Am I crazy?

Heather - posted on 03/11/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




I finally have gotten use to going to work and leaving my son all day (he is 14 months). The problem is that on weekends, I would rather spend time with him than go out and leave him again and I absolutely will not leave him overnight. If I do go anywhere on the weekends, I prefer for him to be at our home (familiar place). Am I nuts?


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Angi - posted on 03/14/2010




That's not crazy at all! My kids are 7 & almost 6 (years, not months, lol). I have a really hard time if they go to the in-laws with their dad for a weekend, or if they're away from me for any long periods. My mom's been begging to keep them for a week since they were born, but she lives 2 hours away and that's a whole week! I would go crazy (or sane, my husband says.. haha) without them for that long!

You're not crazy at all :-)

Keisha - posted on 03/12/2010




No not at all. I'm the same way. Its not so much that I prefer them to be at home. I just don't want to be without them at all. My husband and I get into it all the time, because he feels that I should go out with my girlfriends and have "Me" time. He does not understand that I do not want that, I'd much rather hang out with my kids than my friends.

Keeshea - posted on 03/11/2010




Nope! You are a mom! :) I feel that same way. I too work full-time and value my time with my child. My husband and I do not leave our child with anyone overnight (he's 9 months). With that said, my husband and I do go on a date once a month. We leave the baby either at daycare (on the rare occasion where they are open on the weekend or on a holiday) or have my sister-in-law to watch him for a couple of hours. It's important to have special time with your spouse.

Marcy - posted on 03/11/2010




We take our 2 1/2 year old son with us everywhere. We just got a babysitter after almost 3 1/2 years and even though she is awesome and our son woud love for her to come over all the time I still want to be with him always. We are going to Maui next week for 5 days and it will be the first time that both my hubby and I are awya together. Even though my mom is watching him, I wish that he was coming with us (it's a business trip). I think its perfectly will know when you are ready for a night out...

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2010




You are not nuts at all!! I am laid off, which is a good thing because I can be with my almost 9 month old, but bad because we loose the income. I start work in April and I know it is going to be hard to leave my son with his Grandma while my husband and I are at work. I am sure I will not be doing much on the weekends unless people come over here after my son has gone to bed. That time with him is precious! And it is much easier for me, and him, if he is at home vs. going out for the night.

Alison - posted on 03/11/2010




Sounds normal to me. The feelings are totally normal, but your son probably doesn't need to be with you all week-end every week-end. As moms we tend to always want ideal situations for our children, but a little adversity in moderation will do them no harm and probably some good.

DO let yourself be swayed to accept babysitting offers, even when your heart resists. DO take time for you and your husband, you need it more than ever.
DON'T beat yourself up. You are a good mom, doing the best you can for your little one. :)

September - posted on 03/11/2010




Nope not nuts at all :) I'm a full time working Mother as well and I love spending time with our son ALL weekend! I do try to take some time for myself and my husband but yes our son does get most of my time, and I like it that way :)

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