How do you balance??? all opinions welcomed please...

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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If you have any advice it would be greatly appreciated...I'm newly divorced...custodial parent of my two kids..who are fantastic..love you guys!!!..and i'm becoming successful at my career. Does anyone have any good advice on how to successfully balance a fulltime job...raising two kids..daycare...keeping your house clean....I'm just slowly getting lost in the whole shuffle of daily life...I don't know if maybe a schedule works best?? because my work isn't a set schedule day to day or even week to week...its hard to revolve anything around it...I'm just a bit overwhelmed so any advice is welcomed...thank you all...

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Annette - posted on 08/05/2009

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Breathe, and remember you need time for yourself. It will help to clear your mind and start fresh. A nice bubble bath ( at midnight...lol) glass of wine and a good book, or whatever makes you feel good. It will all work out at the end of everyday. Been there, kiss your kids every night! and enjoy they grow fast, the dishes can wait.

Anasha - posted on 08/04/2009

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I agree with what everyone has said. I am a single mom of only one and live with my guy. I work 50+ hours and I come home every night and cook, clean, and do my motherly and girlfriend roles. By the end of the night I am exhausted. But as everyone has told you, time management is going to be your best friend. If you have to get a calendar, as Hayley said, or an organizer to keep with you, its going to be your best friend. Once you develop a routine then you will be okay. Its just developing that routine that works for you and your family. Its always good to straighten up at night. And make the crockpot your best friend. I cook so many different meals in my crockpot which saves me so much more time at night. Cook it on low all day and when you get home dinner is ready.

Julie - posted on 07/28/2009

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For me work/life balance means doing what you have to do first and what you want to do next. I work 50+ hours a week and travel several days each month. I used to be a perfectionist and finally had to decide if it truly mattered if a dish was left in the sink at night. I think the balance is sometimes you have to give 75% to work and only have 25% left for home and other days it's the opposite. So trying not to be all things to everyone everyday. My son is 7 and only within the last year have I finally gotten to this perspective in my life. Prior to this I was stressed all the time and not enjoying any of life. I realized that life is way to short and I didn't want to wake up and my son be in college and wonder where the time went. SO now I try to truly enjoy special time with him everyday. Some days that might only be 15 minutes of special time but other days it's a couple hours. Hang in there!

Deborah - posted on 07/28/2009

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I love Hayleys comments as a woman already in your shoes. Most important thing is not to waste time worrying. You will get stressed, the children will feel it, you wont perform your best with work and it will make you ill and over whelmed.Good advice about the washing up and the washing machine. I also make sure the beds are made. treat yourself to a cleaner once a month to blast the place and maybe get down your ironing pile!!

Shop in bulk or on line....and just do a small local weekly shop for fresh fruit and veg.....how many times are you too exhausted to think about the food you have in and what to cook?

I always write lists in my diary including the smallest things so that I dont forget and can tick them off...I also check the day befores incase I didnt get around to something. I always had two emergency back up people who were available if there was a need when I was working and couldnt get back to my children.

Being a businesswoman you will be able to analyse the overwhelming factors on paper. Write lists about which bit is overwhelming you, find shortcuts and make priorities.

Dont be afraid to ask for help from family, friends and other mums.....you will be able to return the favour one day. I used to have mini parties and invite a small group of children over every few months...it was fun and they knew it was my way to say thanks to the mums who helped me out sometimes as I was unable to return the favour in any other way. As an older mum now I enjoy helping other friends who have small children and can see how I can support them and I always support other mums but when I cant I say no. You maybe a single mum but dont be afraid to ask dad to help, out of scheduled visit times, particularly if it is work related as it is in the childrens and his best interest that you are supported in your work.

Relax and enjoy each aspect of your life and dont forget the You time! The fact that your job is not scheduled is a bonus because you will get to see school plays and events that some working mums struggle to attend. After the school drop off one morning why not invite some mums for coffee and get a friendship circle.

I hope you manage to get the balance you are looking for. with kindest regards Deborah

Hayley - posted on 07/27/2009

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Time manegement babe!!! thats the only way!!! I have 4 children aged 11, 8, 5 and 3 and I work full time as a behaviour specialist in a school. The kids are at school and or in child care and th eonly way it works is preparation angel! prepare the night before to make mornings easier, ensure u have the best childcare possible. Be structured and timetabled!!! use a calender for times and locations... who to where and why!! do a load of washing daily and always clean up before bed!! it will get easier, as working Mum and as a woman I promise you!!! and dont beat yourself up... it will all fall into place and when its Daddy time u will be SOOO up to date you can have some YOU time!!! woo hoo , Hayley xoxoxox

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