Does it get easier when you are a fulltime mum and work fulltime?

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I find it easier to be a single mum than being a couple with someone who isn't right. The whole working and being a single mum though does and doesn't get easier... I worked for awhile while I was single but my kids weren't coping with the family break up and me working so i quit and felt so much better but after about 6 months I wanted more in my life. I tried lots of different things but after 12 months at home with the kids I am now back at University. I don't spend as much time with the kids as I did when I was home with them but the time we have together is quality time.

The best thing to do is work out what works for you and your kid/s. When you are all happy then things are easier, but then sometimes there are those rough spots where things go pear shaped and you have to work through them to find your happy times again. Good Luck and I really truly do hope that you find the place you need to be to make things easier even if only for a little while.

Oh... one thing I found that did help - don't listen to the know-it-alls that try to tell you that being a working mum is bad for your kid and you are wrong for working and that you need a partner to raise your kid right (I got all those and the people saying I should go back to my husband), some people have no choice in where they are or what they do and they just make the best out of the situation they are given. Trust in yourself!

Kristin - posted on 04/12/2009

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I wish I could say yeah... It changes because their needs change i have two kids and i'm a single mom working full time. My kids are 5 & 7.... Mornings are wonderful, we get the clothes out the night before i wake them up in the morning they get themselves dressed and eat while I shower. I get those microwave pancakes or waffles b/c they can use the toaster and microwave it makes them feel big! They go to bed so much easier now to, there's no fight 7:30 and they go to bed we read a book and lights out. However, now that they are in sports and dance finding time to make dinner is so hard and most nights it's something out of a box or the drive through. So i'd say the mornings get better and the nights but you'll find you have so much less time. I try to see the positive that the years have flow and soon they will independant and i'll miss it.

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Sondra - posted on 04/17/2009

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I don't know if "easier" is the right word. What really helps is having a routine during the week. Fortunately hubby, my mom, and daycare are there for me! Given the choice I'd like to work part-time to be able to spend more time with my kids, but realistically I can't (gotta have insurance!). What I do appreciate about working is being able to interact with other adults and trade stories and advice about our kids.

Aljona - posted on 04/16/2009

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ooo no, I am new mum my child is 1 year old . I work full time, thanks to my husban he help me a lot

Alexis - posted on 04/16/2009

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I think it get's easier as they get older. Just make the time that you are home quality time if they are still want you around them.

Gabrielle - posted on 04/15/2009

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I think it's gotten easier for me, because I trust my daycare and they have a webcam so I can look in on my DD while I'm at work. I enjoy my job and even with my DH working too, we need the income. I make sure the time I spend with my DD is quality time and we do fun things as a family on the weekend. You never stop missing your kids entirely or wanting to take a day to just play hookey, but it does get easier.

Cherry - posted on 04/13/2009

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I would say Yes. I have three boys 9, 11 & 14 and have worked full time for at least 7 years w/o a break. At first I felt very overwhelmed and wondered if all the other moms had this much trouble. As they get older they are able to do more. We do have more activities which can make the days seem so short. The biggest change was in me. I have learned to be more organized, patient and have mentally adjusted to a fast paced life. I try not to let other's standards affect my thinking. My kids are loved, dressed in clean clothes, fed well, get good sleep, good grades and we spend time together... that is an achievement for me that I am proud of. Good Luck Lesley.

Kristine - posted on 04/13/2009

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For me it didn't get easier. The more I worked my job and took care of my kids the more I wanted to be home because I was missing so much and my son was becoming more distant from me because he spends time at his dad's too. I decided to start a home business 5 years ago and have since been able to go from working full time to working part time and will eventually be able to stay home completely. For me, I am not the type who can work outside the home and be satisfied with a job but that's just me. I think it would be a whole lot easier if I loved my job also and I could explain to my kids that it is important to do something you love and they can eventually too.

Emily - posted on 04/13/2009

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I think parenting in general gets harder as they age. There will be some things about working that get better, though. Leaving them is hardest when they are babies, routine is hardest because you never know when they are going to poop or fall asleep when you are already late, and as they age they also take more responsibility. TOday I had to chase my two year old around the yard with her pants after she "escaped" while helping feed the cat. Meanwhile my six year old had grabbed her lunch box and strapped herself into the carseat. In a few years my two year old will not be running around outside half naked when I am already late so hopefully I will be on time to work one day but I will also have that priceless memory of utter cuteness and know it was all worth it and it all worked out in the end.

Derily - posted on 04/12/2009

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Sorry... Definately no....I have 9mo twins and work fulltime - thank god for family.... My mum stays with us and looks after them 3 days a week so I can go to workwithout stressing!!!!!

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