Full time job, toodler, infant, and school?!!

Danielle - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I work full time (at night), right now Monday thru Friday schedule. I have a three year old and a four month old. I signed up for school in the spring, because I want better for my family. I am sooo scared because I dont know what to do. Full time school, full time job..full time mom?? How is that possible. I feel like if I work and go to school I wont have time for my kids, who I love soo very much. I already don't like working nights but its a decent paying job. But I dont want that job forever. I really want to pursue school.

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Wendy - posted on 09/12/2009

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Good for you. Just take it one day at a time. Sometimes if we look at everything at one time we get overwhelmed. Just do what you can one day at a time.

Have you ever looked at a homebased business? Maybe part time to supplement if you want to go parttime outside the home? I have a home business that is really growing and am looking at this being my full time career.

LMK if you want to take a look? No obligation and I won't waste your time (nor mine, it's too valuable)

Wendy

Sharon - posted on 09/11/2009

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You can do this! I've been there - it's not easy, but it IS worth it. My kids were 1 and 2&1/2 when I worked fulltime and took distance education courses. My husband also worked shift work and we had no family in the area at that time. We used some really great sitters, but the kids were quite young. Now, they are 4&1/2 and almost 6, and I am able to spend more time with them, take them to their activities, even attend field trips occasionally now that i am finished school. I also have really flexible hours at work now, so having a great employer can be very helpful too. If you find things are getting too overwhelming, you could try talking to your employer, but may depend on the situation. Remember - short term pain for long term gain. And what a great role model for success for your children to have. They will learn that a good life is out there for those willing to work hard for it! Good luck!

Anna - posted on 09/07/2009

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You sound amazing. It is great to have goals in life and to go for them. As you say, its not forever. Ask for help wherever you can get it. Most people love helping out. Can you do school part-time? Look for any ways you can cut down on doing unnecessary things, or get someone to help you out. For example, you can get away without ironing, you can shop online - take every short cut you can. And good luck - you deserve it!

Laura - posted on 09/06/2009

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do it! what will happen in short term will pay off long term and u will get a better job with better prospects xx

Heather - posted on 09/06/2009

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You should be very proud of yourself, and what ever you do.....Don't give up. You are sacrificing a great deal to better you and your family and it will pay off in the end. Do what only needs to be done, don't be afraid of asking for help from family and friends and with the time you do have with your children, make it count. I was a mom with 6 children and went back to school full time to get my RN, it was hard. The house was a mess, most of the time, I was exhausted but my family and I knew that it wasn't going to last forever. Now 3 years later I'm working as an RN making good money, 3 days a week. The other 4 days, well me and my babies, we PLAY a lot! The time will go by faster than you would believe.

April - posted on 08/26/2009

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All you can do is try, are you a single mom? When we opened a new business, thats when my husband learned he had to help out.

Jamie - posted on 08/26/2009

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I feel your pain except mine is a bit different. I have a 4 yr old and a 18 month old. They are my world. I work full time M-F and am now on call part time because I work for a technology group. I am also in school full time but I do distance learning so I am almost never on campus. My husband works Sat through Tues so I have to work go to school and be at home with the kids two days a week. I just don't have time for me anymore. It is tough but it is worth it.

You are doing the right thing and you are showing your children how strong you can be and what it takes to provide the best for them. Congratulations to you. Also, it's good to know that I am not alone. :) Hang in there. Try to take a bath or something (5 min if nothing else) to yourself each night/day... it will keep you sane. :)

Christina - posted on 08/26/2009

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You are making such an incredible sacrifice for your children as well as trying to better yourself and for that you are a wonderful and devoted mom! Reality says, yes life will be soooo tough and at times you will want to throw in the towel and scream, "this is NOT worth it." But put pictures of your munchkins in your school bag and purse and whenever you get to that point of wanting to quit, pull them out and look at those beautiful faces to remember why you are doing this to begin with!! You will be soooo glad you put yourself through this when all is said and done and your children will get the best start possible, which is better than any toy you could buy them! What does not destroy you only makes you stronger and while that is easier said than done, as long as you get a good support system in place and get a routine down you and the kids can adjust to, although hectic, chaotic and crazy things become you can make it! Behind every good mommy is a pile of dirty laundry!

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Hang in there! Think quality time and not quantity. Try and put aside as much of that mother's guilt as you can and remember you are doing it all for your family. Outsource (get help) on as much as you can or when you do things like laundry and house chores make it a game with the 4 year old. I know mine loves to help folding laundry and mopping floors. Also if necessary lower your standards on what needs to be done- you don't have to be perfect or have a perfectly clean house- make a list of the most important things and prioritize by that list. Good luck!

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