how do i get my 4 year old to stay in her own bed without crying all night?

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have you tried a star chart? small prize for each night in own bed then large prize if does it for few days.. arry out regular night time routine, teling her that its time for big grils to go to their own bed and bath, read story reminding her at the end of whata big girl she is and prise if in bed. try it it worked for me. good luck.

Tracey - posted on 03/15/2009

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Tonight is the night! We will start telling her this afternoon i guess....  oh I know it's not going to be easy so I will start early, she is very stubborn as well! :)  Thank you

Tracey - posted on 03/15/2009

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Tonight is the night! We will start telling her this afternoon i guess....  oh I know it's not going to be easy so I will start early, she is very stubborn as well! :)  Thank you

Tracey - posted on 03/15/2009

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Tonight is the night! We will start telling her this afternoon i guess....  oh I know it's not going to be easy so I will start early, she is very stubborn as well! :)  Thank you

Tracey - posted on 03/15/2009

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Thankis Glenda, it's always nice to get the advice of someone mature in age and definitely wiser in this area. My other 2 children always slept in their beds so this is very new for me, even at 38 years old! Thanks again

Glenda - posted on 03/15/2009

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Tracy,
Bobbie and Emma have given you some good advice.
Went thru the same thing 30 years ago with my oldest son.
Stick firm to you nightly routine and if your child gets up in the middle of the night which mine did alot put them back to bed and tell them it's not time to get up yet.
Took mine about 4 nights of this and patience but we made it thru.
You just hang in there. Good Luck

Emma - posted on 03/15/2009

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My daughter is no where near the age of 4, but we have being using the supernanny method on our 20 month old girl since we changed over from a cot to a big girls bed. Which has now been for around 5 months.
We let her know with plenty of time that she will be going to bed soon. Once she is in bed, a story is read to her and then the lights go out. When she does get out of bed which can be over 20 to 50 times (well it used to be, we don't get it so much nowadays) we walk her back to bed, NO eye contact and the most important thing is no communication. Continue doing this and in the end they soon learn that they are not getting any attention and they will go to sleep. Same principal applies in the middle of night. Most nights we have our child going straight to sleep, if she does wake in the night it only now takes one walk back to bed and she will fall back to sleep.

Just keep in mind the first few nights may contain some sleepless nightsand some nights can take well over 2 hours to her settle down. It does pay off and the best adivce I can give after going through this with our daughter is try and remain calm. If you start showing your child that you are getting annoyed, it will only work her up more.

Its a hard process but I can say it does pay off, my daughter still likes to push the boundaries every few weeks in hope we will pay her attention, but soon works out that we are standing strong.

Good Luck and let us know if you are getting any joy!

Tracey - posted on 03/14/2009

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Excellent advice, I've seen Supernanny do that so I'm sure it'll work here. :)

Bobbie - posted on 03/14/2009

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I also sat my daughter down, the day we started & explained to her that she was a big girl now and at bed time this is what we are going to do.  I think that it helped her knowing what was going to happen before it actually took place.





Tracey - posted on 03/14/2009

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Thank yoy so much. I will definitely try it tomorrow... since it's too late now.! :)

Bobbie - posted on 03/14/2009

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I had that same issue with my daughter.  All I can say is be strong and don't give in.  I started sending her to bed a little early, we would read a story, then it was time for her to go to sleep.  After a couple nights she got used to the new routine, and we haven't had too many issues since.  GOOD LUCK!! I hope this helps!





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