does anyone feel like that they don't spend enough time with there kids ?because of work?

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Donna - posted on 05/13/2009

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I feel like that to the simple fact that when i am at home i am either cooking,cleaning,washing,drying, etc and by the time i'm finished all that, i have got no energy left to play with my Kiddies. And thats just of an evening!! The weekends i have a bit more time but still i can't think oif any fresh ideas of play. Any Ideas?

Amanda - posted on 05/15/2009

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YES!! I know that me working is the best thing for my kids, it keeps a roof over their heads and food in their bellies, but still after five years I haven't been able to shake the guilt of not being with them every second of THEIR days. But my time away from them makes me appreciate them more and I have more patience for their temper tantrums when I am home.

Belinda - posted on 05/12/2009

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I did feel guily as I worked six days a week. So I decreased my work hours to have my weekends free to spend with my family. It put a bit of strain on us financially at first but worked out better in the long run.

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Sara - posted on 05/15/2009

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Hi I'm Sara from Libya, I use to work from 8-1500 and came home and had lunch with me family and spent the whole day at home our out with them, but as my work was so streesful I was in a bad mood all day. Now I work till 1600 and arrive home at 1700, have less time with the kids but as this job is much better I am in a good mood those hours.

On weekend we have to have a long drive with the car go to a retaurant outside town or spend the time in our summer place. unfortunatly we have to work, even if we don't really need tom we are now used to have our own money and buy what we chose to buy. imagine not having that salary anymore and asking my husband for money each and everytime I need the smallest thing, is an experiance I don't thing any man or women would like to live.

Whitnie - posted on 05/14/2009

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i work 10 hour days, so i only see my son to feed him once in the morning and then right before bed. so yeah on work days i am missing him why too much i think

User - posted on 05/14/2009

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ABSOLUTELY! My daughter Amanda is six months old and her father and I both work full time. I work in retail so I work different hours weekly. Luckily I am fortunate to have the best day care provider in the world. I just extra cherish the time when I am with her. It is hard but some one has to pay the bills.

Karen - posted on 05/12/2009

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Every day. While I really like my job, I work full-time and my kids are in daycare all day. I pick them up, get home around 6 p.m. then dinner, bath and bed for the baby. A little time with my son before he's off to bed. If I could work 30 hours a week, that would be ideal.

Cristy - posted on 05/12/2009

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yes, everyday i feel so guilty, even more so if she is'nt feeling well. my job is not leneant about missing work for anything you dont have preschedued. I always wanted to stay home with her at least till she started kindergarten, that didn't happen, she starts kindergarten this fall. By the time i get home do a few chores that gota get done, make supper, clean up, and baths its time for bed. I do read to her every night and we visit about our day.

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2009

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God yes! I don't know a working mum who doesn't feel that way. Both me & my husband work full time but we are lucky enough to have a great childminder who pick the boys up from school. But we only ever seem to have a coupld of hours together in the evening & we have to cram in dinner, homework/reading etc. I work weekends as well sometimes so there are times when I feel I don't see the boys. At the other end of the scale my husband works away lot so I'm a single mum on those weeks & it is a struggle.

Jerusha - posted on 05/12/2009

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I battled with trying to do 4 days a week and one day off with work from home arrangements for aboout a year - it was so distruptive that we have found that both my husband and i being full time and a really regular schedule for day care and family time works a lot better. I went back to work when our son was 16 weeks old and the hubby stayed home for a while. we were so worried about him going to child care but he loves it and as its high quality educational care, he is getting better stimulation there than we can offer at home. Home time is for love, cuddles and really family oriented activities.

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I work fulltime. My daughter is 11 months old. I miss her all day but I feel better knowing she is having a great time at daycare. I make the most of my weekends with her. I do not need to work for financial reasons - I returned to work because I wanted to. Also, it helped because my mum also worked fulltime and I was in fulltime childcare from 8 months old and a) I had a great time and b) I was very sociable and socially well-adjusted and c) I loved my parents very much and I never had a rebellious phase with them - time with them was precious and because I didn't see them all day, I appreciated them more. Hope my daughter turns out the same, though!

Melinda - posted on 05/11/2009

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oh yeah all the time, and she knows i feel bad and plays up on it! Which doesn't help. I love my job and i love my daughter! She is 7 and i make time for homework every night, and we talk in the car. But being a working single mum is difficult but fun and rewarding.

Louise - posted on 05/10/2009

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Yes! I feel the same, but I try not to let guilt get the best of me. 2 hour commute is not really fun, but I need to provide a decent life + decent future for my kid.

Esther - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Gina:

[ ] I'm starting to feel like I'm going to miss out on everything and it's bumming me out. [ ]


Gina - my son is a little older than yours (16 months now) and I have found that so far he has saved all the milestones for the weekends and my friends have had similar experiences. Maybe it's just that little boost of confidence that only mom & dad can give him that he needs to get over the hump. I wouldn't be surprised if your son does the same. Also, the first time he rolls over etc. in your presence is still the first time for you. And if you were home all day he could roll over too when you were just looking the other way or when he was in his crib or playpen by himself. Just enjoy the moments when you get them.

Esther - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Gina:

[ ] I'm starting to feel like I'm going to miss out on everything and it's bumming me out. [ ]


Gina - my son is a little older than yours (16 months now) and I have found that so far he has saved all the milestones for the weekends and my friends have had similar experiences. Maybe it's just that little boost of confidence that only mom & dad can give him that he needs to get over the hump. I wouldn't be surprised if your son does the same. Also, the first time he rolls over etc. in your presence is still the first time for you. And if you were home all day he could roll over too when you were just looking the other way or when he was in his crib or playpen by himself. Just enjoy the moments when you get them.

Deanna - posted on 05/09/2009

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I went back to work after 6 weeks of maternity leave and it was so very hard. My husband and I work Mon-Friday. My schedule is from 7:30-4:30 and he gets home at around 5:30/6pm.



It was very hard in the beginning as I was trying to not only figure out motherhood but to also be two people at once..a Mom and have a career.



I do have to say that now that my DD is 6 1/2 months old, it's gotten easier. I've now found my groove and we have a pretty good routine but some flexability of course. :) Once I get home, it's all about our baby girl. We cook dinner as soon as we get home (and she happily sits in her highchair and plays and snacks on fruit while I'm cooking) and then we play with her until it's bath and then bedtime. I save the cleaning for the weekends as I just don't want to overload myself during the week. I want as much time as I can spend with her once I'm home.



Hang in there. *hugs*

Linda - posted on 05/08/2009

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I didn't start having children til i was in my late 30's. I always told myself that when i did start a family i was going to be a hands on mum. I would always be there. If I had to work, then It would only be part-time. I would send them to day care maybe one or two days a week so they could learn to interact with other children.
Maybe that happens in a perfect world, but not in mine. Both my husband and i work full-time. We have to orchastrate our weekends so that one of us is home while the other is working. We have two children ages 2yrs and 3 1/2, and they both go to day care 4 days a week. We work to pay off the house, food in our stomachs and clothes on our backs, and everyday that I send them to daycare I feel guilty, because thats not how its suppose to be. I cherish the time I have with them, as does my husband. What worries me the most is how fast they are growing up, and how much I am going to miss.

Christie - posted on 05/08/2009

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I feel that I never spend enough time with my family! I work full time and at times my husband travels for work. That's when I am a single Mom. There is never enough time in the day and when I get the day off, I play catch up. I work 50 hours a week and I feel guilty, but now a days you need a 2 income family.

Kelley - posted on 05/08/2009

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OMG who does'nt! Working full time, both my husband and I, makes it very difficult to balance family time. We do the best we can on weekends and always eat dinner together at the table with our 4 year old. All we can do as Moms is our best right?! Happy Mother's Day to all of us!!!!

Karrie - posted on 05/07/2009

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Oh man, do i ever... i work long tedious hours in a factory and when i'm on my afternoon shift i literally don't see my kids all weeks long. I feel like a terrible mother. So on weekends i just try to spend as much time as i can with them and make everything about them. I often wish my job was a straight day shift so i could be more normal but i guess this is a good lesson on how to handle things that arn't quite perfect.

Becky - posted on 05/07/2009

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All the time. I always feel guilty. Luckily my hubby is very considerate and when I get down on myself because of it, he always makes me feel better by telling me how great of a mom I am. Something so small really helps.

Chrissy - posted on 05/07/2009

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Yes! I don't get home til 5ish and then I feel like all we do is cook supper, bath and bedtime. I try to spend as much time with them on the weekends as I can but there is still all the cleaning and errands to do. Not to mention trying to find some alone time with my hubby! Wish I could afford to stay home and do that stuff during the day so my evenings and weekends could be free to spend time with my family.

Alexis - posted on 05/06/2009

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I feel like i miss out on her. I know i can't be with my daughter ever second but I don't want to miss out. I work 11am- 7pm so when I get home we eat as a family then we play about a hour then it's time to get ready for bed & the next day. I have the weekends off which makes me wish I had diffent hours.

Lyndsay - posted on 05/06/2009

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Yes! I try to make the times that we are together quality time and I switched jobs so I could work less overtime and have a shorter commute. It has really made a difference that I get to see her almost every morning (even for a few minutes) and earlier in the evening.

Ava - posted on 05/05/2009

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YES! I am a full time student, i work full time, and i am recently separated from her father, who is now deployed. She's at school all day, and when I get her home, I make dinner, clean up, then give her a bath so she can get to bed on time, and so I can start working on homework. I think we spend a good hour together each day, although it's not nearly the quality time i would like. Needless to say, the weekends are very important to us.

Gina - posted on 05/05/2009

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Everyday is really hard, I keep hoping it will get easier with time. I am very lucky to have my parents watch him while my husband & I work but it's still difficult. I'm starting to feel like I'm going to miss out on everything and it's bumming me out. The only thing that will make this worth it is that I will be able to give him everything that he needs & that I will be the best Mom I can when I am with him.

Amanda - posted on 05/05/2009

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i hate the fact that i cant get here from school every night and that during the holidays i have to find someone to have her which i find that i don't get chanceto get time off when she does, i have changed jobs so that i get weekends off and that has helpped.

Keely - posted on 05/05/2009

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Only on the weekends, do I really start to feel guilty. I work 3rd shift, so when I get off Saturday morning at 6am, I usually head home and am asleep until 3 in the afternoon. Because my schedule is so off, its usually 3pm before I get up on Sunday too. I try to make sure the time that I do have with her is quality and we always do something fun... but I wish I had a job with a more traditional schedule so I could be home with her on nights, and have more time on the weekends....

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