how do i stop tempertantrums!please

Michelle - posted on 01/20/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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every where we go everything we do my 2 year old daughter has one she screams headbutts nything she even makes her self sick by getting so worked up she hits spits and is getting worse please help!!!

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Laurie - posted on 01/20/2009

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My daughter will be four in a month.  She can throw some major temper tamptrums.  I noticed that usually she is either tired or hungry when she does this.  With my son I just ignored him the first time.  The second time I just looked at him sternly and said "Get Up."   He got up and stopped, never did it again.  With my daughter it has been a two year long battle.  She does not do this at school or church, just with me (occassionally dad).  My husband sends her to her room until she can behave and that works.  However, again with me it is different.



I have lately taken the approach of picking her up and directing her attention away from what it was that put her in the mood to start with.  I talk in a very happy and cheerful voice.  Within a few seconds it is over.  Sometimes I think it is more for my undivided attention than anything else.



As far is spitting.  Pick her up and take her into another room where she can't see you.  Tell her that if she wants to spit she can do it in her room.  That you don't like that behavior.  Remind her she is a good girl, and good girls don't spit.  The same if she hits.  Maybe this will help.  it never hurts to try.  The main thing is don't let her see you upset or angry.  This will only reinforce the reaction she wants from you.

Leslie - posted on 01/20/2009

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I always ignored my boys when they done that. I told them that I would not speak to them again until they were acting like should. They usually stopped quickly because they wanted my attention. I know girls are alittle more dramatic then boys but you could try it and see.

Laura - posted on 01/20/2009

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My daughter Alice is 20 months and i've been there and it's not nice. I think it is just frustration! We started using the naughty step when she was about 15 months old, young i know but we found the only way to stop the tantrums and stop her hurting herself was to take her out of the situation and let her calm down. It definately worked for us and touch wood the tantrums are now well and truley under control. Hope this helps.

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