any one know how to get a 5 year old to stop throwing things?

Myra - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my lil girl gets angry and screams when she dosent get her way

she seems to be getting worse at times and even had started throwing things in my face any suggestions?

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Ann - posted on 08/08/2009

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The first thing I would do is let her know that her behaviour is unacceptable. Then get her to clean up the mess she has done. Last but not least is depriving her of some toy or activity that she likes. All the best!

Graziella - posted on 08/10/2009

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I beleive that when kids do that its like they need to get your attention by behaving badly - and when you give them attention they still get it their way. When my son (3) acts silly i generally tell him a short sentence like when he is throwing toys / or refuses to clean up. An explanitory sentence like "its very rude to throw things when you know they can break. Since you do not want them i will pack them up and give them to kids who do not have any toys" and i literally pack them up in a garbage bag and store them away for a day or so. You can expect a tantrum, which you should ignore provided the child is safe, but generally the message gets across.

CHRISTINA - posted on 08/07/2009

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My daughter tried that one too. I finally said with a loud sharp mommy voice "HEY! THAT is not okay and I will NOT let you do that! Go to your room NOW!" I made her sit on her bed for 5 minutes and had to do that a couple times. When she would calm down I would explain to her that hurts mommy when you do that and we don't want to hurt mommy. She of course would agree and hug me.

Kristin - posted on 08/07/2009

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Oh! But I want to say that if this is completely out of the blue never before done behaviour. Something that is just completely out of whack with your girls behaviour, something that is an extreme diviation from her normal ways. Then you might want to figure out when it started happening and see if something set her off. More then likely this is just a phase but if it seems if suddenly she's a different kid all together. Something may be really bothering her.

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Heba - posted on 08/11/2009

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I agree with Cidalia but it is also important to make it clear that she is not getting any reward of her tantrum.If u do what she wants she will keep using this technique with u.

Stacey - posted on 08/10/2009

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to try and stop her throwing thinhgs get a naughty step trust me if you are persistant it works, everytime she does it just quietly and calmly place her on step try it and see...

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Tell her that whatever she throws, goes in the trash (aka- the garage :-)- I assume she is throwing toys at you? If not, then tell your child that for every one thing he/she throws at you, she loses one of her toys- then put the toys somewhere she cannot find, and give back to her one by one as she does good things

Kristin - posted on 08/07/2009

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For my girl, I find her room works best, but also her room is a no toy zone. So there is no tv or toys in there. This weekend however she got so out of control with rude hurtful behaviour I actually grounded my 5 y/o for the day. She wasn't allowed to play outside or with her friends. I said too that if the behaviour continued during the day, the tv and computer were out too. The best moment for me was we her friends from came over and I made her tell them she couldn't play today. She was about to throw a fit and I just reminded her about that was part of the behaviour that got her grounded in the first place from her friends. Its about finding something that works. I found that timeouts weren't cutting it anymore. She knew them too well. She'd sit quietly for her 5 mins then go right back to doing what she was doing before. And I'm all for the talking with them about what they did wrong, but apparently my 5 y/o doesn't see anything wrong with screaming at mommy from across the lawn that I can't make her come in for bedtime.



I'd like to also point out that in general my daughter is lovely and good natured so its hard when she acts like this. I'm hoping its just a phase, and that its because she's had a pretty all over the place for scedual this summer. Over stimulated maybe, I hope!

Cidalia - posted on 08/07/2009

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That's a tough one, and there's no easy solution. Tell her "it is not nice to throw things" and immediately put her in a time out. Make sure you have a time out place that is boring (no tv, toys, etc.), and if she tries to get out, keep taking her back (a pain, I know). Using a timer helps. Set it for 5 minutes (1 minute for each year of age). If she gets up, reset it, and let her know you're resetting it and starting over and that she is expected to stay there until the timer buzzes. (Some people use a microwave timer). After the time out, talk to her to see if she understands why she was in time out, and reiterate that throwing is not allowed. That's all I can think of at the moment. Other parents take away a favorite toy for the day. Whatever works for her.

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