freaking out about goimg back to work! HELP!!!

KaSandra - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 5 weeks old and i will be going back to work on Oct 5th. i am already having panic attacks just thinking about it. what can i do to be ok with this?

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Ngatere - posted on 09/23/2009

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Well this is from my own personal experience and I must say I am one of the lucky ones. I have 3 kids, the first was 2 years before I started to work so that one doesn't count. I live in the Cook Islands and we are only allowed 4 weeks materinty leave from the day you stop work NOT from the day you have the baby. I know it sucks. The only way I have been able to do this is by working half days until baby was at least 4-6 months old and then back into the full swing of things. I do miss my kids during the day and feel I miss out on so much but I try to make it up with little things that I can buy with the money I have earned.

Wendy - posted on 09/22/2009

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Have you ever thought about starting your own home business to be able to stay home with your child. I found a great at home business that not only pays me but is safer for my kids, saves our family money on ALL products we use. LMK if you would like to take a look, even if you are just looking to save some money.

Amy - posted on 09/22/2009

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I am lucky enough to have an amazing daycare provider that I have known and trusted for 13 years. I think that really helps. Even though youll be sad about going back to work, think of it this way. . . You daughter is your motivation, she needs food, clothes, future college money, your going back to work for her future. That's helps me anyway. : )

Jahna - posted on 09/22/2009

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Will you be going back full time?? I had to go back to work when my daughter was 6 weeks old, and I work full time. My daughter is 4 months and 2 weeks old now and I STILL miss her everyday!! Dont let anyone fool you, it will be hard, I cried!! But just think about how it's the best for her!!! Your doing it for her!!! You'll get through it, promise!

KaSandra - posted on 09/22/2009

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awesome thank you so much i didn't know about all the other options out there.

Corine - posted on 09/22/2009

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It's not easy and I'm sure it's just because she's so little; it’s a tough decision to make but not all of us can stay home. I would just be sure you have really good communication with the person/center that you are taking your daughter too and that will ease your comfort. Call them if you want to know how she is doing.



Being in a center is good for them in a lot of ways. I know it doesn't replace the mom factor but just try to make you time together more special and one on one.



Finding balance is daily tasks so don’t overwhelm yourself at first. You’ll get there.



Best of luck

Jessica - posted on 09/22/2009

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Good luck. Everything will be fine. I had to return back to when Davina was 6 weeks also. Calling in to check on her helped and keeping a picture of her on the computer wallpaper so I could gaze at her throughout my shift helped also. I'm not sure what the state of Oregon's pregnancy disability/leave guidelines are, but check to see if your state has "Bonding Time". In California mothers/fathers can take 6weeks bonding time within the 1st year of delivering their new baby. I was able to find this pdf file online regarding leave in Oregon



http://www.boli.state.or.us/BOLI/TA/TA_C...



If its too soon for you to go back remember you have options. All the best! Gorgeous Family!!

Theresa - posted on 09/20/2009

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If your child is going to daycare, some have the cameras in the room for the babies so you can watch your child from your computer monitor! This way you can "check in" and get some peace of mind.

Erin - posted on 09/20/2009

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My little boy will be almost 7 months old when I go back to work on October 19th. My husband is going to stay home with him. We have talked about a few things that we are going to try to do to lessen my stress and sadness at having to leave my little one and go back to work. Here are a few of our ideas. We are going to set up SKYPE at my work so if Cooper does something amazing, like taking his first steps, I can see this ASAP. I think we plan on using SKYPE daily, even for just 2 minutes so I can see my little boy and say HI. we are also going to try to have lunch together once a week so that I can actually hold my little boy, even for 10 minuted during the day. It will be a special little time just for our family and it will give me something to look forward to each week. I realize you may be placing your child in a daycare situation and some of these ideas may not apply to you. Perhaps you could have your sitter or daycare set up a webcam so you could look in on your little girl periodically during the day. I think the most important thing to remember is there are going to be some rough days for you, but that is ok. You are leaving your baby with someone else and that is HARD!! It is OK and NO ONE has a right to make you feel bad about being sad. The hard days will become less and less frequent. Just think about the wonderful little person you are working for and the complete love you get to go home to everyday. She will fuss at you at the beginning when you come get her, but that's because YOU ARE HER FAVORITE PERSON IN THE WORLD AND SHE MISSED YOU SOOOO MUCH!!!! Make the time you have together in the evenings and the mornings a special time just for the two of you. That's what I plan on doing. Good luck to you!!

Michelle - posted on 09/20/2009

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It is imperative that you are comfortable with the person/people you leave your baby with while you are at work. I agree that calling to check-up is key in order to put your own mind at ease. I also got a daily note from day care informing me of how the day was for my son, down to when he napped and when his diaper was changed. Taking pictures of your baby with you helps a lot. Good luck!

Nikoah - posted on 09/19/2009

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Focus on the positives of the person who is taking care of your baby. My baby is 6 months old. I had 3 weeks before I had to go back to work, and fully understand. Remember, you will be home with her before you know it. Also, take pictures to work with you.

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Going back is the hardest thing to do after having your child and it doesn't get easier with the more you have. What I did was go out for an hour for a couple days, then I upped it to two hours, then three etc etc. By the time I was ready to go back I was nervous but not experiencing anxiety issues. Hope this helps.
Lynn

KaSandra - posted on 09/19/2009

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thank you so much!

Jeandre Seaton: i will definately keep in touch. it'll help having someone to talk to who feels the same way.

Zakeana - posted on 09/19/2009

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I can only imagine how hard that is going to be!! I have had the luxury of being off for almost a full 12 months, and while i am happy to be going back to work, really don't like the idea of leaving my little bug with anyone.

Going back to work is such a necessity for most of us! You are going back to work to offer your little one a more comfortable lifestyle than the one you would likely have without an income. You are a great mom for making this difficult decision. I hope it goes well for you back at work.

Jeandre - posted on 09/19/2009

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I'm in the same boat as you. My baby girl is 3 and a half months though. My first day back will be October 1st. I'm very nervous and feel I'm going to miss my baby like crazy! Stay in touch then we can work through it together!

Crystal - posted on 09/18/2009

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i was the same way with mine and what made me feel better was i would call from work on my lunch or breaks just to check up and see how she was or what she was doing even i knew she was sleeping it wasn't that i didn't trust them who was watching her but it made me feel better and i something still do it now 5 years later

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