how do i get my baby to sleep in her own bed for more then 15min.

Shirley - posted on 09/26/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my baby will sleep on you are next to you but as soon as you put her in her own bed she's wide awake and she'll start screaming not just crying. but screaming very loud

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Bosede - posted on 09/29/2009

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I can't leave mine to cry, I'll let hi snuggle in my arms, lay him down gently, of course he opens his eyes wide immediately and gets ready to cry out. I pat him whilst on the bed and hold him down gently so as to still feel my warmth then tiptoe out gently.

Rebecca - posted on 09/28/2009

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Put him to bed, clean and fed and then shut the door, let him cry. reassure him every 10 mins. Dont pick him up. By picking him up youre just telling him that when he cries you will get him. Just walk in the room and touch him. He will learn to settle himself. Tough love is the answer!! A tired parent is not good for anyone!! Hope this helps

Jannet - posted on 09/28/2009

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I think that every parent goes thru there child just wanting to be held.

Its just something that all us MOTHERS have to deal with, we just have to be strong.

i just let my son sleep in his own bed from 2weeks old, at first it breaks your heart, but you will cope with it.Just Be Strong!!

Sylvia - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter did the same thing. We spent the first 2 nights home from the hospital getting up to feed her or otherwise settle her down again every 15 minutes, and after that we decided that was really stupid and just let her sleep with us. We all got WAY more sleep that way, which is the whole point, right? I was still waking up a lot to nurse her, but after a few weeks she got some head control and we finally got the hang of nursing lying down, and after that nobody really had to wake up all the way unless a poopy diaper was involved.

I know co-sleeping doesn't work for everybody, but we ended up really enjoying it (and no, it didn't interfere with our sex life -- we happen to have a really comfortable living-room couch ;^) ...), and with a high-need baby I think you just have to do whatever works. Oh, and by the way that baby is 7 now and goes to sleep all on her own just fine :)

Kelly - posted on 09/27/2009

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You need to be strong and keep to the same routine, I have 4 year old twins and when they were about two they would scream when put into the cot. I told my mum and she said you have to be strong a(s others have said here) crying doesnt hurt them and the more you give in the worst it gets. I used to sit outside their room with my book and every few mins open the door show them I was only reading outside. One of my girls would really scream but after a few days she learned I was not giving in and then would go to bed with teddy without a problem. If you have a partner, try letting them put her to bed. I would often sob hearing thier screams but my husband would put them to bed and kept saying they are fine just testing you, its hard to realise it at the time but it is true. Even now we have some nights when they say there is monsters in the room and we stick to teddy is with you nothing is there and mummy and daddy only watching tv. Keep with it x

Diane - posted on 09/27/2009

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I also had the same problem. It took a few nights but eventually is works. All I did was put her to bed in her own bed, give her a special stuffed animal or something to sleep with so she wasn't lonely. Then I told her that she was a big girl now and big girls sleep in their own beds. She did cry non-stop for hours but I just kept checking on her and telling her the same thing over and over again. Consistency is key. It will take a few days. Crying does not hurt children, especially babies but that is how they develop their lungs. Hope I have been of some assistance to you. :-)

Claudia - posted on 09/27/2009

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I had the same problem with my son! Since my husband left to the Navy when the baby turned 1 he would sleep in bed with me but when daddy came back home i had to teach my son how to sleep in his bed i first explained to him that that was mommy and daddys bed and that the toddler bed was his and he had to sleep in it. It took about 3 nights of non stop crying and yelling and screaming but every time he would try to get in bed with us i would simply tell him the same thing and put him in his bed. It will be very hard but it will happen good luck!

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I had the same problem!!!
I could not leave him crying though. I settled him to sleep in my arms and then I'd sorta lay him in his cot but not let go. He'd wriggle then settle again. So I'd wait till he stopped then place him on the mattress still holding him. When he settled a bit more I'd move my arms but hold his shoulders tight against him so he didnt startle.

A music mobile also helped. :)

It took a while and occasionally i'd have to pick him up and try again but presistence worked.

Is her cot in your room? When I moved my son into his own room he slept through the night.

Tiffany - posted on 09/26/2009

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I had the same problem with my daughter. What i did was put her in her bed and just let her cry. I did check on her every few min but i would say after about 8-10 min she would fall asleep. If she would still be crying by 10 min then pick her back up rock her for a few min then place her back in her bed and repeat the time. I know it sounds bad but it actually works. I had my mom here because she didn't believe me that my daughter wouldn't sleep without me and she told me what to do. You might have to repeat it over and over a few times but trust me she will fall right asleep.

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