How do I ease my 7 yr old back to sleeping in her room?

Lynn - posted on 01/19/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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She says she is very scared of us having a house fire, after they covered getting out of the house in a fire at school. She says her room is not close enough to the stairs. She is normally very brave and the school event has been many months ago. I think she is just using it as an excuse because she wants to sleep with her Mommy. How do I help here get over her fears with out the crying-until-she hyper-ventilates. My husband and I would really like to have some space back in our bed.

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Lisa - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi Lynn,

Something that has always worked for my three kids ( 5, 7, 9). They know that if they are scared or have a bad dream they are more than welcome to come to our room as long as they bring a pillow and blanket for the floor. They almost always stay for a short while and then go back to there own room. When we first started this rule our middle son didn't want to sleep in his room and we offered the floor in our room. He slept one night on our floor and decided his bed was much more comfortable.
Good Luck!
Lisa

Laura - posted on 01/23/2009

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Here's hoping for a kid-free bed! (thanks for the ideas to use when mine get older!)

Lynn - posted on 01/22/2009

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I am in the same boat with my 5 year old he is completly afraid of bad dreams, and the monsters getting him. Maybe it does have something to do with the items in his bedroom, we are planning on cleaning everything out and getting rid of some toys this weekend. Maybe that will help. He has never been into sticker charts.

Lynn - posted on 01/22/2009

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Thanks Laura. The sticker reward chart only lasted until she was 5. By age 6 we moved onto saving up points which has worked on everything but her sleeping in her bed.  However, I have good news. She slept in her room for two nights!  I cleaned her room while she was taking a bath. When she was getting her PJs on she looked around at her clean room and asked, "Am I sleeping in my room tonight?" I took the opportunity. Yes, I replied, It is very important for you to sleep in your bed so you can grow strong and tall.  I was playing on the fact that her cousin, who was born a the same time as her, grew about 2 inches since we saw her last and Rachel wants to be grow taller too.  Somehow it worked and I've had no crying at bed time. :-) I know she is due for a growth spurt soon. Here's hoping this change will last. - Best Wishes to all Moms out there.

Laura - posted on 01/20/2009

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We used a sticker chart for our 3 yr old and rewarded her with a "present" after 10 stickers (one each night she slept in her own bed). The present was a DVD. I don't have a 7 yr old, so I don't know if that would work for that age, or if a DVD would cut it for a present at that age!! Good luck, I know how you feel wanting to reclaim your space :)

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