You are not a doctor

Krista - posted on 08/29/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I'm assuming that there are no doctors using this website. However, if there are, they are the ONLY ones who can give medical advice to people on her. I get so outraged when I see people advising younger or newer moms to medicate their baby or toddler with Benadryl or cough and cold medication because they SUSPECT their child has allergies. Those types of medications are NOT to be given to a child under the age of 6 unless deemed necessary by a qualified physician. You CANNOT diagnose allergies. A doctor can.

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Denise - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Let me give you an example. In Ontario we have a hotline called Telehealth. It's a 24 hour number that links you to RN's. Now, they will listen to the symptoms, ask you questions and what not. They will then advise you about what to do. However, they NEVER tell you to give your child ANY medication unless seen by a physician. Being a pharmacist is NOT a physician. The pharmacists around me won't tell you to use cough and cold or allergy medication on your child.

I'm not opposed to home remedies. Those are fine, but I find many people on here when asked about things such as a runny nose as a POSSIBLE side effect of allergies, say the word Benadryl right away.



Thats silly. My daughter had a runny nose off and on through the whole winter. I just sucked the snot out of her nose and kept her in doors and ran her vaporizer at night. I would never medicate her with benadryl. I do believe its best to keep medication away from your child as much as possible. I only brought her to the doctor when she was coughing really bad and her cousin, 1 month younger, had mild broncitis. She was on the verge of getting it but the antibiotic her doctor prescribed kicked it before that happened. I do agree with you. I was just simply saying I dont go running to the doctor for every little thing either. Especially a runny nose with no fever.

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If you pay attention to the symptoms, most of the time you can tell if it is a viral infection or not. But yes, these ladies are right. You need to know what you are doing when administering medication to your children. You must follow the weight requirements. Some medicines no longer have the weight requirements on them they just tell you to consult a physician. However, i am not taking my daughter to the doctor everytime her nose runs. That is a little nutty. My daughter is almost three. Other than her well child visits she has been to the doctor 3 times for being sick. Knock on wood.... And none of those times was she prescribed anything. I feel very blessed for that btw! ha. annyways...I personally, would not listen to someone on here regarding medicine. I might read it and take the information to my mom or a friend and ask them but I would never give my child something soley based on the fact that I read it on the internet. Most people dont even know that you can alternate tylonal and motrin to relieve fevers, etc... DONT TAKE MY WORD ON THIS, DUH WHICH IS THE POINT OF THESE POSTS ISNT IT? anyways, I am merely sharing what I do with my own child. she only gets medicine if her fever were to reach, lets say.....101.5 or 102. If the body gets an infection that is causing fever sometimes your body just has to do its thing and fight it off itself. Now if the fever is like 100 and she is lathargic....thats a different story. All I can say is that everyone needs to look at their childs symptoms as a whole and use their instincts as a mother. I call my mother anytime my daughter is sick. And i listen to her because 1. i know her. and 2. she has done this before. We also have a family friend who is a pediatrician so wwe call her for stuff too. Use your resources ladies!!! :)

Mary - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Zowie:

i disagree. every time me or any of my other friends and family take thier baby to the doctor for medical the doctors just turn them away. leaving the parents to deal with a grumpy baby. if a friend or family member can give a little advice as to how they helped thier own baby then i think there is no problem in trying that advise to see if it works for them. i hate hearing mothers bring thier children up out of a book and so called "professionals" every time i talk to a "pro" i get critisized and yelled at. It's called mother instinct. and yes everyone gets it. if anyone thinks they dont then they are in denial.



Perhaps I am misreading this, but...there is no medical fix for "grumpy baby".  If you are taking your child to an MD for something that is not a medical problem, well, no, they do not have a magical quick fix for all the little quirks, cranks and fusses our little ones have.  A responsible MD will not, and should not "treat" these types of complaints.  They may offer advice or suggestions for things to try, with, say, diaper rash or colic, but there is no magic cure for these common everyday challenges in child rearing.



 



Not sure where you are from, but perhaps you might be a little hppier seeing a nurse practicioner??  They are often times a little more touchy-feely than an MD (although not always, I love my ped!), and it seems like maybe that is what you are looking for?  Just a suggestion :)

Dana - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

Every piece of advice given to you no matter what the source, doctor or friend, should be taken with a grain of salt. What works for some may not work for others and ummm....doctors aren't perfect! I was told my daughter could possibly have allergies because she had a hacking cough by one doctor only to have another tell me it was just a cold because she had a fever. Turns out it was asthma all along and it took three different doctors to get it right.



Where one of these 3 doctors an allergist?  I love my child's doctor because he does the regular visit but is quick to give me a referral to another doctor who specializes in what he may need.

Amy - posted on 08/30/2009

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I have to agree, I understand home remedy help, but come on actual advise for medicating your child...how bout NO! You should always get a physician's opinion before medicating your child! How is mommy in TX going to know what kind of illnesses are circulating in the UK ...most illness aren't given RX drugs because it's not needed. You can not cure a virus with antibiotics, you can not KNOW that it is allergies with out a Doc's diagnosis! If you feel you Doc is in adequate in caring for your child, switch docs before turning to a bunch of strangers for advise. You can get horrible advise on here from well meaning moms. Like, putting butter on a burn, or giving an infant cold medication (has been pulled off the shelves for almost 2yrs here)

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Every piece of advice given to you no matter what the source, doctor or friend, should be taken with a grain of salt. What works for some may not work for others and ummm....doctors aren't perfect! I was told my daughter could possibly have allergies because she had a hacking cough by one doctor only to have another tell me it was just a cold because she had a fever. Turns out it was asthma all along and it took three different doctors to get it right.

Krista - posted on 08/30/2009

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Let me give you an example. In Ontario we have a hotline called Telehealth. It's a 24 hour number that links you to RN's. Now, they will listen to the symptoms, ask you questions and what not. They will then advise you about what to do. However, they NEVER tell you to give your child ANY medication unless seen by a physician. Being a pharmacist is NOT a physician. The pharmacists around me won't tell you to use cough and cold or allergy medication on your child.

I'm not opposed to home remedies. Those are fine, but I find many people on here when asked about things such as a runny nose as a POSSIBLE side effect of allergies, say the word Benadryl right away.

Krista - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Denise:

i do agree home remedies are best before using any medication but I also dont believe a doctor would automatically know your childs allergies. If they do then im sure you, the mother, would remember too and not take the strangers advice. i dont think over the counter medication will normally hurt your child as long as you follow the weight and age instructions and make sure there isnt an ingredient in it that you child is allergic to. And where I live they dont make cough and cold medicine for infants. When my daughter was 4 months old and got a cold I brought her to her doctor and she prescribed an antibiotic to get rid of it which is the best way. I also would take advice from family or friends before someone on here when dealing with medication.


This is what allergy testing is for.  So that children do not get medicated for the wrong reasons.

Krista - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Zowie:

i disagree. every time me or any of my other friends and family take thier baby to the doctor for medical the doctors just turn them away. leaving the parents to deal with a grumpy baby. if a friend or family member can give a little advice as to how they helped thier own baby then i think there is no problem in trying that advise to see if it works for them. i hate hearing mothers bring thier children up out of a book and so called "professionals" every time i talk to a "pro" i get critisized and yelled at. It's called mother instinct. and yes everyone gets it. if anyone thinks they dont then they are in denial.


That's because the doctors know that there are certain things you DON'T medicate for.  In fact, most doctors these days are turning away for medicating when it's not absolutely necessary because children are now becoming immune to many medications because of past over medicating.  And how people help their OWN babies has no bearing on YOUR baby because no matter HOW similar the symptoms, you don't KNOW that they're exactly the same.

Charlie - posted on 08/30/2009

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why anyone would take medical advice from unknown people on the internet is beyond me .
Why would put your child at so much risk .
Let me make it clear , i mean serious medical issues not things like teething or nappy rash .

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I agree - its unfortunate but not everyone knows how to filter information given to them by strangers on the net - especially on unfamiliar issues such as medication where the results can be devastating! Maybe it would be an idea for COM to have an automatic "disclaimer" on such threads to remind users that they need to remember that all medical advice should be discussed with their doctor before taking it?

Helen - posted on 08/30/2009

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i totally agree, but it's not worth visiting the doctor for EVERYTHING. Sorry i'm maybe a bit harsh there but it gets up my goat running to the doctor every five minuites. I think on some things we mums can be an excellent source of advice, and i personally only give advice that i've tried myself or have been trained in (i qualified as a pharmacy tech in "99 and was responsable for the children's wards in the local maternity hosp. so i do think on SOME things i am in a position to know what i'm talking about)

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Quoting Zowie:

i dont know where you live but it sounds like you are in a completely different country to me. here we only have 2 types od medication for children under 6 and thats all the doctors tell us to use. and they are not prescription. and the topic of doctors are supposed to have bedside manners is a debate that has been around for decades. it is known that the majority of doctors do not have beside manners and they know it but they dont care. im not here to make a scene just simply putting my opinion across.



Are you from the UK? I am and your experiance with Doctors seems very similar to mine.

Denise - posted on 08/29/2009

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i do agree home remedies are best before using any medication but I also dont believe a doctor would automatically know your childs allergies. If they do then im sure you, the mother, would remember too and not take the strangers advice. i dont think over the counter medication will normally hurt your child as long as you follow the weight and age instructions and make sure there isnt an ingredient in it that you child is allergic to. And where I live they dont make cough and cold medicine for infants. When my daughter was 4 months old and got a cold I brought her to her doctor and she prescribed an antibiotic to get rid of it which is the best way. I also would take advice from family or friends before someone on here when dealing with medication.

Dana - posted on 08/29/2009

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Well, it's one thing to get advice from family or friends but to take advice on medication from someone on the internet....Scary.



I agree you do have to watch what advice you give or receive. Some women on here think they know it all and give it with such authority. I read some of this crap and am dumbfounded

Zowie - posted on 08/29/2009

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i dont know where you live but it sounds like you are in a completely different country to me. here we only have 2 types od medication for children under 6 and thats all the doctors tell us to use. and they are not prescription. and the topic of doctors are supposed to have bedside manners is a debate that has been around for decades. it is known that the majority of doctors do not have beside manners and they know it but they dont care. im not here to make a scene just simply putting my opinion across.

Kate CP - posted on 08/29/2009

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Zowie, I think you need a new doctor. :/

Doctors are supposed to have bedside manners...not yell at their patients. I would be put off by doctors, too, if I had your experience. However, it's not a good idea to dose a child with medication when you've never even seen the child and don't know the medical history. What if they are allergic to a medication or food that was recommended? For things like "I think my son has a cold but I can't get him to the doctor until Monday. What do I do?" I usually recommend home remedies like steam baths, nasal aspirators, cool compresses for fevers, elevating the head of the baby's bed, and lots of vitamin C. Recommending things like that is usually pretty safe. But it's not a good idea to tell a person to give their 4 month old Motrin for kids.

Zowie - posted on 08/29/2009

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i disagree. every time me or any of my other friends and family take thier baby to the doctor for medical the doctors just turn them away. leaving the parents to deal with a grumpy baby. if a friend or family member can give a little advice as to how they helped thier own baby then i think there is no problem in trying that advise to see if it works for them. i hate hearing mothers bring thier children up out of a book and so called "professionals" every time i talk to a "pro" i get critisized and yelled at. It's called mother instinct. and yes everyone gets it. if anyone thinks they dont then they are in denial.

Kate CP - posted on 08/29/2009

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Well, any doctor worth their salt is smart enough to know that they should NEVER diagnose or offer medical advice without first seeing the patient. So even if there is a doctor on here using this service who offers medical advice or a diagnosis...I would run away.

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