at our local mall and I was the only mom that worked at the shop, I was even in management!!! =( I would much rather spend it at a birthday party than working! It could be worse....

Chinyere - posted on 05/04/2010




not really i wouldnt go cause mothers day is a day to spend time with your kids and your mom

Ann-Margret - posted on 05/04/2010




If it's a close family member, yes. My brother's birthday is Christmas Eve and my husband's birthday is the day after Christmas. As a family we celebrate them all together on Christmas Day. Remember Mother's Day is a day for families to celebrate Mom...why not do it together and make it tradition to do both :)

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yes, because it wont be every year that the childs birthday is on mothers day. and no offense, but mothers day isnt really a "holiday". i thought you were going to say christmas or something like that. i was born on fathers day, and because the day changes every year (could be on the 11, 12 etc) i would go. and like others have said, its not like it'll be the whole day, and if it is, you could go for just part of it.

Heather - posted on 05/04/2010




If they are close I would stop by, mingle, give the present and whatnot, and leave. I don't think an hour or so out of my day is too big of a deal. The mother will probably have some people not go and others stop by as well, so she probably won't do it again, but this is a child and you are an adult. Yes it's our day, but how would that child feel if no one came? maybe there was a reason she couldn't do it on Saturday?

Kristin - posted on 05/04/2010




Yes, Mother's Day falls on a different day each year. That child's birthday does not. I also see Mother's Day as being a family thing, not and everybody event.

While I do like the not going because you already have plans, you should really already have plans. Also, it's kind of punitive to the kid to not go when it's the adults who are a pain. The kindest and most civil thing to do is to stop in very briefly to wish the child a happy birthday and then depart, even if you have plans.

Alison - posted on 05/04/2010




I would not boycott it out of principle. That's just not considerate to the organizer. You are the one who needs to choose your priorities. It sounds like you really don't wanna go.

Camille - posted on 05/04/2010




thanks..great help and Gwen, if u knew this paticular family member...those words, it's almost like ur cursing them..they think the world revolves around them..I love my family but there are 1 or 2 that u would rather not be in the same room with..God Bless and Happy Mother's to all of you..

Gwen - posted on 05/04/2010




P.S. If you already have plans, just decline the invitation and say "Sorry we won't be able to make it, we already had plans for the day." That can happen even when there isn't a holiday involved.

Camille - posted on 05/04/2010




thank you everyone for taking the time..but I still have a problem; first - of - all, its a family member that is a's husband and daughter is planning my whole day for me..I have two options; suck it up for the sake of her child or send something in the mail.

Michelle - posted on 05/04/2010




I would go if the party were late in the afternoon. My grandmother was born on Christmas Day and we also celebrated Christmas during the morning hours and Popeye's birthday that afternoon.

September - posted on 05/04/2010




Yes I would go. You could always do something with your family for Mother's Day after the party. I'm in a similar situation as you. Our family will be celebrating our grandparents 65 wedding anniversary on Mother's Day and then celebrating Mother's Day afterwards. :) I’m cool with that!

Wendy - posted on 05/04/2010




yes i would go as a mother i would understand that she is putting her child first and herself last. not that mother's day is not important but what a finer way to spend it thanbeing the best mother you can be. my daughter was born on my 17th wedding anniversary and i promise the day belongs to her until she can truely understand the meaning of sharing the day with us.

Krista - posted on 05/04/2010




A kid always comes first. I would go if it were Mother's Day. Think about don't have to cook, you don't have to clean and you don't have to do dishes. What's not to like?!

Jonna - posted on 05/04/2010




Depends on how close the family member is. I probably would not go. Mother's day is important to me and I wouldn't want to spend the whole day with little kids. Send a card or gift if you want or stop by the day before to wish the child a happy birthday (after all it's not the kids fault his birthday is on mother's day), but don't feel obligated to go. Good Luck

Melissa - posted on 05/04/2010




Yes I would go!! Birthday parties only last for a short time and Mother's Day is all day! You should have plenty of time to spend with your little one(s) during and after the party.

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