Ear Piercing

Jennifer - posted on 07/04/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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I have a 5 month old daughter - my husband has his mind SET on her getting her ears pierced and he wants it done while she's a baby because he thinks that she won't remember it that way..... Mine were pierced when I was about 5 or so and I actually remember being carried out of the store screaming my head off after I got my ears pierced..... when did you all get your daughter's ears pierced?????

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Mandi - posted on 07/05/2009

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Not sure if you want to hear someone who isn't for it, but i am going to put my two cents in anyway! I think getting something pierced is a decision for when the person is old enough to make it for themselves - something like circumcision is either medical or religious. Many of my friends had their girls ears pierced when they were really small and they have had no problems with it but it seems to me like doing a cosmetic procedure and they certainly aren't old enough to look after it. I remember desperately wanting mine done as an 8 year old and yes it did sting, but I was big enough to decide I wanted it - it's not like picking a dress out, the piercing is more permanent than that - I still have the scars on my ears even though i no longer wear earrings after an infection as an adult!

Sorry, if this is a negative post, but I thought the other side should also be voiced as your daughter is not yet old enough to decide if she wants it. If it is seen as traumatic enough to try and sneak it in when she won't remember, then perhaps it is an important enough decision that she can make when she is big enough to decide a little pain is worth it.

Good luck with your decision.

JEANNETTE - posted on 07/16/2009

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IT'S BEST TO GET IT DONE WHEN SHE IS YOUNG, SHE WONT REMEMBER ANYTHING. I GOT MY DAUGHTER'S DONE WHEN SHE WAS 3MOS. SHE BARELY CRIED. SHE DID REALLY GOOD. BUT MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT PUT FAKE EARRINGS ON HER. GOOD LUCK

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I am actually with Mandi on this issue. I understand it is a personal choice whether you have your daughter's ears pierced, but my daughter (3 months old now) will be given this choice when or if she wants it done. I got mine done when I was 13, and it was quite an occasion of significance for me - so much so, it barely hurt.



Keep in mind that babies will not know they are there, and should she be moving about or have an ear infection, she might pull at her ears, causing more pain, more infection, more misery. Good luck with this decision!

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Susan - posted on 07/18/2009

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I would have got my daughters done as babies (2-4 months) but my husband said that they had to ask. My oldest wasn't interested so I coached my 2nd daughter and she asked her Dad at 3 years (her sister was 5 )and the 2 of them got it done together. My 3rd daughter got hers done at 3. It would have been nice if they had been done earlier so they were completely healed before they were able to complain about Mom cleaning their ears everyday.

Michelle - posted on 07/17/2009

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I actually walked past Claires Accesseries the other day and there were two parents holding down a screaming baby girl all in the name of fashion ...dont get me wrong i am not against it but i would wait a little while longer i think that they should be able to understand what is happening. My daughter was about three and although there were a few tears i felt better knowing that she understood what was happening.

Kay - posted on 07/12/2009

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hi,im a beautician and practice in ear piercing,its not a great idea when there babys,main reason is infection from baby sick,ive seen some awful cases of infections due to this in babys.

Michelle - posted on 07/11/2009

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My pediatrician suggested 6 months. I'm leaning towards then as well for my lil girl. My were pierced very early & no lasting trauma here!

ChaRee - posted on 07/11/2009

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I had my ears pierced when is was 13. I was old enough to take care of my ears. My husband and I agreed that we would wait until our daughter was old enough to take care of her ears and we would go to a professional piercer, not Claire's or any place that has the piercing guns (both guns jammed on my ears and it has taken me a long time to get over that fact). We figured that we would wait until she asked for it and explain what was going to happen and that she needs to take care of her ears afterward.

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I didn't allow either of my daughters to pierce their ears until they were 12. Old fashion, I know but I wanted them to be sure that was what they wanted and also be old enough to take care of their ears. There was some begging before their 12th birthdays but I don't regret my decision to wait. They were able to make a responsible decision of their own. They have both had 2nd holes pierced and I didn't argue with that - they knew what they were in for. After reading some of the posts, one point is important - both parents need to agree.

Pj - posted on 07/11/2009

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Both my girls were a year old. Wait till she is tired and ready for a nap and bottle. Get them pierced she will cry for a few minutes and then she will fall asleep.

Maria - posted on 07/11/2009

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i got my eldest daughters ears pierced at about 6mths, and she was fine, my second daughter didnt have her ears pierced till about 9yrs old and had lots of problems and she also found it very painful, which resulted in her taking the earings out. i would go with your husband and have them done while she not old enough to know whats going on

Kelly - posted on 07/10/2009

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I had my oldest daughters' ears pierced when she was a baby. One of my other daughters we waited until she was 4. I found it easier to clean etc at the baby stage rather than the latter. Also by the time my oldest wanted to wear other earings they were already healed. My other daughter thought she could wear different ones right off the bat so it was a constant battle to keep her from changing them.

Lisa - posted on 07/10/2009

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Well I got 2daughters and both were done when they were few weeks old...They were so young that the ears wont pushed away from there heads all the way yet...and they let out a scream and as soon and I put there Plug in there mouth they Stopped just like that...Hope this helps

Belinda - posted on 07/10/2009

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Hi, I have 3 daughters 20,18,and 12 they all have their ears pierced and they have not had any problemes. I had them done when they were babys and had no worries as they were to young to play with them, my first was 6months my second 3 months and my third i had don the day she had her 6 week check, yes they cry for a second but not as much as they do if they get infected if they have them pierced as a toddler and pull at them all the time because it something new in their ear.the sooner the better good luck

Maryann - posted on 07/10/2009

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My daughter had her ears pierced after her first shots, per Dr. orders. I put her pacifier in her mouth after the 2nd ear was pierced and she was fine. She didn't even respond after the first ear was pierced. I took her to a good jewler, not some booth, and bought good gold earrings. She is now 11 and the job is done and she doesn't even remember not having them pierced.

Rasa - posted on 07/10/2009

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I had both my daughters ears pierced at 4 months when the doctor said it was ok. My doctor said it was a good time because the babies can't grab onto the ears and you will have an easier time keeping the ears clean.

Toni - posted on 07/10/2009

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I got my daughters ears pierced when she was about the same age. my daughter was totally fine. i think if he wants to get them done. go for it. Emily is 1 and 1/2 now and she loves them. I l think getting them done now will be way easier then if you want till she is 1

Jessica - posted on 07/10/2009

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2 years old and I don't remember a thing. I have a 10 week old daughter and haven't decided about this one either. I am sure that everyone will have an opinion though. If you aren't comfortable.....then I would wait until you are.

Karin - posted on 07/10/2009

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We did it whenh she was three...and she screamed her head off....loves them now. I would say do it while she's a baby (why not?) unless your gonjna wait until they are old enough to decide for themselves, you mine as well do it before they know what's going on...

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I had my daughters ears pierced when she was 7 months old. She cried for just 30 seconds realized she was fine and moved on to something new. She is 2 1/2 now and love, loves that she has her ears pierced just like mommy.

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Just had my daughter's ears pierced in March. She begged me, so I let her get them done. We took very good care of them, cleaned them twice a day, and she ended up being allergic and getting big bumps/cysts on the backs of her earlobes. She is five and pretty mild-mannered, but it wasn't fun going to the Dr. and having him lance her earlobes. I can't imagine doing that with an infant, and having the guilt of getting her ears pierced early. I say just wait until it is important to her, she will be more responsible and cognizant about what is going on with her body that way.

Marie - posted on 07/09/2009

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I pierced my daughters ears when she was 5 months old. I did it at this age because I read that its better to do it after their second set of shots. I have to agree with your husband that now is a better time to do it because she wont remember and she probably wont grab at her ears like older kids do. After she got them done, I gave her a bottle and then some tylenol and she was fine. I was expecting the worse and everything worked out great with her. BTW I took her to Piercing Pagoda in case your md doesnt do it. I hope everything works out!!

Shannon - posted on 07/09/2009

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I didn't pierce my daughter's ears until she was old enough to ask and then when we got it done - she absolutely knew she had to sit and get both. I didn't like the idea of piercing a defensless childs ears - but looking back on it - it would be easier to keep them clean and for them to heal.

Amanda - posted on 07/09/2009

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We got our daughter's ears pierced when she was 6 months old and I am so glad we did it then!

Sarah - posted on 07/08/2009

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DO IT NOW!!! My daughters were done when she was 3 months and they were very easy to clean and she only cried for about 45 seconds!!!! Don't wait or it will be harder.

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2009

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I have a 2 daughters, 15 and 10, when they were 2 months old I had their ears pierced. I found it to be easier at that age, because they didn't mess with them. I do know kids who had them done at a later age and ended up getting their ears infected cause they were constantly playing with them.

Leah - posted on 07/08/2009

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I pierced my daughters ears at home when she was 4 months old. I was 5 when had mine done. I debated for a long time, even before she was born as to do it or not, the kicker for me was when my mom said that she wished she would have done it when I was small. I do think it is a choice but she can take them out when she is older or add more if so desired. I recently found out that we are having another girl and I plan on piercing her ears as well. There has not been any problem with infection or with her messing with them. And all the earings for children have rounded saftey backs so they don't poke and to take them off you have to unscrew it. We have made cleaning them apart of our night time routine (take a bath, bush teeth, clean ears, comb hair....) She is now almost 2 and points out everyone elses earings and then points to her own. The only trouble we have had is trying to change them to a different pair, she won't sit still long enough.

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I have a daughter, she will be two in Sept. I wanted to get her ears pierced young, like at 6 months, but my husband freaked. He wants her to be able to decide. I know her decision, she will want them. I had mine pierced around age five, remember the day, and the holes are crooked because I wouldn't sit still. My daughter has reached the age where she wouldn't leave them alone if I did it now, so I have to wait.



Pierce her ears, and quick! LOL

Brandi - posted on 07/07/2009

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I just got them done yesterday she is 11 months and two weeks old i did it because she wont remember it and when she is older she will WANT them. I know she will be very afraid to do it when she is older. She handled it well cried for about 1 min. She is fine She looks so cute. Just make sure they do them both at the same time its so much better

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I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was 8 months old. True, it was something that I wanted - not something she asked for.



Having them done so young she grew up with them as a part of her so when she was 3 or more she wasn't pulling at them or playing with them. We keep the original studs in her ears unless we are going out somewhere. The earrings don't poke her while she sleeps, she's never had an infection, she loves them and she loves that she's been able to change her 'look' since a very young age.
If you are worried about the pain there is a topical ointment called Emla, you can ask for it at the pharmacy (it's expensive $15 for 5ml) it's lidocaine so she won't feel a thing.

Sarah - posted on 07/07/2009

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we got my daughter's done at 3 months old and the crying lasted longer after shots than it did after getting her ears pierced. and we have had absolutely no problems with infection, hair getting caught, etc.

Miranda - posted on 07/07/2009

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We pierced are daughters ears just after her 2 month shots. You know everyone thinks different. Some think it is mean to do it so young but I don't. She cried just like she did with her shots and when I picked her up she was all done crying and we haven't had any problems since. She doesn't play with them at all and we have only lost 1 earring so far and it has been 9 months!!! So I'm in pro of getting them done young!!! I took are 5 year old for his shots and honestly I would rather take the baby, it is sad but they can't fight it and they can't complain later. And after the babies get their shots they don't remember it!!! So I think it is the same with the earrings!!!

Carol - posted on 07/07/2009

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I had my daughters pierced when she was 9 1/2. She was of an age where she made the decision to have them done and I had no objections. I think it is what the parents opinion is that counts and if you disagree and your husband agrees then I would beg to differ and wait until she is old enough to make up her own mind.

Janiese - posted on 07/07/2009

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I also have a 5 month old daughter and almost daily she is mistaken for a boy so i was thinkin about it but my husband thinks we shuld wait "let her decide once she is older" I read a couple of the replies here and I think i m gonna wait i dont remember when i had mine but im pretty sure she would like it if it was her decision maybe she wont want them or wont like them i figure i stick with him on that one.........

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2009

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my daughter got her ears pierced when she was 3 months old and i'm so glad she's almost 2 now and doesn't know anything differnet she doesn't play with them she thinks there pretty's! my friends daughters got her ear pierced when she 7 and she only got one side peirced...the lady who pierced my daughters ears said that the less they play with them the less chance of infection!

User - posted on 07/07/2009

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My daughter got hers done at about 6 months. It was alot less traumatic for her then when I got mine at 6. If I have another girl I would get them done early again

Talisa - posted on 07/07/2009

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I think that its best to do it while they are young. That way, it'll already be done.

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I have several piercings of my own, and as a result (and having seen bad results happen to other people), I strongly believe that piercings should *only* ever be done by knowledgeable and skilled piercers in piercing studios. I also believe that the person getting the piercing done should be choosing to do it themselves. We can choose to put cute clothing on our children, but I personally do not think it's appropriate for us to choose to modify their bodies in a permanent way. (Hence I'm against circumcision, too. Adults can choose to be circumcised if it's important to them.) A reputable piercer will not pierce a child for that reason -- it needs to be voluntary on the part of the person who's getting the body modification.

The pain of a piercing is pretty small, especially if done by an experienced piercer who uses a needle and not a gun. (Plus, the needle doesn't make a big, scary noise.) It's also a lot safer, and more accurate. Since the pain is so small, I don't think that trying to protect your child from that pain is sufficient reason to get their ears pierced when they're an infant.

If, however, you still choose to have your child's ears pierced, expect them to cry when it happens (of course.) For after care, please ignore any recommendations for using hydrogen peroxide on the piercings! Hydrogen peroxide is extremely hard on the area, and isn't necessary for cleanliness. Instead, gently and thoroughly clean with a sterile saline solution several times a day. Ideally, soak the piercings with warm saline (1 cup warm water mixed with 1/4 tsp sea salt) once or twice a day, too.

Dominique - posted on 07/07/2009

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I really beleive that pain is remembered!, your daughter will not be able to link her ears being pierced but in the long term the trauma that she will go throw will come out in t=a differed way...
It is better to let her choose to have it done when she is older she may not want to... who knows...

Charlie - posted on 07/07/2009

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I got my daughter's done at 2 1/2 months and have had no problems with them.

Tashia - posted on 07/07/2009

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i was 3 and i still remember. i would have preferred it at a younger age so i didnt remember. I think that looks so cute on a baby. I dont have a girl, but if i did she would have them

Marquita - posted on 07/07/2009

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I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and everyone asks me why I haven't gotten her ears pierced. I feel that her body, is her body, and I shouldn't put unneccessary holes in it. I'm going to follow in my mother's foot steps on this one and wait until she is at least in the fifth grade and understands cleanliness and personal decisions a little better. I strongly encourage others to do the same. So, my answer for you is just to wait. Plus, if the person doing the piercing messes up no, it will look really bad when she gets older and she may be embarrased by it. (this happened to a friend of mines kid)

Joi - posted on 07/07/2009

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I had my ears pierced at age 8. I remember asking my mom to get them done and she used the ear piercing as a reward for good grades in school. I know that it made me work really hard to get them, and I plan on doing the same thing with my daughter. I feel that since it is a cosmetic thing, that the decision should be up to her whether she ever wants to get them done or not.

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I wanted to get my daughter's ears pierced when she was a baby, but then I talked to a friend of mine who does piercings and he said that it's better to wait until they're older. If you get it done when they're infants, they're still growing so rapidly that the piercings can actually become crooked! So, if you want to do it, go for it, but if you decide to wait, I'd probably wait until about 7-years-old. By that age, most kids have the ability to reason it as, "Yes, this will hurt for a bit, but it's something I want, so I'll suck it up."

MARIA - posted on 07/07/2009

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I had my daughters ears poerced when she was 1 and my friends held her as i sat far away from the store in the mall. I heard her crying from so far away it was horrible. As it turns out about a year later one of the holes closed and i didn't take her to get it re-pierced. My daughter is 13 now and I ask her now and again if she wants to go and she doesn't. She hates piercings in general. Go figure.

Jennifer - posted on 07/06/2009

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My daughter was three months old when we had hes done, they healed really well. When they are young like that they have less of a chance of infection because they aren't as aware of the earings therefore they don't touch them as much. I remember my mom let me decide when I got mine done. I was in grade 2 and every other girl had them but me. My mom and sister also had them so I finally got them. The problem with that was that I constantly had infection after infection it took almost 2 years to heal. I didn't want my daughter to go through that as well so I had them done young. I figure if she doesn't want them when sh is older we will just let them close up. Just do what feels right to you.

Crystal - posted on 07/05/2009

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In my personal experiance, my mother forced me to get it done when I was five, and I faught her so much that she gave up and let them close. I made my own decision to have them pierced when I was eight, and still have them to this day. With this in mind, I decided to not have my daughters done unless she wanted it, and just today she asked me if she could pierce her ears. (she's four) But we'll see how it is when the gun is put to her ear!!! It probably would be easier on you to do it now, but that is one extra thing to worry about her putting in her mouth when she gets older.

Laquilla "Treci" - posted on 07/05/2009

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Im a first time mom of a little girl also......I have the same questions.....Anyone's help would be great!

Rachel - posted on 07/05/2009

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I still haven't pierced her ears. She is 3 1/2. In my husband's family and culture, it is tradition to have ears pierced as a baby. My mother-in-law actually presented me with my daughter's first pair of earrings before she was born. But in my family, at age 7 we could choose to or not. I remember it as uncomfortable but more proud for being a big enough to have real jewelry. One of my sisters waited until she was in middle school because she wasn't ready. After much discussion, and my mother-in-law admitting that she tore one of hers out as a baby, we decided to wait until my daughter is older and can choose what she wants. I am holding the earrings for that day.

Shelley - posted on 07/05/2009

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hi my first daughter was 7 wks old when she had her ears pierced, she cryed for a few seconds she is now 11 and my other daughter was 3mths old i think the earlier the better, they ddnt mess with them ,if they was older they prob wud of, at the end of the day if they didnt like them as they got older they can simpley take them out.iam glad i had them done and so is both of my daughters :-)

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