Falling asleep in the crib!

Keri - posted on 06/16/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is a year & a half on the 26th. I have a hard time getting him to fall asleep in his crib. Some nights he still wants to be held. I have a hard time leaving him in there to cry. How long should I let him cry it out? Or what other options do I have!?

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Kelly - posted on 06/20/2009

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I read four short books to my daughter i let her turn off the lights in her room and I hold her and and make her lay her head on my shoulder for about a minute then put her in bed with a couple of her toys and tell her good night I will see her in morning. She usually lays down and goes to bed or talks to herself for about 10 minutes until she falls asleep. Occasionally she will cry for no more than 5 minutes. Good luck I hope you find the right solution for you

Keri - posted on 06/20/2009

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Esther Thank you so much!

the last 2 nights in a row we put him down & sat there & ignored him,

& it worked!!! twice lol! itsa un believable. That just gave me 20 extra minutes to relax :)

So thanks alot :D! it must be a Christmas baby thing huh!

Keri - posted on 06/16/2009

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Thanks for your words of wisdom ladies.

I plan to try both of your techniques over the next couple weeks.

& am just hoping that it works. :D

thanks again!

that is so neat they were born on the same day, my son was born at 5:41 pm at 4 pounds 10 ounces :)

Rebecca - posted on 06/16/2009

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i used to rock my son in my arms when he was younger, he is now 20 months and has been sleeping in his toddler bed for 3 months as we have another child due in 4 weeks and didn't want fighting over a crib. i know for his crib,when he got too big for me to rock i would let him wrap his legs around me and i would bounce for about 5 minutes adn then he would go to bed. he would cry for a long time but eventually he knew it was bedtime and we weren't going to go in to get him out. the first night he cried for about 15 minutes,the second a bit less and so on. it was about a week before he cried for maybe a minute before falling asleep. right now he likes to get out of his bed and bang on his door becuase my husband used to go in and see him and read antoher story and he would get what he wanted. a child isn't stupid,they know that if they cry and you come back they can keep doing it all night long. stay strong and show them you wont give in. my husband is out of town for 2 weeks and i wont go back in the room so i hope to have that system broken by the time he gets back. he slept in front of his door last night and after about 2 hours i managed to squeeze in his door and put him in bed. it is really hard to hear them cry but go in another room,put on some headphones and listen to some music to block out some of the noise. if after 30 minutes he still is screaming go in just to make sure he doens't have gas. give him a hug and kiss and lay him back down. don't say anything to him at all,this i found hard. in a few weeks you will forget all about the crying and he will have more peacefull sleeps and so will you. try reading a favorite book as well and keeping bedtime around the same time everynight. routine is key. good luck:)

Esther - posted on 06/16/2009

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BTW - It sounds like your son & mine share a birthday. Mine was born December 26, 2007.

Esther - posted on 06/16/2009

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I have to say upfront that I don't believe in letting kids cry-it-out so I tried to find a method that would accomplish that without the crying. I always rocked my son to sleep and when he was about 14-15 months old that got a little hard to do as he didn't quite fit in my arms anymore and he was getting so heavy that carrying him to his crib and putting him down without waking him up again was becoming next to impossible.





So what I did was make our bedtime routine slightly more elaborate than it used to be. After all the normal steps (bath, PJs, brushing teeth etc.) I now go around the room with him and we say goodnight to all the animals in his room (in pictures & stuffed). The stuffed animals get put on their backs too as if they are going to sleep as well. After that I sit in the rocking chair with him (in the dark) to give him a last bottle or sippy of milk. Once he's done with that he's ready to go to sleep and I'll sit with him maybe a minute longer (mainly for my own pleasure) and just hold him, sometimes sing a song, give him some kisses etc. Before he's actually asleep I put him in his crib.





Then I sit down on the floor next to his crib with my back against it and from that point on I ignore him, unless he's (really) crying. When I first started doing this he would do everything he could think off to get my attention. Throw pacifiers at my head, pull my hair, laugh really loud, pace back & forth behind my back, throw the stuffed animals out of his crib, call "mama", you name it, he did it. And I ignored it all. Eventually he would lay down and go to sleep (sometime lay down, get up & lay down again). The first night it took me about 45 minutes. After about 2 weeks I was down to 10 mins. After a month or so (maybe slightly less) I could put him in his crib and just walk away and it's still like that now. The only set-backs we've had was for about a week or so after he had been sick (roseola) and I had to stand next to his crib again for about 5 mins until he went to sleep, and when we had family visiting from Europe and I would have to sit there for about that same amount of time for a few days. Not a big deal though.





It might work with your son too. Good luck.

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