Are there any mums out there who work full time and husbands look after the baby?

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Kelly - posted on 03/25/2009

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My husband stays at home with our 9-month daughter.  Financially - this was the best decision for us.  He's a great dad (and I worry much less than if she was in daycare).  Since my job is fairly demanding and I'm putting in long days, him being with her has helped me to feel less guilty about not being around as much.

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Sharayla - posted on 03/31/2009

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My husband left his job just before our son was born 2 1/2 years ago. It's been really great--we both worry about the quality of day care and want to be close to our son. It's been a little tough on him, not working and being more dependent on me. But we're working through it and it helps to make sure that he has an outlet for his own identity. I'm so glad he's willing to stay home and make sure our son has the best start it life.

Rebecca - posted on 03/30/2009

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Thankyou all for replying. It's so lovely to know there are so many working mums out there. I enjoy work and love the fact that baby's daddy is at home all of the time with her but I still get jealous and grumpy with the whole situation every now and again!

Brydget - posted on 03/26/2009

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I go back to work on Monday, working 4 days a week. My husband has dropped down to four days as well so he has her one day a week, I have her one day, and she is with my sister for three days. Bubs is coming up 3mos and I completely trust both my hubby and sis otherwise I just couldn't bear to be away from her.

Tanya - posted on 03/24/2009

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My husband stays home with our 3 1/2 year old and 9 month old boys, and has since our first was born. It works well for us, especially since my husband is a free lance graphic designer and works from home. I love the fact that we don't have to get the whole family ready everyday or take the boys out into the cold weather in the winter if we wish. There are definitely days where I wish I was the one home, but usually by Monday I'm ready for work again. Also, splitting chores can be difficult, as men seem to not see work like women. That has taken time, but we have sorted the jobs around the house and seem to make it work for both of us. I feel our boys are lucky to have the attention from both of us, since I am able to take over when I'm home from work and my husband can work or cook/etc. However, this can also be a disadvantage since its hard for me to feel ok about spending time away when I'm not at work. But, I guess in the long run, parenting is all about commitment and the joy our boys bring us is worth all of the hard work and sacrifice it takes to keep the household running.

Heidi - posted on 03/24/2009

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My hubby has been at home on and off since our daughter was born 5 years ago. Initially, it sounded like a great idea, but the reality was that it was emotionally difficult for a man who is used to being an engineer to adjust to a "woman's" role. He took over the laundry because he didn't like the way I did it, but he doesn't like to cook...and I do! When the second child arrived 19 months later, he tried it, but our son was not as good a sleeper so it was very stressful. Shortly thereafter, we had a great nanny for nearly 3 years (she was like a grandma to them), and he went back to work. Then, I got a job in FL, we moved, and he insisted that he should stay home with them. They seem to have a lot of fun together, but then try to "put on a show for mama" with negative attention-getting behaviors. It has gotten a lot better, and I make a visible effort to turn off my Blackberry when I get home and focus on them. I've also shifted my grocery shopping and other errands to the evenings, so that I can have as much "play time" with them at night and on the weekends. I'm in the military, and could retire in 6 years, so this arrangement is working out pretty well so far.

Meloney - posted on 03/23/2009

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I work three nights and one day shift a week. For the nights she goes to my mums for a couple of hours till he finishes work then he picks her up. He is really good with her. He feeds her, gives her a bath land puts her to bed thoses night and she totally adores him and its good that they have their time together as well. It does has it's positives and negatives though, while i would love to be at home with her lets face it how many people these days are in the position to stay home.

Jennie - posted on 03/21/2009

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My husband and I have worked this very arrangement for 5 years and counting!  It's not necessarily ideal all the time, but it saves us soooo much on daycare and the bond between my husband and our sons is so strong, sometimes I feel left out! :) I'm a teacher and he's a bartender.  he stays w/ our sons (ages 5 and 2) during the day and works nights on the weekends.  our only argument has been in his complete inability to understand that if we're switching roles, that means that he gets to do the majority of the housework.  As with any marriage, it's a work in progress!

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So we're just in the process of figuring this out. I've been running my own coaching and consulting firm, working part time around my girls.  I'm starting full time on April 1, and dad's going to be home for awhile at least. Still getting my head wrapped around it.  What's your situation? Challenging? Okay?  Any advice?

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My fiance watches our daughter while I work. Hes layed off right now so it works out perfect, and my schedule is flexible for when he needs to go out looking. Once he finds something my mother will take over watching her for us. Its hard being away from her, I have been back to work since she was 2 weeks old! But I jist cannot justify paying a daycare just to play or be left in a crib! Besides I don't trust them and I can save money! Once she is about 18 months she will go to preschool where she will actually learn not just play. That seems more worth my money to me!

Tricia - posted on 03/17/2009

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Not yet, but when I go back to work in 3 weeks, Daddy will watch the baby full time.  I'm actually a bit stressed about leaving the munchkin behind for loooong days at the office, but Daddy does an excellent job with his son.  And no day care worker can possibly love your baby like family.

Stacy - posted on 03/16/2009

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My husband and I work different shifts and that is due to us not wanting our kids in day care and I make more money working 2nd shift. It sucks that we dont see one another a lot but we make due. The kids love being able to stay home and with the money that we save on day care we take the kids to Florida and to disney world!

Lynn - posted on 03/16/2009

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'im planning on returning to work in August. My partner has always wanted to go to college so he's going to be our son's main carer during the day when he starts in September. Its suits us both and saves on paying over the odds on childcare. He's a fantastic dad and is really looking forward to it...who better to do it really!

Gone are the days when its seen as a womens job.....we both think its perfect and admire all the other dads out there who are doing the same.

Lisa - posted on 03/16/2009

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I work midnights and so I sleep during the day. My husband is with the kids through the night and also while I sleep during the day. It works well for us. I sleep until late afternoon and then have my evenings with my family. Plus, no child care costs.

User - posted on 03/15/2009

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My husband works from home and watches our 3 year old and 11 month old. It works out great - I miss the kids while I'm at work during the day so I'm happy to take over when I get home and my husband is ready for the needed break!

Rebecca - posted on 03/15/2009

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I agree about childcare costs! And it works well for us with daddy looking after our daughter during the day and then when I get home I bath her and play a bit , then put her to bed. Lots of people seem shocked when I tell them our arrangements. But it works for us! Glad it works for you too.

Erin - posted on 03/15/2009

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I work full time and my husband is with our daugher during the day. He works at night and I am with her then. It has been hard on us - but I trust him completely with her. It saves SOO much on child care.

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