Having to find out through social media.

Rebecca S - posted on 08/26/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )




Being a working mother means you have to leave your children with a sitter. I have understood this for a very long time. We live in a 2,000 populated town, very small everyone knows everyone. My 2 year old son is taken care by my in laws (father in law most of the day). I will also mention that I have sister in laws and my mother that all live in this town.

I was at work today and I happened to take a break and did a quick scroll through my news feed on facebook and I see pictures of my son with my nieces and nephews at a weekly school event. I had no clue my son was going to attend this I had no clue at all!! There has been other times that he goes places with in laws and my husband and i have no idea.

Now, I need someone to tell me if it is wrong of me to be upset or feel the need to know where my son is even if his sitters are his grandparents. Dont get me wrong I trust them with my son but the one thing i think of is what if something happens to him (god forbid) and we have no idea of his location.

I try to avoid conflict with my in laws. i try to avoid conflict with anyone period. But I have had enough.


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Jade - posted on 09/15/2016




My daughter stays with my mom while I am at work. Typically they stay at home, but occasionally they go out and about. I understand where you're coming from, as I have the same worries. I have asked my mom to send me pictures or updates during the day, as I obviously begin missing her. This way I am kept in the loop, but it comes off that I just want to see my girl while I'm away from her.
I hope this helps!

Amaze - posted on 09/12/2016




My older daughter’s sitters were my in-laws, too. I loved to hear them sharing at the end of the day what all had happened throughout the day. They took her to different places, and I never insisted that I needed to know where were they taking her because I knew my daughter was safe in their hands.

B - posted on 08/31/2016




http://bit.ly/1SARcul I have struggles with the same issues. It did take some time to learn how to communicate my feelings but it worked over time. The link I provided helps tremendously!

Ev - posted on 08/26/2016




I think you are over reacting. My parents took care of my daughter for most of the first several months of her life. They went to town for groceries, out to do errands and other things. What were they supposed to do? Stay home until I got there? My inlaws took care of my kids too and if they had to go anywhere they just took them. When I got home they would tell me about the day. I think you need to take a breath and let it out.

Jodi - posted on 08/26/2016




I'm not sure what the big deal is. He is clearly with family and sounds like he is enjoying himself. If something were to happen to him, I'm sure they would call you. But do they need to call you for every little thing they do together? You mention you husband might be with him sometimes too......why is that such an issue for you? I suspect you are simply jealous because you aren't there.

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