How do I get my son to sleep in his own bed?

Kelly - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am a full time working mom and I can't stay up and listen to him cry all night in his own bed. But I would really like him to sleep in his own room...help....

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Indy - posted on 01/23/2009

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i have had the same problem...i guess its a stage that 3 year olds go through....i have to get better about putting him back in his own bed...i am just so tired at night i let him do it....he is so smart he even brings his own pillow in my room....then I wake up and soemtimes he puts himself back to his own bed....but in the near future there will be more structure to make all of our lives easier...

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our son did the same thing, i would take him into our bed when he cried and then my hubby and i could not sleep then. We left him cry it out, it took a good week and loud cries but he mostly sleeps through the night. If it is bad i will take him out to the chair in the living room and rock him back to sleep but not much. he is almost 2 and does so much better now

Karen - posted on 01/21/2009

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I am having the same problem with my 3yr old daughter, to no fault but my own because I have given in to her so many times before. I have made a game with stickers. If she sleeps in her own bed all night and wakes up in her bed the next morning, she can have a sticker. When she gets 3 stickers (that is the number she knows the best), she can get a lollie pop. We have not made it to the lollie pop yet but she is at least making an effort to stay in her bed at night. When she gets up in the middle of the night, I remind her of the sticker and the lollie pop and she gets back in her bed. We are working on the staying there part and we have cut out all of the crying and tantrums at 1, 2, 3, in the AM. I hope this helps :)

Sara - posted on 01/21/2009

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Yeah, I can only echo the comments below, it's tough to start with...a week when you are nearly ready to cry yourself, but after that...bliss! When mine were little I was a Manager of c 45 bedded care home, and some mornings I hradly knew up from down, but like Kelly, Yvonne and Maureen have said, you go through, don't speak, settle them and leave. They cry to start with, but they eventually suss you are there and will come when needed!

Good luck!

Sara

Maureen - posted on 01/21/2009

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We had the same problem with the boys. We bought a new bed set and changed their room around. Jared goes to bed without a problem, but Zach still has issues.

They won't fall asleep at all, we have to give them melatonin everynight. It helps them fall asleep with no side effects.

And we tried to make every evening the same routine. We've slipped up on that a few times, need to get back into it. Like bath time, snack, and they always want to do something to gether. It's hard at first leaving them, but it's something they have to learn. I saw on the Super Nanny that it's ok to go back into the room if they are crying and getting up, but just put them back in bed and sit on the floor in the dark and not make eye contact. It seemed to really work for that family. And I think they only had to do it like one night.

Yvonne - posted on 01/21/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

How do I get my son to sleep in his own bed?

I am a full time working mom and I can't stay up and listen to him cry all night in his own bed. But I would really like him to sleep in his own room...help....



I know it is a really hard thing to do. When my son decided he wasn't going to sleep in his own bed I made a concious choice to except the fact that I was going to be exhausted at work for a week and bit the bullet so to speak and what I found worked for me was just total "tough love" when he would get into bed with us I would not say a word to him, pick him up and put him in his bed, & walk out.  The first couple of nights it went on for 2 hrs, but by the third night  he would yell for me and I would not say a word but go in and make sure nothing was wrong( again not saying a word) and walk out and go back to bed and we had the habit kicked in 5 nights! Now he sleeps throught the night and everybody is happier in the morning.  I did a lot of reseach on the best methods to handle this and just knowing my boys I knew this was probably the best way to handle it and I was right, for once. I took a lot of heat from friends & family that I wsa being cruel but it was me that was up all night and I didn't hear any of them offer to come over at 3 in the morning and try something different, so stick with what is right for you and you will succeed!



Let me know how you make out.



Yvonne

Helen - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi Kelly



ive had the same problem with my twin girls they are 3. 1/2 yrs old and they've only just started to sleep through the night .



To be honest it was our fault that they keep waking up because i was so desperate for sleep i used to take them to our bed when they woke up through the night so they got used to doing it.



But one day we decided that it had to stop so every time they woke through the night i got up with them and put them straight back in their room it was hard listening to them crying but that only lasted a few weeks  then it was every other night that they woke up now its only once a week you have to keep going and not let your baby win that was my mistake from the start.



I can now say that when im a work AT LAST i can concentrate on what im supposed to be doing instead of falling asleep at my desk.

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