Help... He just won't potty train

Stacy - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have a son that will be 3 in two weeks.... He's going to start a childhood learning class and I've been trying so hard to get him potty trained before, but he just says no! Everytime I actually get him on the potty chair he sits down then he's back up "all done".... and nothing has been done. I've tried so many things. I don't know what to do.

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Jessica - posted on 09/11/2009

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Try not to keep putting them on the potty, just keep asking them if they have to go. My dr. told me that if you keep making them sit on the potty it can make them resent it or think its a toy, and try putting cherrios in the potty and hav him aim for them to help prevent him peeing everywhere. when he does pee on the potty, praise him, let him know how proud you are of him. Good luck!!!!

Sharon - posted on 09/09/2009

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Try having "naked week" This is easier if you're on vacation for a week and are home, but whatever works. Have your son be naked as much as possible. Try putting his own potty in the living room, if he wants nothing to do with the bathroom. Give lots of praise when/if he trys. Make a potty chart and have him put a sticker when he trys/goes. I give my son jelly beans (this is optional and not always the best approach) Lots of paitence and consitancy. Instead of "putting him on the potty" get a stool so he can get up/down by himself or use a portable potty. If he starts showing interest and you need to go somewhere bring the portable potty with you and explain to him that it's ok to let you know when he has to go!! Pull-ups may or may not work for him. Buy big boy undies and let me walk around in those. He will have accidents but they're easier to pull up/down. Keep in mind it can take up to 8 months to train a child, don't get discouraged.

Hope this helps, Good luck!

Hope - posted on 09/08/2009

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i would use the pullups it makes the child confused and would use the underwear and plasic covers.(i used the soft paded seat that fits of the starterd size toliet) If he still doesnt do it then may be try to give award after he does goes on the toliet. but u need put him on the toliet on a reg basis untill he get the hang of it good luck to you and best wishes !!! mother of 2 !!!

Tracy - posted on 09/08/2009

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my daugther just got trained in July - all of a sudden one day she said she wanted to wear undies - weird because she was just like your son up till that day. She'd say no everytime we asked her and people including her doctor said just wait don't push her. So we did that, and all of a sudden in a couple days she was basically trained, she has an occasional accident. We used the thicker undies, no pull ups, apparently they soak up too much just like a diaper. Good luck. My best advice is to have a lot of patience. Claire let us know when she was ready and we didn't push it.

Colleen - posted on 09/08/2009

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my son was 4 before he was trained he just didnt want to,and if u force them they really wont go,i did a rewards chart,if he went almost every day he would get new underwear of his choice at the end of the week and even daily rewards like money worked really good,a quarter at the end of the day or a tattoo they love those.

Traci - posted on 09/08/2009

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When I figure it out I will let you know. I have a son that will be 5 years old in 6 weeks and he is still not completely potty trained. I've tried everything too. Ultimately, they need to decide that they are ready for it to work. You've already received some good tips that work for a lot of kids. Consistancy, cotton underwear during the day, reward for actually going on the potty, etc, etc. If you've tried all these and they aren't working, you might just have to be patient and wait until he decides that he is ready. I know it's really frustrating as the parent, but this is one thing that you cannot force them to do.

In the case of my son, when we have his check up with the doc I will be asking about seeing a specialist. In the case of your son, I wouldn't worry too much yet. A lot of boys train right around their 3rd b-day (my nephew was about 2 months after his 3rd b-day) so there is still time. Good luck.

KAREN - posted on 09/06/2009

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He may not be ready yet. You could get him to choose his own 'big boy' pants and tell him he'll be wearing them. Expect lots of accidents. Children generally dont like getting cold down there so he will quickly get the message. Offer the potty or toilet every half hour or so, and when he does a wee or no 2, a small reward should be offered. xxx

Jamie - posted on 09/05/2009

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My advice...Consistancy is KEY! We did everything consistantly between home and daycare with my daughter, now 5 years old. We potty trained her in about a month to two month period when she was 2 1/2. Both her daycare provider and myself set a timer and when it beeped it was "Potty Time!"(every 15-20 min or so...adjust the time if they are wet between potty times, increase as they stay dry etc.) My daycare provider prefered training panties and plastic liners over them. We used Pull-Ups at home. She seemed to have no problem. Don't listen to people who say pull ups don't work and count them out. I believe it is just like everything else when it comes to kids...it works for some and not others. It may work for your child or it may not. Every child is different. They are worth a try. We told her that the princesses would be sad if she pottied on them and made the flowers disappear. My friends son used them too and we told him the same thing... that bob the builder would be sad if his tools disappeared so he couldn't go potty on them. It worked for us. Another biggie is make sure they think it is "THEIR idea!" If they get a sense that this is something that you want or that you are pushing them to do, they will buck it like crazy! Make it as "cool" or "fun" as possible. Offer prizes or stickers for accomplishments. Maybe even start a sticker chart to chart his progress. Maybe start a prize bucket with stickers, candy, or dollar store prizes for larger accomplishments. And don't be looking for overnight miracles! Boys are notorius for taking longer to potty train than girls. Oh, for when you are ready to teach him to "aim and shoot" I have heard Cheerios in the toilet to aim at work great!



I used to be a 3-year-old room preschool teacher. They were in my room from age 33 months til they were 4 yrs old. I had 1 child come to my room even partially potty trained, in the whole time I was a teacher. (The child was still in a pull up at nap time). I potty trained the rest of the children who came through my room using the timer and either training pants or pull ups (parent's choice). Don't feel too discouraged! Just keep the consistancy and...Good Luck!

Ines - posted on 09/05/2009

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Just put only underwear and a short on at home, in the beginning it is messy, but after a few wet bums he will get fed up . Make sure that also the potty is nearby (so that he always can go when he wants) After a while when it goes well, you can move the potty into the bathroom and all is done!

Susan - posted on 09/03/2009

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He just might not be ready...but my guess it is his way of controlling his world.....back off give him some space for a couple of weeks. Don't say anything...(that will be the hardest) then introduce the potty party. By whistles, balloons, confetti, and a prize...(use what you feel comfortable with but make it festive)...
anytime someone used the big toilet they get a party. At first he will watch then ask when he gets a party. Tell him the party is only for those who do something on the big boy toilet. Normally the child will then make their own decision (the key) to use the toilet.. the point is to make it as appealing as possible.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Susan

User - posted on 09/02/2009

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On Tyler's 3rd birthday, I put him on drawers and just kept him on the potty every 30-45 min. Its time comsuming but its worth it. Tyler had it down almost over the weekend. Don't use the pull-ups because he'll know they feel like a pamper. Tyler just sleep in pull-ups. Tyler did not like the feeling of being wet in his clothes. He's had very few accidents and he has never pooped in his drawers. Good luck and patience.

Amanda - posted on 09/02/2009

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Make sure you aren't using pull ups or diapers when you are trying to potty train. Even the pull ups that say they can feel it when they are wet don't work. They need to see that it makes a mess when they have an accident. Always reward him if he does do something in the potty. Don't worry though boys are hard to potty train.

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