Don't need advice, just support from moms who have been there.

Kristen - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




My 3 year old is going through this "I'm not listening" thing. ugh. I put her on time out. When she refuses to sit and eat dinner it gets taken away after a certain period of time and she gets nothing else for the night. I usually give her like 30 mins and several warnings. It's just so hard. I know I am doing the right thing and I know it will work but in the mean time it is so frustrating. Tell me I am not the only one! please...


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Jaime - posted on 09/09/2009




You both are doing what you are supposed to. She is trying out your limits and you are being consistent. My mom always tells me to be patient and that soon these years will be gone and I'll miss them so much. It doesn't feel like that now but I suspect she is right.

Stephanie - posted on 09/05/2009




We've all been there at one time or another. Consistency is the key so you're aboslutely on the right track. Hang in there!

Mary - posted on 09/04/2009




Have been there, done that. It hurts you more than them. It is just a terrible age where they are expressing their independence. You will live through it, although it doesn't seem like it sometimes. God bless. My mothers word to me was , patience

Suzanne - posted on 09/04/2009




You are NOT the only one! My older 2 kids...NEVER a youngest...WOW, he is making up for the older 2. I know it's hard as heck, but you are on the right path..stand your ground and let your little one know this is how it works, you have rules. Give 2 warnings and then the 3rd is gone. They get the count of 3 and by the 3rd's go time! Keep it up..good work and hang in there! =-)

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I agree with Susan pick your battles. My daughters 13 and 20 give are both hormonal, sometimes give me attitude and I find that its up to me how or if I want to respond. I am not as stressed and it works.

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Yes, you are doing fine. Mine still goes through the "I'm not listening" stage and she will be 4 in Oct. I do the same thing you do. What I have to enforce, due to other family members in the household giving in, is something different later on if she doesn't eat dinner. They sneak it to her. I also did a reward system. I told her if she ate, this and this, she didn't have to eat that and she could have desert. That at least got her to eat a little something at dinner with the rest of us.

Cassie - posted on 09/04/2009




Your doing really well, your not the only one my son is two coming up to three and he just wouldn't listen but with abit of detirmination you'll get there in the end :)

Susan - posted on 09/03/2009




You aren't the only one...mine is now 15 and the problems just keep getting bigger so enjoy the small challenges. Pick your battles and keep smiling. They grow up really fast.

Pam - posted on 09/02/2009




The only thing I can say here is don't give a lot of warnings. Too many and they don't believe you will do anything and therefore have no respect. Give warning once, maybe twice and then nip it in the bud. You'l see behavior change quite quickly.

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