any suggestions when taking a nuk away??

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Jodi - posted on 01/17/2009

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Nip a little bit off the tip each day. Until they can't suck it. My son quit right away. My daughter held on the the bitter end. (1 week) But there was very little fuss. They could hold it at bedtime.

Katey - posted on 01/17/2009

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We did it cold turkey as well. With each of my kids we did it around the 10 month mark. I think it's good to do it early, the longer you wait the harder it is to take it away!

There will be some stressful crying for awhile, but after a few weeks it gets easier.

Darlene - posted on 01/16/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

any suggestions when taking a nuk away??



As suggested by a couple of OP - we took the "soucie fairy" approach with both our children the week after their third birthday.  Both were "die hard" soother kids, and I was absolutely amazed by how well it worked!!  Here's what we did:



From a young age (about 12/18 mos) we restricted 'soucies' to naptime and bedtime only - no soucies in the car, no walking around with soucies - only in the crib - and they would wave "bye bye" to the soucie and say "see you tonight!".



Then, at about age 2 and a half, we started really talking up the fact that the soucie fairy came when you were 3, since 3 year olds were 'big kids' and didn't need soucies, and the soucie fairy would take the soucies and give them to the babies.  Our daycare provider also started the talk, as they napped at her house, and had their soothers their.



About a month before their 3rd birthday we went into overdrive, talking every night and at every nap (well - DS still had a nap, DD was done with them by then!) about how the soucie fairy was going to come and take the soucies and leave a little present.



Both kids somehow ended up with 5 soothers, and we decided that the first "soucie free" night would be a weekend night, as we wanted a weekend to get over the hump!  So, the first Monday after their third birthday, they knew that the soucie fairy would be coming that night to take the first soucie and leave a gift - we did that 5 nights in a row - leaving small, bedtime-related items as 'gifts' (tub toy, new socks for bed, a small stuffed animal, a new pair of pajamas) and the LAST night for the VERY last soucie, the soucie fairy left a 'big' gift (DS got a new GeoTrax train, DD got a Cinderella dress up costume).



Neither of my soother addicts EVER cried for their soucie, nor did they have any issues going to sleep!! (Well - DS did start to give up naps at that point - but it was almost time anyway).  We were amazed at how successful it was for DS and knew we'd do it with DD - but she was an even bigger addict than her big brother had been, so we were thrilled to "get away with it" as easily as we did!!!  I even had a friend with a new baby on back up to call if DD wanted to be sure that HER soucie got to Baby Emmett!!  But - she never mentioned it!!



Good luck!

Kristin - posted on 01/13/2009

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We tried to cold turkey and just got too frustrated. Finally we let him have it at night when he went to bed, it usually fell out of his mouth after he was asleep so we would sneak in and take it out of his crib. After about a week of this he didn't seem to want it anymore, so that was the end of Mr. Binky! My sister-in-law has a funny story, she was sterilizing the binkies in some boiling water and got distracted by one of her kids, forgot about what was on the stove, and when she went back into the kitchen all of the binkies were melted together. She showed her daughter what had happened, and said that there were no more because they were all ruined. He daughter woke up a few nights asking for her binky and then within a week completely forgot about wanting one:) Good luck, you will get through this!

Traci - posted on 01/13/2009

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I did it cold turkey, but also saw on an episode of Nanny 911 that a tool used to give up the binky was to have your child put all the Nuks in a bag and tell him/her that the nuk fairy is going to come and take them so she can give them to new babies and if she did this then the nuk fairy would leave her a big girl present...and it worked...I was amazed...just depends on how old your child is...Cold turkey is hard but don't give in...

Jesica - posted on 01/10/2009

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I would allow my son to have his at nap or bedtime for about a week and then one night they were just gone... worked ok for him..

Jamie - posted on 01/10/2009

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We went cold turkey on the doctors recommendation at 15 months.  My daughter only has 4 teeth on the top and bottom and she loved yanking it out of her mouth while biting down on it. The doctor said it was causing her top 2 front teeth to turn inward. The first night was a little rough, it took her about 45 minutes to cry herself to sleep and the next day she looked for it but we distracted her with juice, cookie or a noisy toy and she forgot about it. We are 4 weeks in and doing great! Good luck, it's worth it!



 



On a side note, we also went cold turkey on putting her down at 8pm every night in her crib, alone (at 12 months). She was staying up until 9:30 at night and we'd lay with her in our bed and try to coax her to sleep. We finally decided enough was enough, we didn't want her sleeping in our room until she was 10!  It only took 30 minutes the first night and haven't had a problem since.

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Whatever you choose, I would just suggest a clean break.  Children are more resilient than we think, and they bounce back quickly.  I think us parents tend to worry way too much about stuff like this and we end up making a bigger issue than it is. 

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I had our third baby on the way and wanted my two older boys to be done with the nuks before the baby was born.  I sat them down one morning and told them we were going to cut the nipples off and throw them away.  With my help, I let them cut the nipples off with a scissors and then had them throw the nuks in the garage.  Then we all had some fruit snacks to celebrate.  They only asked for the nuks maybe one or two nights.  I just reminded them that they'd thrown them in the garbage, and all was forgotten after that.



 

Kate - posted on 01/08/2009

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My 2 1/2 year old nephew just gave my daughter (2 years old) his at Christmas....since he "is a big boy now and only babies use them".  Funny enough, my daughter never used one and kept throwing it back at him and refusing to take it.  I had to finally take it and tell him I would give it to her later!!  My sister-in-law says he has asked about it but the spare that she kept is still hidden!

Tracy - posted on 01/08/2009

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My daughter stopped using it before she was a year old. With my son, it was purely accidental. He lost his and I replaced it with one that had a different nipple. He did not like it and kept throwing it away. I told him that was the only one there was. With in a day he was done with them all together,

Leigh - posted on 01/07/2009

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You know those medicating pacifiers? I used one with my daughter when she had a bad ear infection (she was about 6 months old at the time) and one suck on it with medicine in it and she never touched a binki again. The look on her face was priceless. You could practically read her mind, "What the? Nothings supposed to come out of this!"

Gina - posted on 01/07/2009

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i've known ppl that have done the same thing as the balloon but said that the pacifiers were going to the babies in heaven. my kids went cold turkey, and it only took like 3nights. hellish nights but just the same.

Angi - posted on 01/07/2009

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My husband and I discussed with our son that there are babies out there in the world that don't have "binkies" and when you are old enough the "Binkie Fairy" comes to take them away to all of the babies that don't have one.... The Fairy in turn will leave you a big boy toy under your pillow to thank you for your special gift.



I have a friend that bought helium balloons and tied each nuk to a balloon and let her child release them one by one. She said it was tearful but her daughter never questioned what happened to them... and it was sort of fun... 

Lezli - posted on 01/07/2009

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My first son gave it up on his own when he was about 1, my second son still has his at 2 1/2. He has to leave it in the car when we go out, and he doesn't take it to daycare. Other than that, I don't have the heart to go cold turkey. I hope he doesn't take it to college.

Jessica - posted on 01/07/2009

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My 2 1/2 year old daughter loves her "dummy".  I started taking it away during the day and I distracted her with some other activity, but I do give it to her at night... or should i say she takes it out of the drawer herself.  After about 20 minutes when she is asleep i remove it.  This has worked pretty good for us.  Good Luck

Heather - posted on 01/07/2009

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I think the sooner the better! My middle daughter was very ill and we let her keep hers as a comfort and I couldnt get it away untill she was 4 and to this day if I give it back to her she would suck it. So after that mistake I took my youngest daughters on her 1st Birthday and she did just fine. I have also heard of just taking a needle and making a couple of small hole in the tip works if you dont want to go cold turkey. Good luck in whatever you decide just stay stong!

DeAnna - posted on 01/07/2009

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When we decided it was time to take the nuk away, I simply cut the rubber nipple part of the pacifier off as close to the plastic as I could. When my son would try to suck it of course he couldnt hold it in his mouth because there was nothing there to put in his mouth. We told him it was broke and if he wanted to hold it he could put it in his pocket. He carried it with him for a couple days but quickly layed it down and forgot about it! Good luck!!!

Amber - posted on 01/07/2009

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You mean a pacifier? If so, sorry, no suggestions here. We did ours cold turkey.

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