Any advice for going back to work?

Bonnie - posted on 01/09/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter will be four months old when I go back to work. I want to stay home but we cannot afford it. I am dreading leaving her terribly and I was wondering if anyone had any insight to share. Is it as bad as I am fearing? Is there anyway to make it easier? Thanks everyone.



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Melissa - posted on 01/10/2009




I found it pretty easy to go back to work when my children were little (6 weeks old). It gets hard when they are old enough to cling to your leg and cry.

The most important thing to do is find a daycare you trust. 100%. They cost more, but it is worth every penny. Then focus on the activities they do, the different toys they get to play with and the social skills they are learning. My 2 year old is social, shares and is being potty-trained by someone else. If he stayed home all day, he probably watch a lot more Noggin.

I also volunteer in the nursery at church and I can tell you that a child in daycare will end up being much easier to leave for date-night, an hour at the gym or a peaceful conversation with God than a child who is always with Mommy.

Quality daycare can be a win-win. And on days when it's hard leave early or cash in a vacation day. And live for the Saturdays. It's easier to be silly with your kids when you all get a break from each other sometimes.

Kristen - posted on 01/09/2009




I went back to work when my son was four months old as well.  I was sooo upset and that first day leaving him was the worst.  I was so surprised when I got home that he was actually fine and not wrecked that I was not with him all day. I think it healthy for both baby and mom to have their own time.  Really important for mom to have some grown up interaction too!

I have been back to work for almost a year now and I promise it does get easier.  It just makes the time I do get to spend with him so special and I think he appreciates the time more too.  He shows me all the new things he learned and played with during the day and we cuddle a ton.  Good Luck!

Sally - posted on 01/09/2009




It is not easy, I can tell you from experience. But you have to look at the positive of this decision and focus on it. When I returned to work, I was blessed that family came to help for another two months. There after, daycare has been our primary care for her. I felt I needed to be there, I would call to see how she was doing and even started a journal of my thoughts, feelings and ideas.Once daycare started, I felt a little foolish if I picked up the phone to ask about her doing. I manged to not call the first day and the second day was a little easier and third day easier, and so on. Again, just be positive that the decision you are making, although part of you feels guilty for leaving her, in the end is the best decision for the family. Write a journal/diary if it helps. When you are home with her, spend all the time you can together to "make up" for the time without her. Remember this, she knows you love her. Whether you are physically there with her or not, that is what she needs, that you love her.

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