How can i help my daugther with her homework? PLEASE HELP

User - posted on 10/30/2008 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I need an advise very soon because i'm going crazy and my girl too.

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Laurie - posted on 11/06/2008

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This is what we do in our home and it has been very helpful. It is from the Love and Logic Institute.

Guidelines for Helping With Homework
Don't Work Harder Than Your Child!
by Dr. Charles Fay

* Set aside a time each day for family learning.

Set aside at least 30 minutes, devoted to "family brain cell development." During this time, there should be no TV, video games, computer games, etc.

Model your own excitement for learning by reading a book, writing letters, etc.

Your child may learn by doing their homework, reading about something they love, writing stories, etc.

* Help only when your child truly wants it.

Some parents make the mistake of forcing help upon their kids. This only creates frustration, anger, and kids who believe they can’t learn without their parents’ help.

* Help only when there’s an absence of anger or frustration.

When either you or your child gets frustrated or angry, learning becomes associated with frustration and anger.

* Help only when your child can describe what the teacher said.

This ensures that your child continues to believe that it’s important to pay attention to teachers.

Unfortunately, some kids learn that it’s best to "tune–out" at school and let their parents do all of the teaching at home.

* Move away from your child before he/she "gets it."

Some children believe they can only learn something, or "get it," when an adult is in the same room…or is guiding them every inch of the way.

To prevent this dependency, avoid falling into the habit of sitting at the table as your child does their homework, especially when they are on the brink of learning something new.

THE CARDINAL RULE FOR HELPING:
Never Work Harder Than Your Child.

Kerry - posted on 11/05/2008

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Find a tutor for your daughter. I am a tutor in addition to being a teacher and the parents can't thank me enough for my services. The one on one attention will give her the help she needs and gives you back the time you require!

User - posted on 11/05/2008

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My son is 7 and a highly advance reader. He understands the work, he just has a hard time putting what he knows down onto paper. Thank you for all of your comments. I should try the 10-15 minute intervals, maybe it would help. At this time I'm am trying to get him an EA at school. He has a very limited attention span but he is so smart, he suprises me everyday. The doctor has diagnosed him with ADD this past year, I know many people have mixed feelings about ADD/ADHD but I am trying to do what is best for my son not for everyone else. Any advise is deeply appreciated.

Ashley - posted on 11/04/2008

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Hi Maria, I have a 7 year old daughter with a very short attention span and I am a mother with ZERO patience. Not a very good combination I know. Just last night we were struggling with rounding numbers. I was at my breaking point at trying to explain and she was getting more frustrated by the minute. I said let's take 5 minutes and do something else. I finished up some laundry and she picked her clothes out for today. We came back to it....and something clicked! She finally understood. I agree with the 10 minutes on 10 minutes off theory. It really does work.

Bridgett - posted on 11/04/2008

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I know I am a new mother myself but I have TONS of neices and nephews that are all enrolled in school. Whenever we are trying to do something that isnt so interesting to them i try to make it seem like i am WAY interested! Keep it up beat and use lots of positive reenforcement!! Kids want to know when they are doing a good job...they want to know they are on the right path! I make sure and give lots of compliments and help them set goals for themselves...It will also help later on give them the confidence they need to do it on their own! :) Make sure to keep it exciting for both you and your children...It is a great time to get that one on one time with them that all working moms crave! Good luck!

Meghan - posted on 11/02/2008

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Be consistent. Set up a specific time and place, have all supplies available. Also allow breaks between subjects or every 15/20 minutes, depending on your child's attention span.

Most schools also offer tutors either during or after school. These often are National Honor Society students and are at no colst. Best of luck!

Kelly - posted on 11/01/2008

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Maria, as a teacher and a mom, I have to say that homework should not be a challenge. It should just reinforce what she has already learned at school. The most important thing is that you read with her or let her read to you. I know that I always appreciate input and questions from parents, so talk to her teacher to see what she expects.

Jennifer - posted on 11/01/2008

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Hello there! I am also a teacher and have found with my own children, who are vastly different, that my daughter needs to come home from school, decompress, and then do homework. Even then, there are nights that "her brain hurts" and I have to chunk the information into 10-15 minute intervals. Work, break, work. I hope that helps. Our policy at our school is that in 3rd grade a child should have no more than 20 minutes of homework a night plus 10-20 minutes of independent reading. If you are experiencing more than that I would recommend speaking with the teacher.

Lisa - posted on 11/01/2008

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If you are having a bit of a language barrier, you may try a friend or neighbor that has the same age child as you do to help with the homework. I do this ofr my neighbors son and it has helped him tramendously. Talk to some of her friends in her class ans see if any of them live near you .

User - posted on 10/31/2008

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Thanks Shannon for your advise my daugther Nicole is 6 and is in 1st grade. I'm from Peru and is difficult sometimes to explain her homework using simple word that she can understand if you can help with some tips that will be so wonderful for us.

Shannon - posted on 10/30/2008

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Hi, I am a teacher-- how old is your child and how much homework does she have? A good rule of thumb is 10 min. per grade. Make sure she plays after school and has a snack first. Dont' expect a little one to be independent- you have to do it with her. Did you talk to the teacher yet? Maybe she'll be willing to work with you, provide extra help or a consequence so your not battling each other over it.

Cyndi - posted on 10/30/2008

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Hi Maria! How old is your daughter? My son, Will is 7 and in 2nd grade. Homework is a struggle for us already...not b/c he doesn't understand it...but just b/c his brain is tired from a full day at school he doesn't want to do anymore! I have been told by other friends that it doesn't get much better...they just get more independent.

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