Your thoughts on the matter!!

Janine - posted on 03/14/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )




I have had 3 natural drug and gas free births, a c-section with my boy/girl twins and a epidural with my final and last 6th child. I have literally experienced it all... What are your experiences on birthing and how did you feel about any of the above stated, would you have changed it and would you have rather had experienced one over the other if you could have??


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Brandee - posted on 03/15/2011




I only have one child right now (contemplating number 2). I had an epidural for my delivery and I will definitely do it the same way again. I did not even feel the numbing shots, much less them inserting the tube. I was very worried about it before hand, but it turned out to be no big deal. No way I could have done it all natural. They gave me something to take the edge off before I reached 4cm and I did not like it. I felt like I was in la la land. I couldn't focus on anything going on around me. With the epidural I felt pressure when the baby descended, but no pain and I didn't feel like my head was in the clouds. I don't want a c section unless it is absolutely necessary. However, a friend of mine had 2 elective c sections because she was afraid of labor pains. Each to their own.

Aleks - posted on 03/15/2011




2 virtually text book vaginal deliveries. Drug and gas free (though if you are getting stiched and you sucking on the gas does it count???).
First labour 6 hours long. Second labour 8 hours long.
Would not really change anything, though I wish I didn't have to have anitbiotics (both times) as they drip was soooo annoying and restricted me a little bit, not to mention (as you have to have 2 or 3 doses during labour) was also annoying having to have the darned thing re-attached when you are in the middle of some pretty hard knocking contractions - not pleasant.
Other than that, I think I had pretty good and easy labour compared to some of the stories I have heard and read. :-)

Janine - posted on 03/15/2011




I should also state that with my 6th I of course then had a v-bac (after a c-section) my twins were two by then and they say 18mths is more than enough recovery time.. I was confident and it all went beautifully textbook :)

Janine - posted on 03/15/2011




I too was induced with my first 3 children - although I was in established labour - my waters have never broken as I was once told that I had strong membranes (good for bubs I guess!! lol) My twins were scheduled to make an entrance at 38 weeks as they too didnt want to budge and I had a spinal instead of epidural for that and much like Kim stated above - It didnt really feel like i had given birth. Plus I didnt get to see them for about and hour and a half afterwards during my recovery time (I personally disliked that experience) and my waters were broken for my 6th aswell with the epidural - I didnt feel a thing and although I loved not feeling the pain, it was an "odd" experience not being able to acknowledge the pushing sensation. I definately choose natural births over them all plus recovery time is almost immediate!!

Sabrina - posted on 03/14/2011




I have no idea what a pethadine shot is or the gas and air thing. But I had both of my kids with no pain meds at all not even after the birth, The only thing I hope to be able to do different next time is to be able to use a midwife and do it at home.

Kim - posted on 03/14/2011




My first was a horrible expeience for me and I swore I would never have another child. I had a terrible labour. I was so sick and throwing up the whole time. I wasn't even allowed ice chips. I had an epidural which did help with the pain. After my son was born I could barely walk for almost a month. My family nicknamed me penguin lol. I think they did something wrong though because I would look at my legs and i literally could not make myself move them.
For my second, I had the gas and nothing else. When I started having contractions I was terrified because of what I went through with my son tha I actually wanted a csection(so glad I didn't get one) Her birth was so easy, yes it hurt but afterwards I could have a shower, didn't need help walking, was out shopping a few days later. I felt like I didn't even have a baby. I'm not sure if it was because of no epidural or being more prepared but it was sure a lot better and if I did it again I would go without the epidural.

Jocelyn - posted on 03/14/2011




My first I was induced, giving morphine and an epidural (and all that comes with it eg internal monitoring). It was hell.
My second, I had a home birth in water, using hypnobirthing as pain management. It was absolutely fabulous. It was exactly what I wanted the first time thru bud unfortunately didn't get.
If I had to do it again I would have another home water birth. I wouldn't hesitate. My hubby was a little freaked out about the idea of giving birth at home (let alone in water lol) but now he tells everyone how great it was :P

Jennifer - posted on 03/14/2011




I have 4 kids and had epidurals with all 4. With my 1st and 3rd (both boys) my labors were long and hard and the epidurals didn't work. I felt everything, and was so exhausted after giving birth, that I literally passed out and didn't fully enjoy them til I woke up a couple hours later. With my 2nd and 4th (both girls) The epidurals worked great. The labors were quick and very easy, and I was ready to hold/bond with them from the second they came out. The only thing I changed with the 4th one, and wish I would have done with the others was to learn relaxation techniques. I think if I would have learned how to work with the pain instead of against it with my boys, the labors would have been a lot quicker. I ended up not needing that with the 4th, but I felt a lot more prepared.

Katherine - posted on 03/14/2011




I certainly would have changed a lot!!!! I would have had home births, no inductions, no epidurals, and no early clamping of the cord.
I am still mad about my inductions, it was sooo painful and unnecessary. My water broke and I was in labor for 23 hours so they induced me because I wouldn't dilate, but I know if I would have had a midwife it would have been different.

Kimberly - posted on 03/14/2011




I have one daughter and I had a pethadine shot and used the gas and air as well. I always swore up and down before getting pregnant that I wanted the epidural! But at my local hospital they only offered you private rooms if you used the mid-wife led ward and they can't administer epidurals so I decided my desire for a private room outweighed my desire for the drugs! When I got to the hospital I was 3cm dilated and they offered me pethadine which I accepted, but when the mid-wife pulled the needle out blood literally came squirting out of my leg, so she hadn't done it correctly but they couldn't give me another shot for 6 I had nothing for those first 6 hours. Then they gave me another shot and I was able to sleep for a little bit. I HATED the gas and air!! It made my mouth go super dry and I'm the type of person who can't eat anything when I'm not feeling well, so after 30 hours of labour, a dry mouth and not being able to eat much I was exhausted. When it was finally time to push my mid-wife told me I had to get her out within 2 hours of I'd have to be moved to the consultant ward and I'd lose my private room!! Well, after two hours and 10 minutes of pushing they put me in a wheelchair (I could feel her head between my legs!) and took me to the consultant ward and I delivered my daughter drug free after 2 1/2 hours of pushing. After that I'd lost a lot of blood, became anaemic, had to be put on a IV, and told I'd definitely lose my private room because I needed to be looked after by doctors. It was absolutely not the beautiful birth I had envisioned on having for my daughter!!

But after saying all that (she's 18 months now) I'd totally do it exactly the same way with only pethadine if I really felt I needed it. I figure I got through all that once, and the second one should be a bit easier, right? So I can do it again! :)

Jodi - posted on 03/14/2011




I had my first with gas and pethadine, and I HATED it. The gas did nothing for me, but the pethadine made me feel ill. The only reason I did it was because things were getting pretty intense, and they checked my dilation and I was only about 5 cm, and they told me I had hours to go. Pffft. An hour later I was pushing. I could have done it without the drugs, in hindsight.

So the second time, I avoided the lot. I went from 6cm to fully dilated and baby born in 20 minutes, so I learned from my first time that I dilate very quickly. I felt so much better after that brith (although I am sure a part of that had to do with no tearing, so I was in no pain whatsoever once she was born). I would totally go through that experience again. The pain was manageable, and I was fully alert and functional after the birth.

Louise - posted on 03/14/2011




I had my first two with gas and air and a pethadine shot and found it very natural and peaceful to do so. My third was an emergency c section after being induced that did not work. It was a horrible expereince and I did not feel in control at all. If she was my first child she would of been my last as it really upset me. I would of gone for simple gas and air every time as I felt part of the process and was able to care for my baby right from the off, yet I could not pick my daughter up for three days and I felt very isolated from her. I would urge every mum to go for a natural birth and then if they can not cope move onto the lighter pain relief like the gas and air and not just to plump for an epidural. I think you need to experience labour before you decide you can't cope becasue in most cases you can..

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