Dad Depolyment and I am a Working Mom- Need Advice

Francesca - posted on 07/27/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




Anyone out there have a career, kid(s) and their spouse it deployed? Or divorced and single moms?

My husband is actually stationed in Japan and it made most sense for my 20 month old and me to stay here. I work full time too. I feel like there is never any time for anything- especially me. I get in the morning and take care of my son, drop him off at daycare, go to work, go get my son and spend time with him before he goes to bed and then I do house stuff, and then it is almost time for me to go to bed and start over.

I have been with my husband when he has deployed before, but this is the time we are apart since having a child.

We have no family close. I do have friends here.

I would love to find some me time and stop feeling like I am in Ground Hogs Day (the movie). Maybe even find time to exercise.

Anyone else have this kind of situation? How are you dealing with it?


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Jill - posted on 07/27/2009




I have never been in your situation, but I thank you for your sacrifice!!

I was overwhelmed with my infant son and couldn't afford a babysitter or a house keeper. The best thing that I did was hire the neighbor's daughter- she was too young to watch Sean and let me leave, but she is very inexpensive!!! I have her come at least once a week for 2-4 hours and I can do ANYTHING I want...sleep (she will wake me if Sean isn't happy), clean the house, sit in the sun and not worry about my son getting burnt or heat exhaustion. But what I have found most important of all is how much I look forward to that time! As Sean gets older (now 15 months), the neighbor is maturing and soon will be ready (or should I say I will be ready) to have her stay with my son while I go out.

Stay strong!!! ASK FOR HELP!! Friends are a form of family! Ask them for help!!

Samantha - posted on 07/27/2009




I was in the same situation many years ago. This is what I did- Once a week I hired a babysitter to take the kids for an evening and I went out. Not even necessarily with friends- just alone- to gather my sanity. If you can afford it hire someone to do the cleaning/laundry for you. It save a bit of time as well. Hang in there, I know what your going through- my daughter was 4yrs old and my son 6wks when my husband left for 6months. I know how hard it is!

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