How can I get my son to go to bed without me?

Vickie - posted on 09/19/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I made the mistake from the beginning of letting Daniel sleep with me. He is my last child and I just couldn't help myself. Now he is 4 1/2 and still will not go to sleep unless I am right beside him in bed. I did finally get him in his own room, but not without me. HELP

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Janeen - posted on 09/20/2009

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i laid a mattress next to my bed and everytime they tried to get in my bed i showed them the mattress and held their hands.They just wanted to know i was near them and eventually by about 6 they left me alone xx Love em all

Julie - posted on 09/19/2009

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What worked for me:

"Magic Mommy Dust". I don't really have any idea how I came up with it. I have 2 children (they were about 2 & 4 when Mommy Dust started).



Our bedtime routine became something like this: After brushing teeth, etc., I tucked the children into their beds. I would begin with the younger (my son) while my daughter was reading in her bed quietly. After turning off the light, praying and singing a few songs for him, I would tell him, "Ok, shut your eyes. I'm going to sprinkle mommy dust over you to help you sleep and have good dreams. If you open your eyes or speak, the dust won't work!" After his eyes were shut, I would clap my hands once and rub them together vigorously. I would then rub my fingers together over his face, head and body like I was sprinkling dust on him. He would hold soooo still, so not to break the "spell" of the dust. It was precious and worked wonderfully.



It worked great for both of my children (even though some nights I would have to go back in to "reapply" the dust).



Over the years, the kids enhanced the dust with flavor. I would get ready to sprinkle the dust and they would ask, "What flavor is it tonight, Mommy?" I made up fantastical flavors such as marshmallow, chocolate strawberry cream or candy cane for Christmas or Pumpkin-cinnamon for Thanksgiving. I would tell them to open their mouth (with their eyes sqeezed tightly shut the whole time) and "sprinkle" dust in their mouth. "Do you taste that peanutbutter-chocolate?" "Oh, yes mom! It is great!"



They are 10 and 12 now and would deny it, but every once in a very rare while after a particularly rough day, I still use "Mommy Dust".

Sara - posted on 09/19/2009

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Like anything, it's a gradual process. How long ago did you get him into his own room? If it's been a while, may I suggest sitting up instead of laying down w/him, then gradually making your time in the room less & less after that. Reassure him if he protests & remind him that nothing's changed - you're still there. Baby steps! I know that the Super Nanny & Nanny 911 devotees would say cold turkey & listening to him scream is the way to do it, but the above method worked for me. Every child likes alone time w/mom or dad at the end of their day! The 5-10 minutes I spend with my son at bedtime is when he tells me all the stuff he forgets to during the day, or what worries he has. Some nights I can't go in w/Damien but it's ok & he is fine w/it. Just my thoughts, for what they are worth. : ) Good luck!

J - posted on 09/19/2009

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when you get the answer please share! the only way i can get my daughter to go to bed w/o me being in here room is to let her watch tv til she falls asleep and that's a very bad habit!

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