12 year old lying about her period

Coreen - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




my daughter had it first time in September 09. i have found evidence that she gets it (undies) but she swears over and over again that her friends who sleep over wear hers and hide them in her room.


Melissa - posted on 04/15/2010




How is your relationship with your daughter? I didn't have a good relationship with my mom, and no, I did not tell her when I got my period. She eventually had to know, but we never discussed it.

Meghan - posted on 04/24/2010




The most obvious reason here is that she is scared about what is going on and really embarassed. You can be upset about her not telling you but don't let her know that you are because it could make her more scared to come to you. Just be open and honest with her. Let her know that you know what it is like....because once upon a time you went through it too. I was a bit younger than her when I went through it...10 years old and in 5th grade. At that time they were not explaining things like that in grade school. I thought that I was the only girl in my class but discovered that I wasn't. There was one other girl and we bonded really well and became good friends over it....all through school! I learned more about it from the school nurse than I did my own mom. I was embarassed as well.


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Michele - posted on 04/23/2010




How u feel about your body is exhibited by your daughter. Are you a shame of your body and the natural functions that it does? Your daughter hasn't had the talk yet with you or if she had you frighten her so much about mother nature that she isn't comfortable talking to you about what is going on with her. I suggest you and your daughter get counseling to aquire better communication skills. This is the time that your daughter is going to need you the most. Be supportive remember she is growing up and doesn't what you to treat her as a baby or a toddler but as a maturing young women in training.

Priti - posted on 04/17/2010




I agree with all the above suggestions. I was embarassed and grossed out when I got my periods way before the other girls did and I just did not know how to tell my mom. But all was okay when she and I had a little talk.

Jessi - posted on 04/16/2010




she's scared & doesn't understand whats going on (even if it has been explained to her). i would say it very normal, some young girls don't understand that it's perfectly normal & happens to every female. i wouldn't be upset with her about not telling because you don't want her feeling like you are invading her personal issues but let her know she can come to you if she has problems or questions.

Teresa - posted on 04/16/2010




I did the same thing. Very embarassed. Who tells their mom that they just got there period?? That was my thoughts then. My mom realized it to, came into my room with some pads and told me what they were for and where i could find them. And that was it. I was happy about that cause i didn't want an hour long lecture about "birds and bees" and that i am becoming a women. This way was to the point, but yet it could open up doors for conversation if i wanted it to. Do be upset about her not telling you. She is young, embarrased and probably confused about what is going on. :)

Debbie-shea - posted on 04/15/2010




Sounds like she is scared about the changes taking place and probably the only one of her friends that has it. I would talk to her about the whole period issue and perhaps keep some pads and panty liners avialable in the bathroom so she doesnt have to ask for them. Definately let her no its not ok to be wearing each others panties.

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2010




It sounds like she may be a little embarassed. Its normal to feel that way. Its not every day a 12 year old goes to her mom to talk about her period. I would just sit down and talk to her about it. Let her know that you know she has started her period. Seems kinds gross to let her friend wear her underwear...much less bleed all in them. I would HOPE girls dont really do that. I dont think thats the case here.

Just talk to her about it....and if she INSISTS that its still her friends....explain to her that they shouldnt be wearing her undies and that when she DOES get her period...she can always come talk to you about it. Its a comfort thing....no girl is comfortable talking to ANYONE about their period...including their own mothers. Just be sensitive to her...this is a life changing experience for her.

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